Had this weird text convo with my GF:

J: Btw i password protect my phone now 
Seagull: lol why?
J: Just cuz of the sexts mostly 
Seagull: I will need the code to grab photos from your phone though
J: I will enter it in so u can get them

am I right in smelling fishy smells, or am I being over-suspicious?
and if so, how should I best tackle it? I have the technical skills to get a full dump of her phone and read all her texts easily. But I am not sure it's ethical to do so. And would prefer to follow other routes first, if at all possible.

I will add that, except for this, she is as lovey-dovey as it gets. She met my parents the other night, insisted I spend at least one night at her place before the weekend (which we usually mutually agree on, but she is not overly demanding about it), and generally being affectionate. We have not been able to have sex since last Wednesday for bad logistics on my side, but we sexted the other night, which she definitely wanted as much as me.

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Don't over-think things. If she's never done anything to lose your trust before, there's no reason you shouldn't trust her.

From outside the box, she seems genuine about her reasons for a phone lock. Quit the sexting, for good. Forget your concerns, get it in, enjoy her company, and the next weeks feel her out. She doesn't need a lock if your not sexting right?

Take it easy bro, nike.

I really have no serious reason not to trust her. I know for a fact she has 100% honest with me, and I do not have even a slight hint of misconduct on her side.
I have had an initial phase of insecurity in our relationship, but have largely moved past that, and was really feeling secure.

This password thing has set me back. It felt fishy to me (we sexted last night, but it's not the first time we do so...our first sexting was the night before our first date more than 3 months ago!), and if all she needs to "protect" is our sexts, why would I need to be locked out?
If you guys say it's legit, or I should at least gather more solid grounds to be suspicious before making a move, I will... but my gut instinct would be to talk to her face-to-face and say that I would feel much more at ease if I actually knew the password (and, of course, be ready to reciprocate.. my phone has a password too!).

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Don't ask her for the password. That kind of thing never ends well. You shouldn't even be looking at her phone even if the opportunity presents itself. I have been in your position before, and I've been the insecure/jealous guy who freaks out over things like that, and I can promise you that it's just not worth looking into so much. Let things work out by themselves.

Think about it from her perspective: her comment about setting the password was absolutely not intended to get you thinking so deeply. The comment was meant to be taken in stride. Don't become over-analytical; it's your brain's own trap for itself.

Thanks man.
Talking to you guys makes me feel better. I have a tendency to become insecure because of some shit from my past, but talking it through always helps
I will resist my insecure urges.. and only act if I catch on any stronger hints

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

There's no reason for you to have the password, although I'm sure you could come up with a thousand reasons to want it. I'm glad you now realize you don't want to look through the phone, even if the opportunity would present itself.

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I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

all it means is you can password your phone and sext other girls without reprocusions

I do have a password on my phone (it is a company issued phone with pre-release software on it - plus I always put passwords on all my phones/computers). but I definitely do not sext other girls. no point in cheating.

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)