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She wants you to work at getting her back, Period!

Girls go through a cycle when they do not feel like the ones who initiated a break-up. She is feeling you out to see if you will take her bait.

If you go back right now you will be in the same place you were in that caused the break-up in the first place.

You have to figure out what "YOU" want and move in that direction!


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

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I can't possibly know how to answer that as I don't know the reason for the break-up, but if you want her back then initiate contact and start moving in that direction! If she was doing stuff that caused you to break-up with her, then address it "I don't like how you do X, if you can't stop doing X then I am not going to stick around". If she stops then you are good, if she does not, then drop her ass again.

Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

The reason for her to break up with me was because some reasons

-She thinks i see her more as just a "buddy" and not as a girlfriend and thinks im only with her for the sex

-She says i show too little interest in her and around that path
-We had a huge fight a couple months ago and i got really drunk and screamed at her and her friend, she said she's still not over this and always has it in the back of her mind.

So most of the part its really my fault but i don't see her as a girlfriend just to have sex with, the reason she thinks this is because everytime we hang out we're watching a movie and have sex afterwards, yes it gets repetitive but she has no money to do other stuff and i don't want to pay for her always unless im rewarding good behaviour (wich the last couple of days/weeks wasn't really there)

Dude, I think maybe you are gaming your "girlfriend"...Once you get into a relationship you need to stop gaming the girl! It is ok to spend some money on her and do stuff, especially if your income is much greater than hers. It is not good if you are always doing for her, but she never does for you. Some examples are: She can make plans and do stuff that is not expensive, she can cook you a meal, give you a massage, etc...It is more about her effort than it is about her monitary cost (Do not suggest these things, she needs to take the inititave).

You cannot undo what you did when you yelled at them, so tell her that! "I can't undo how I acted that night, it was not my best moment".

Step 1: Talk to her
Step 2: See what happens

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Ok thanks dude!

Would it maybe be a good idea to tell her "yes my mom wants the ring back" then meet with her so she can give me the ring and ill say that i dont want the ring but want to talk to her about it, or just talk via text and see what happens? Should i tell her i want to get back together and do more nice stuff tgether or something?

I just talked to her

Me: no i told you you can keep the ring of you like it, but it would be a waste if u didn't wear it
Ex: no i like it
Me: ok then you can keep it!
Ex: okay
Me: so how are you doing?
Ex: i'm fine, you?
Me: me too, i still think it sucks what happened between us, but
Other than that im good
Ex: yeah me too but yeah
Ex: ok good

Haven't responded yet, i feel an opening here but not quiet sure about how to respond

Is this all texting? You could cut to the chase a lot quicker if you call.

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Yes this is texting, i felt like i needed to respond after the last text so i did a couple hours later ( was at a friend's house)

"Btw i saw and read that card you gave me for valentine haha, made me think about all the nice things we did"

don't really like the reply but had to say something because it would be awkward if i just ignored her .


But when you say "cut to the chase" what do you exactly mean by this? Should i tell her i want to get back together and fight for her or something?

extended conversations via text of that sort send a needy vibe,

simply because the time and effort that it takes to have a "conversation" via text is massive.

what would be a thirty second conversation turns into hours of back-and-forth via text.

i never "converse" via text.

texting is for sending a quick message.

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Talking face-to-face, or even over the phone, you obviously hear the person and pick up on pauses, sighs, laughs, tones. When you ask someone a question, they take seconds to answer it. Whereas with text, they can take minutes or hours or days and give you some yearbook answer that doesn't necessarily give you a heads-up on how someone feels. For all you know, she could just be bored and milking compliments and nostalgia out of you to boost her own mood.

I'm not advocating something as outright as saying, "I want to get back with you", but you're talking to this girl with your thumbs. Call her up.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Ok thanks, ill give her a call, by the way, i had this conversation with her before i read your reply's on texting

Me: Btw was reading that card you gave me for valentine, made me think of all the fun stuff we did before
Ex: Yeah i read that one too
Ex: The one you gave me
Me: What a coincidence, what did i write in that one again?
Ex: *story how i gave her a card for valentine via her school because the school did a project with it blabla*
Ex: Was funny and sweet back then
Me: Yeah i kinda miss that
Ex: Yeah i miss that period as well


so she does seem kinda interested in getting back i think.. Ill give her a call soon and see what happens, not sure what to say but i guess ill just go with the flow

Corsten.

You are doing the same fucking i-love-the-card-you-gave-me-for-valentine crap that caused you to lose her.

Wake up dude.
If you want her back, something has to change.

What you want to achieve, she must feel things when she thinks of you.

Not, "i don't want my ring back", that makes her feel nothing.

Ignore her -> that makes her feel she lost you.
Flirt with other girls that she can see -> that makes her feel jealousy.
do fun things -> that makes her feel missing out.

As long as she's not feeling it, she's not coming back, stop fucking txting that crap

Succes jongen, komt goed!

Quit that crap texting
Or you date her and try to get back together. (Hey, want to go to that party/bar and go from there)
Or you quit doing that shit, doesn't make you happy if you are honest with yourself.