Hi everyone
I'm a senior in high school and I have a girlfriend dillema!

- long story short I kissed another girl and my girlfriend find out. I apologized and admired my stupidity. And we made up but the problem now is that she keeps on insisting she only wants to be friends! This is after we kissed after she forgave me.

- so my real question is, should I be friends with her and win her back because that way I know I can but I don't want to be "an option" guy or should I cut contact after a sincere apology and tell her to contact me when she feels like she is ready to fully forgive me?

We have been going out for few month, I really like her and don't wanna lose her especially knowing she has done nothing wrong!

To answer your question:

you cannot be friends and win her back

If you want to "win" her back, you completely drop her. Cut all contact. Tell her you feel sorry that this happened and you still want to be with her, but given that she's not ready for that you will have to move on. From then on delete her out of your life and go check out other girls. Probably - if she wants to give it another go - she will insist on contacting you and things could get resolved.

If you want to "win" her back, you completely drop her. Cut all contact. Tell her you feel sorry that this happened and you still want to be with her, but given that she's not ready for that you will have to move on. From then on delete her out of your life and go check out other girls. Probably - if she wants to give it another go - she will insist on contacting you and things could get resolved.

I agree...

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Thanks for the advice guys. I sent her a goodbye message cause it was getting hard to meet up with her. I kept it simple and said sorry about what happened and that still wanna be with her but since she not ready that I have to move on.

Later she called me twice and then again! I didn't pick up, mainly cause I was in the gym. Either way I shouldn't talk to her or respond to her for how long?

i would hear her out..

This may sound cold, but they are all REPLACEABLE!

NEVER stay hung up on any one girl because we know, at a deep level that every woman, no matter how special or amazing she was...Is REPLACEABLE.

What you MUST avoid is allowing a break-up to cripple your confidence and your self-image.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

We had a talk and we came to a conclusion. She said she have forgiven me but can only stay friends while she kissed me. I told her I can't stay friends with her and said goodbye in matters no one was mad. But I saw it in her eyes she was really disappointed. And as she left she said I'll call you to hang out tomorrow and I said not if it's as a friend and smiled then left.

Now from this point on when she calls and texts what's my actions and do I ever contact her?

That is up to you! Stick to your guns! Stand by the rule you made!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I want to hang out with her and al because we always end up kissing but from other people's experience it never works to stick around an ex. That's by I needed some suggestion, honestly I don't know, she's giving me mixed emotions. Kisses me but wants to stay friends..

Bumb, I really need this answer guys. I can't keep her off my mind.

kisses you but wants to stay friends, sounds like she has you on a leash, go game other girls and watch her attitude quickly change

How long has it been? since contact?

What are your ages?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Apocalyptica is exactly right here IMHO! If you do not want to be "Just Friends" then you have to sever all ties for a bit. She has to decide to accept your terms or not, if she decides not to then you need to be ok with that decision and move on!

Based on your post I assume that you have never had sex with her? If the answer is no then I have to assume you are fairly young. You will have many girls in your life this is NOT the last girl you will ever be with...Stay strong and stick with it!

Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Exactly! I'm guessing you are younger?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I haven't had sex with her, she's into that no sex till marriage ( even her 2 year ex bf didn', but I am the most sexual she's ever been with) . I'm older than her by 4 days. And the last time we talked was yesterday but that was to say goodbye (my last post)

I understand what you guys are saying, either way no contact is for the most part not only my best chance to get her back but also to move on of I have to, correct?