Those who say never to snoop... well that idea has finally hit home:

My GF goes in the shower... I have no reason to feel paranoid but yet STILL I decided to read her texts to her friend (we'll call her Friend1)...why? To be honest I was being nosey, not looking for anything bad but just curious to see girl talk


The texts I will now para-phrase from memory but were from around 2.00PM Thursday

Friend1 was talking about their mutual friend (Friend2) who has been having some issues with her ex involving him moving on but still sleeping with her.

Friend1 is on vacation:

Friend1: What is up with her? Anymore drama went on while I've been away? Its really hot here blah blah blah

GF:Haha I dont know, no not a lot. I am so jelous! The weather is ok here but not the same as South America I bet. blah blah... yeah just going for some secret sex

Friend1: Yeah it is lovely here, oh yeah enjoy cos you keep wanting to go back there!


These texts were sent when my GF was on the train going home. I had been with her that day and she had to go home because she was feeling unwell from her period.

- Genius here reads the texts wrong and just focused on the sarcasm exchange between the two...

I WAS SO SO CLOSE TO CONFRONTING HER WHEN SHE LEFT THE SHOWER!

If ever a lesson was needed not to snoop, this is it. What the hell I could have caused major arguments over nothing.

So now I learn my lesson, I feel guilty for even looking.

Do I tell her and apologise? Or just forget about it and learn my lesson.

Thanks

Don't tell her, that would solve nothing.

I'm glad you learned your lesson. Snooping is never worth it.

Unless the guilt will just weigh on your conscience till the day you die, I wouldn't tell her. You learned your lesson, entertained the PUA community with your story, now there's no need to cause any unneccessary arguments between your girlfriend and you.

snooping is worth it, if your instincts are strongly indicating treachery.

at that point, you can just go with your instinct and leave her.

or you can find evidence, and confront her with it.

but snooping just for the sake of snooping is self-defeating.

i snooped AFTER my ex started acting funny.

yep,

- facebook
- pogo
- phone records
- keylogger

found out she was fucking other dudes and even fucked one the night of my birthday.

guess what?

took the evidence, confronted her with it, taped the entire conversation, even the part where she admitted being a horrible mother and being the cause of all the problems in my house, got a lawyer, and got full custody of my child without an ounce of fight from her.

there is a time to snoop.

not snooping when your instinct tells you something is wrong is about as stupid as not looking over your shoulder when you sense someone following you in the bad part of town.

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Don't tell her and count yourself lucky that you didn't confront her.
I advocate snooping. It just feels good as long as you don't get caught.

to me it seems girl talk... much like you and your buddies commenting hot chicks on the street. I would never confront my GF over this

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Damn, Mack. Way to take control of that FUBAR situation.

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