Hello guys,

I have been going out with a girl for a few months now and things are starting to turn sour.

When we first started going out things seemed so good. Got off to a great start, but it seems like this wonderful woman that I met is splitting in two different directions. On one hand she is even more amazing, so sweet and caring and very thoughtful. She is so sexy and gorgeous- i really really fancy her there is no question about that. However, she is needy. I think she is quite insecure and doesn't realise the pressures she puts me under. She is constantly asking me these stupid hypothetical questions that put me in really shit positions where i'm damned if i say yes and i'm damned if i say no.

Example:

GF- Babe, what would happen if you were offered a job abroad, would you go?
ME- Depends, if the deal was right then maybe I would why?
GF- Where would you go?
ME- Australia or Canada maybe.
GF- I don't want to go to Australia or Canada...does that mean you would just leave me and go?
ME- Not necessarily...
GF- What do you mean not necessarily?!
ME- We could work something out if you care for me as much as you say.
GF- [getting all stroppy] I don't wanna talk about it.

She has asked similar questions like if i got her pregnant how could she trust me not to leave her and would we ever get married and stuff like that.

She is giving me the impression that she can actually be quite delusional esp about the whole marriage thing. I have told her countless times that people watlz in and out of marriage like its no big deal and when divorce gets filled it is ALWAYS the men that get hit the hardest! Sometimes I wonder what the fuck is going on in her head and that she thinks life is one big fairy tale with a happy ending. Lately I have been feeling so consumed by her, I dunno if its the time of the month or if we are reaching a new stage in our relationship but sometimes I feel like if I open my mouth I will do something to upset her.

I don't want to leave her, even though she puts me in difficult positions i really like her and i don't want to hurt her but i wish she would stop with the bullshit hypothetical questions!

What's guy to do?

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hootsmon

Don't be serious with her if she brings it up. Give her a joky response and if she ploughs on with it just say "Well if it happened I guess we'd have to discuss it"

My ex used to asked me questions like "Which one of my friends is the hottest". What I heard was "I fancy a fight". So since I'm fucked either way I said "well Shannon's the prettiest but Lily does that thing with her tongue"

To me it just sounds like your girl's really insecure.

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The rules of the game can get you laid, loved, married, immortalised. They can also get you betrayed, dumped, depressed, stalked, beaten, stabbed, shot.

Handle them with care.

And if she says to you 'if I was to organize a threesome for your birthday which of my friends would you choose'

DO NOT give two names!!!

hahaha

isn't that just a shit test?