I'm currently in a relationship which has lasted for 4 months. Before hand I was at my peak in terms of the game, seeing multiple girls a month and fucking the majority of them. This was something I envisioned doing for a very long time, before maybe settling down when the time was right. I started seeing a HB9 and ended up in a relationship with her. On the face of it I'm a committed boyfriend and a reformed player, but in reality I'm yearning to be back in the game. I found a sense of belonging in going out and fucking girls and now that's gone, so it could be argued I'm mourning the loss of something that was integral to me.

I really don't know what to do and would appreciate some input. Apologies if this comes across as senseless rambling, I'll elaborate on anything if it doesn't make sense.

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I've got 99 problems but...

I went through the exact same thing. I missed gaming when I got into a relationship and had a few close calls, although never cheated.

Make sure she's worth it. That's my sole advice. If she's not then you will resent the relationship and remain craving your previous lifestyle.

However if she is what you are looking for (looks, sex life, intelligence, humour, outlook, values, life goals) everything is different. I call this the game changer. I'm a year in, in love, and couldn't be happier. I look back at picking up girls in a bar and although it's excited it simply doesn't compare to the depth of connection I have with my lady and the many positive effects it's had on my life. Pickup and a committed relationship are two completely different things. Know what you are after.

Seems to me maybe just a classic case of a guy wanting to fuck other girls.

If you like her a lot and she's great and you just miss fucking other chicks, my advise to you is to tell her you're having a hard time dealing with monogamy and that you need her help quenching some urges. If you're anything like me, you never, NEVER, think about the girl you want to fuck tomorrow night when your dick is going in and out of the girl your fucking right now. If that's not true for you, then dump her so she can move on. If it is true for you, then be honest. Who knows, maybe she's a really kinky one deep down too and that will come out when you bring it up.

Good luck.

No complex answers required. Do you want to fuck girls or do you want a relationship?

you know, you can still "game" other girls and not bang them.

i know that sounds weird, but a lot of times just the rush of knowing that you could and the positive attention and attraction is enough to make you feel invigorated. never stop flirting. even if you have a girlfriend.

or, consider an open relationship.

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