Made a post about keeping girl through college no one replied but oh well =P still very, very new to relationship world.
Same girl I'm with now never txts/talks to to other guys on the phone/online (as far as i know). Except today. Her coworker (guy) texted her "i hate you"
to which she txeted back, "you'll be ok i sowwyyyy "
talking about how she couldn't cover his shift tonight (she lets me read her texts if i want).
Up to this point i have no concerns except that little incident tonight maybe I'm just being too jealous/insecure. anyways thanks for replies.

The questions:

So who should my girlfriend be allowed to text? Any "do not allows"?
Is it Ok if she gets a bit flirty with other guys over texts (obviously not often)? as in sending smileys (case in point), stuff life that?
Does it matter who she talks to or texts online/on phone?

When Should I Txt Her
I rarely send her a good monring txt, usually goodnight txts
i try not to txt her much during the day, only if she txts me
she usually txts/calls me first
Should i txt or call more often, or only when she does first?

Very new to a relationship so do not know how controlling I should be/ what to do. I don't express any worry/jealousy at all to her, i play it cool and ignore everything little/insecure that bothers me, just bring it on here as of recently.

Also, on a very unrelated note: is it ever okay to tell the girl you're with you want to be together a long time, make it work out in the future, "lovey" long-term stuff like that? I haven't begun to yet, but have found it crossing my mind. Randomly I'll think to myself oh i should say "I want to be with you for a very long time" and stuff like that to give her comfort, but not sure if this would be counter-productive. Ok thanks for input.[/b]

Let her text whoever she wants, aslong as it doesn't turn sexual then i dont see a problem, plus if you moan about her texting some guy it only DHV's him.

I'd hold back on the long term stuff for a little while just yet, the risk wont be worth the reward

Why would that make you jealous? Its a text saying she is sorry because she cant cover his shift. I put smiley faces, kisses in texts I send to my Mother, theres nothing even remotely flirty about it. This isnt an issue with her its an issue with you. Dont read her texts, the fact that you say she has let you read them tells me that you have asked. This shows insecurity. Stop worrying about what or who she is texting. She can text who she wants.

thanks. actually 2 awesome replies in my opinion kinda what i was expecting/hoping for in a way!! thanks you two appreciate it

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and this:

http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2010 ... tionships/

and this:

http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2012 ... et-forces/

All brilliant posts.

Basically you want to control your girlfriend.....

Tough situation, let your girlfriend text who ever (except for me, I will bf destroy the shit out of you, and sleep with her) lol. Straight up tho, chill. If she's gonna run off with another guy, she will do it, regardless of fact. She's letting you "check her texts" because she thinks, correctly, that your insecure (as is 95% of the male population) but since you're In a relationship trust her, if she breaks your trust. Fuck her, bang her sister, friends, or mother. Nothing says "FUCK YOU" like a pregnant sister.

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exBFs are my personal taboo. other than that, whoever isn't actively trying to sleep with her is fine.

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Its not about who she can or cant text as much as it is about respect for you. I would never approach her and say "you can't text other men!" because that looks extremely insecure.

what should you do?

Well in a relationship you need to communicate what you want, and so does she...women are not like men, they talk and flirt with men indecently without knowing they are getting hit on, chances are the guys that she talks to do like her but she might be oblivious to it.

The best approach is for you to ask her "what do you classify as cheating?, what are you uncomfortable with me doing?" this will open the conversation, it might throw her a little but but just tell her that you want to have good communication in the relationship, and that you want to have a very honest and trust worthy relationship so you want to know what she classifies as cheating? once she says what she has to say you can put in your two cents....my rule has always been "If you wouldn't do it in front of me then don't do it behind my back, if you ever get to a point were you think "should I be doing this" then you should not do it".

When you ask her what she would classify as cheating bring up things like "how do you feel about us hanging out with the opposite sex one on one, or texting back and forth" get a reaction and see were she is at, then you tell her how you feel.

Remember this, you are the alpha male, and although she can do what she wants you can leave her, you hold the power always!...If you feel like she is being disrespectful in any way you can walk! if your value is high then you have nothing to worry about and she will most likely let you lead the conversation and be agreeable...the key though is to remember not to argue or bag, or be a beta chump, if she doesn't agree with you on what cheating is then you can simply say "Ok I guess we don't want the same things in a relationship, I need to think" at which point you can pull away, and make up your mind if you want to stay with this girl or not.

p.s

You will hear "Let her do what she wants" which is true but make sure she knows there is a line! and if it is crossed you walk! She should always know in the back of her mind that if she does something stupid you wont stick around like a chump!

PUA-RB-AB your post was fucking hilarious!!!! lmfao. all-in-all i love all the suggestions and been a lot more secure lately. thanks all! being in a relationship is quite a balancing act I've come to find out, especially being so new. Completely different than just banging girls a couple times then moving on.