It's for a girl that use to be a FWB, I screwed her by having other potential suitors for me, she thought we were more than FWB but I didn't think so. She was hurt by me having texts and pics from a dozen other girls. She seldom responds to my texts and her birthday is coming up. I can't attend her party so I was going to mail her card.

I didn't get in this to hurt anyone. She was a great friend of mine regardless of the benefits. What can I say in the card? I want her to feel special on her birthday without being AFC. I also always want the door open to potential friend again. I do care about her as a person

Any ideas? All I have now is "You're everything I never thought I wanted in a friend,"
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Why don't you say what you said here?

Your boy,
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Spot on.

You obviously miss the way things were, she probably does too.

You mentioned all these things yourself:

- She was a great friend of mine regardless of the benefits.
- I want her to feel special on her birthday.
- I want the door open to potential friend again.
- I do care about her as a person.

A couple of those things will make her feel special.
Good luck.

The question is: do you want her to be your FWB or just a friend ?

For FWB, you should play the push/pull card.

Do not give her any news before her birthday, she will think you dont care about her.

Maybe you should forget her birthday too, she will be mad, but just after that send her a message like "I wish you the best, in your life, your love, your work. You are one of the most incredible woman i met, you are so + compliments." You could add a personal sentence about something you have in common or you both like, a souvenir or smthg you share.

Even if you want her as a friend and not a GF or FWB, you have to remember that every girl thinks thanks to her emotions. She'll receive a lot msg, your message has to be original, personnal, distinctive

Great advice! I am able to go to her birthday now, should I go?

I was originally just going to leave the card at her doorstep with maybe a balloon.

I am never possible sure she wants me at her birthday party.

If you weren't directly invited, and you don't have other good friends that are going, do not go. Period. It would make you look an asterisk if she didn't want you there.

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Sorry to tell you this bud but there is no friendship to be had once you fucked a girl. 1# she had strong feelings for you, and probably still does, it will be impossible for to her to hang out with you as just "friends", 2# If she ever does have a boyfriend or if she already does there is no way he is going to be cool with her hanging out with an old FB!

having sex with friends is a roll of the dice and there is always consequences! you both are attracted to each other in one way or another and it sounds like she has emotional feelings for you. Can you still be FB? probably but its only going to lead you down the same path again.

Imo leave it alone, if you miss her that much and cant live without her then why don't you try being exclusive? other wise I would just forget about it.