Yo,

Need your thoughts on this, I was dating a girl for about a month few months ago, she was probably hb7, went out about once a week sometimes twice, had a good time when we went out, teased her loads and generally got on well. This went on for a few weeks, we had sex a few times. But then the attraction seemed to die on her part. She suddenly started asking the question of where is this going? I said I was into her, but she wasn't that keen on the idea. I think she had already made her mind up, I wasnt that attacted to her btw, I didnt mind her company or the sex, she could probably tell that?

The same happened again with another hb7.5, dating for about 6weeks, teasing her loads, sex few times and generally good banter. She was really into me. Again she has gone cold, I always go round hers or we go into town, I haven;t actually invited her round mine.

I can't work out if I am been needy or to laid back? Or not turning them into my gf?

it could be many things bud,

1. You haven't escalated
2. you're being too needy
3. crap in bed
4. you're no challenge to her

etc etc, i'm not saying any of the above are true btw

Yo, cheers for the reply.


2. I don't think I am been needy, I dictate what we do, and I don't suck up to her, if she says something I usually act like she has said something stupid and tease her load. " what are you taking about lol, you so cute when your mad at me etc."

3. This isnt the problem, shes loved it each time,

4. Possibly at times, I tease her, and rarely go with her idea though.


Sometimes I think its because I go days without showing her any interest, but this cant be right can it? that goes against the female attraction triggers.

wrong-

going days without showing interest AFTER you have already slept with the girl, will signify that you are only looking for a booty call.

remember women want to feel desired, want to be seduced. they want the romantic love story thing.

you must of done some things right to bed them in the first place, but then either one of 2 things happened:

1)they lost interest because they felt they were being used
2)they lost interest because they were never interested in the first place or are 'broken' (messed up from previous exes or just messed up generally speaking)

anyways more details are required to know exactly what happened

You may have hit the nail on the head. Surely theres a fine line between showing to much interest/being to keen and being into her?

1)they lost interest because they felt they were being used - she brought this up at once, and had a strop, but we worked it out.

2)they lost interest because they were never interested in the first place or are 'broken' (messed up from previous exes or just messed up generally speaking) - Her last bf was like 6months ago or longer I think.


When we're together, I hold a strong frame and I tease her alot, which she always reacts to, so its really easy.