Okay so first of all I never really had a relationship that lasted, because im very picky and can't seem to focus on just one girl, because i text and see a lot of 'em at the same time. However this time, I don't want to end up losing.

This story begins in end of may, I was at the house with 2 girls (dated them both a long time ago, now we just hang out and do stuff sometimes lol), and they gave a small party, and another 4 girls came along (and some random guys). One of these girls instantly looked me in the eye and i felt a certain connection. We sat next to eachother for the rest of night.

Couple of weeks later after hanging out for like 3-4 times, we had sex. However, when we were done, she almost cried and told me that she had a boyfriend. I was like, okay why didnt u tell me earlier? And she was telling me that their relationship almost lasted a year. She's a very sweet girl with a soft personality, and this boyfriend guy is your typical chump (who i know by coincedence, making it even more akward).

Anyways, after we talked for a couple of hours, she told me that it didnt work out for them anymore and that she wanted to break up. It has been broken a couple of times already, but she just wanted to make things right over and over.
In this long talk, I told her that she had to make a choice because I already was spending a lot of time with her, and that's not a thing I normally do. (YES, it is an AFC anwser, but I really like this girl.)

A couple of days later she texted me that she had broken up, but that she didnt want to ''go as fast'' as we earlier had done. I think this was a fucking shit test so I did a push/pull thing where i didnt reply as much on her texts etc, and claimed to be unavailable when she wanted to hang out with me.

For the last 2 weeks however, we hung out a lot, and started doing things again, we didn't have sex again yet, but that will be done soon again.

BUT!
The last couple of days, I saw the name of her ex in her phone. She is still texting him, but i didn't say anything about it so that i pretend i don't know this.
I know she really likes me too, but when i checked her facebook today i saw a post of her mom with some random message, and her ex replied with 'im eating along today!'.
I just texted her, but didnt have a reply the whole night. The girls she hangs out with are hanging out without her and i think he had dinner with her family again and still hangs out with her at this moment.

I usually dump a girl if this would happen, but i like this girl too much to don't care. It looks like he wants her back or something, and because i've done too emotional and AFC like she maybe still have too much feelings for him.

So my question is, what should I do? Should I just ask her whenever I see her or should i go on pretending like i don't know anything. It could be im all wrong and she isn't going back to him, but i don't like this position.

I could also ask her friends (as i know them longer and since they're girls they probably hear everything from her). They basicly hooked me up with her so they have no interest in lying to me.

HELP ME OUT GUYS, NEVER BEEN IN SUCH A FUCKING SITUATION AND THIS IS DRIVIN ME CRAZY.

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Get rid of her! All women have the potentially to cheat but some more then others! and this girl seems to be a class A whore (no offense), yeah her bf might be a chump but she lied to both of you! she didn't even tell you she had a bf until after you banged her! most women will put up some resistance and shit test you by saying I have a bf, and a good pua will get past that, but she didn't even do that!

Trust me man you think its hard now? wait til she cheat on you!

rule 1# Don't get in LTR with girls who have bf's, be their fuck budies but don't be their bf!

My advice (and I have been at this a long time!) ditch her, don't invest anymore time in this chick! she has baggage, or daddy issues or something that clouds her judgment!

It sounds like this girl is very confused about who she is and what she wants to the point that it can change almost daily. If you want to hop on to that roller coaster ride, you may get sick to your stomach. Just realize the behavior she's showing you says a lot about what you can expect from her and unless she is serious about changing she isn't going to do so anytime soon.

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She won't change, don't try to change people! Just get out now before you get hurt! you think is painful now? wait until she cheats on you and you are the "chump", Its a really bad sign when you can get a girl to cheat that easy without her putting up any resistance at all! and you not knowing she had a boy friend!

Not only that it shows her lack of respect for you, she lied to you, acted like she was single until she got what she wanted at which point she cried and said "I have a bf", does that sound like someone you can trust?

Stop letting her play with you head! there are billions of other women out there and you can have any of them!

Yeah you guys are right. Will man the fuck up again and on the next.

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Good for you man! Its not easy to let a girl you really like go but its for the best! Be strong, be alpha, and learn from your mistakes!

Yeah man so true. I think ive been way to sweet for her because of feelings. Never really had such a girl since years..

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A year is a long time to be with someone, especially for a woman i would imagine. There's obviously something wrong with her relationship, quite possibly hes not the best in bed, but we'll never know. Despite that fact she feels a connection to this guy and he's obviously close with her family which doesn't help anything. There's other variables we can't see here going on with her, and she is fairly young I'm guessing.

I would leave her be, if they break up for good without you in the mix then go in. Or you could even keep trying if you can deal with the emotional turmoil or your end. If not then let her go, move on.

Once a cheater always a cheater is a good motto 95% of the time. So expect to be cheated on by her. Unless this other guy is really not making her orgasm whatsoever and/or is completely needy/dependent which again, we don't know.
Girls are fucking crazy.

Thanks man. Yeah she's almost 19. Your post is like the whole situation. Dude came over a lot prolly so has a good connection with their family. The reasom why it was broken multiple times is because he treats her like shit. And imagine a young girl gettin in such a relationship at that age.

Spoke her today about the whole situation, she said that she talked to this ex and said she needed time or whatever. When she told me this i instantly gave her a story like "make ur choice because i dont want to spend any effort in something in which doesn't succeed anyways". Also told her some shit about "people wont change so why do u bother talking with him again". Could definitely see that she was going confused and told me i was right.

Anyways the funny part is that i've been the same kinda guy like her ex. So i know how hard it could be to stand above him. I will give it a couple of weeks before i make my final decision.

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Yes.. my opinion is the same as dark one's!