So i broke up with my girlfriend of about 5 months. We had gotten really close and spent a lot of time together, but with her moving back home and us only seeing each other 2 times a month along with her starting to talk to her ex everyday, it just didn't work out between us.

While she started talking to her ex again, we started fighting a lot about it and things starting falling apart fast...i took the advice from you guys here and decided to end it with her and i am confident i made the right choice.

However, upon us breaking up she left some of her personal belongings at my house, i asked what she wanted me to do with them and she said put it out front of my house. So i put her stuff out front along with everything she's given me(bears, cards, special items, ext) just so i can get it out of my life and not have to deal with it anymore.


Was this too AFC of me? should i have just thrown the shit out on my own instead of throwing it back in her face? I feel guilty now after reading a status that she posted about it, but i am in the process of moving on so i don't really care anymore...i am just curious so i know for future occurrences.

Also, what is the best approach you guys take for moving on? I've been going to the bars and talking to other women to get my mind off of her, but i don't think its fair if i go out and bang a chick after only being broken up for a week. What protical do you guys follow?

I would have gone for you left items X, Y and Z at my place. wanna come and pick them up?

if she says she doesn't care, do whatever you want, throwing them away included. if she says yes, since you do not care, let her pick a time and as long as it's OK for you, just go for it (no need to act busy here).
personally, I never throw gifts or memorable objects from past significant others. they are memories, part of my identity. I keep them as such. of course, they are not in plain sight, since I do not need to be reminded of my exes daily. but they are home, not in the garbage.

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everything depends on what your goals are.

if you truly don't care and plan on moving on, then don't worry about it (as you said)

but for future reference, it does tend a little toward AFC because it is REACTIONARY.

being reactionary means being "affected" by a female.

but an alpha male is rarely "affected".

next time, just put the shit in a box and toss it or put it away for some rainy day when she shows up on your doorstep looking for strange dick, so you can pull it out and woo her with your romantic side.

lol

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thanks for the feedback guys. To clear it up, she left some toilette trees at my place so i asked if she wanted them back and she said yes. What i didnt ask her was if she wanted the gifts that she got me. She got me a ticket to a concert and a bunch of other things over the months and i included them in the bag of stuff that she originally wanted back.

Like you guys said, i just wanted to get it out of my life so i can move on and so i wont have to look at it everyday and have it bring back memories. So in all, i think i did the right thing, she just overreacted i want to say and didnt know why i gave the other stuff back.

Oh and the funny thing to top it all off is that she is out camping with her ex right now. What a liar....gotta love women!

yes, she is getting dicked hard while you are considering the most effective way to handle her.

next .......

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!