This is an interesting one...

I have recently had a few set backs, and I use to post about a lot of negative aspects of my life in this forum and I am proud to say that I am definitely making progress.

One thing about when it comes to me and girls is, I am super picky about the ones I want to be with, and I like a challenge and thats what attracts me to the girl.

Anyways, When I was in high school there was this girl 2 years younger than me, and she is beautiful and I have always thought it. She is very friendly and still a virgin, and very sweet and kind but funny and laid back.

In school when I was a senior, I spoke to her very rarely but when I did it was always joking around.

2 years later, she is in her senior year, me my second of university, and she lives where my home is where I go and visit each holiday. I added her on bbm, and we have been talking non stop for the past week, but its not jujst like any converstaion. We have so much in common, flirting non stop, joking around, sharing stories, saying things which we havent said to others. She is something a bit special and I have always thought it and ironically enough I am talking to her everyday.

Cutting to the chase, I see the girls around me and I know what I am capable of, and I dont like what is around me. But I do like this girl a lot, and I definitely would date this girl. She is in Europe, me North America, I know i know, but I go back to Europe every holiday and in the future we might be near each other.

THE GOAL: I want to remain good contact with her, and want her for the next 3 months to constantly want to be talking to me, and interested, like she is NOW, but I know this could easily die out, do you have any advice to keep her on the interested end, how to make her think more about me as she said today she has been on and off.

Cheers,

Limit contact. Think about the situation from her perspective and ensure that receiving a message from you is a reward; something she looks forward to. The last thing you want to do is run out of things to talk about before you meet up for the first time. After you meet for the first time, you can ease out of this controlled state of communication since there will be more elements working in your favor.

Thats great advice. We have been talking non stop everyday, and in fact the past 2 days I have been the one who was more 'soft' and 'sweet' when talking to her, and she did appreciate it. I was thinking tomorrow that I read her messages and dont reply to her, although it will be very hard to do.

What could I say to her after that which will make her even more interested

Ignoring a few messages every so often is an effective game to play, but make sure you don't make it too obvious that you're ignoring her for that reason alone. You can break the lack of contact by responding like normal. Don't apologize for taking awhile to respond or anything. If she asks what took so long, just tell her you were busy doing whatever comes to mind (or what you were actually doing).

Do you suggest ignoring her for the whole of tomorrow or a large part of it.

Why do you think ignoring is such a effective method to use, and does it work even though long distance

Don't set time constraints on it so mechanically. Just keep yourself busy and respond at your leisure. The point isn't to blatantly ignore her, but instead limit the amount of communication to keep her wanting more to sate her appetite until you can meet up with her. The effectiveness is twofold: 1) you are letting her know you're a busy guy and aren't glued to your phone 24/7 and waiting for her to message you and 2) you are ensuring that you won't run out of things to talk about.

Yes, this works from a long distance, but not quite the same way. We aren't talking about going full "no contact" or freezing her out or anything like that. Those elements aren't even applicable to this situation, obviously.