So I've been dating this girl for about a month now. We met on a dating site. We had sex on the second date and we have sex every time we hang out at the end of our 'date.'

I enjoy hanging out with her and she is always saying how much she likes me, especially after sex. She says she boasts to her friends about the guy she is dating. The thing is, we only hang out about once a week. Last week we hung out twice for the first time. Wow.

I don't have feelings for her yet but I'm getting kinda bored with just hanging out every once in a while. I'm currently living in a city I moved to a few months ago and she's the only person I hang out with on a routine basis. She is in a similar situation because most of her friends moved away to other cities and she mainly just hangs out with me. We also have conflicting schedules because she works shifts as a nurse and I work 9-5 mon-fri.

But she will often say she's tired or wants to be alone etc. She's very introverted like me so I can buy that she wants alone time but after six weeks of hanging out its getting kinda boring. One time she even cancelled because she felt like staying in.

Could it be something I'm doing wrong? Or is she just weird? Its like she still treats it like its our first week of dating. No casual spending time together. She even seemed uncomfortable the last time we just chilled at my place.

I don't call her by any nickname like babe or anything. So could it be something small like that that Im doing wrong. This is my first relationship.

I even said something nerdy after sex the other night and she joked 'thats how you don't get a girlfriend' I replied with 'well its been working so far' She then asked if we are a couple. And she said that its too soon to call it that.

This all my sound AFC but I have more free time that needs to be filled with hanging out or sex. lol And I would prefer it to be her. Are we still early enough in the relationship where I need to keep gaming her and act like I'm much busier than I really I am? And all that initial gaming bull****.

She says she's used to hearing 'oh I haven't called you in a week because I've been busy and hanging out with friends'

I text her sometimes but I only call her when I want to make plans to hang out. So I don't think I'm being needy or anything like that.

What do ya think?

you could have just said "I'll come to your place and we can chill out"

my usual suggestions for this kind of issue is "be proactive", aka "if you want something go and get it".. if you want to just casually hang out with this girl, go pick her up after work, go get her out for breakfast in the morning, ... just make it happen

if she is into you, maybe she is just waiting for you to make some moves towards a more committed relationship. if not, at least you will clearly see her being uneasy with your increased presence in her life.

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I would say just let if flow, don't worry about that much at this stage bro, if you both feel like a committed relationship then do it.

is it me or something is wrong here. alot of contradictions

You say you dont like her, but you come here crying from the fact She is not giving full atention and not being more open to spend time with you.

She tells you guys are not boyfriend and girlfriend, and you are telling this is your first relantioship.

Again you tell us, you would like to fill your free time with her?

My only doubts here is you are too clingy and obviously cant find a better girl. Or you like her, but I would go with first option

Since you are bored, why dont you find more girls to fuck in between of this girl.

Lets face you are not in relantioship and you dont like her YET. So what are you waiting for?

At this point , i think you are more invested in her than her in you.

You guys are still in the beginning and she is already flaking at the last moment.

Two times or one time a Week is all she needs to fulfill her sexual desires at this point, while she is looking for some better candidates to fill your spot. Because in her mind you are not what she is looking for ... but the only one SPAM giving the validation she needs.

My advice is go out meet some girls. So they can fill your free time. And since this is Pua forum I would look for some style that suits you better and start working on YOU on free time.

YOU ARE DEVELOPING ONEITIS.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Wow. I didn't know you two had been introduced. You seem to know her entire agenda. Good for you. Sarcasm. And I wasn't crying. Lighten up on the steroids there guy.

I've considered all that just not to the extreme you put it. but because this girl never goes out and spends a lot of time 'chilling with her folks or by herself ' and has a very small social life because her main bitches have moved away, that leads me to think that she isn't seeing that many other guys if at all.

Now maybe she's an expert at telling me what I want to hear but she looks at me all googly eyes after sex and tells me she's not going to be able to stop thinking about me. She even turned down hanging out with old friends that were back in town that she hadn't seen in a while to hangout with me. But a week later when she is doing literally nothing on her day off she decides that she wants to be alone. 'I'm so tired but I really want to see you!' But I do think that actions speak louder than words.

The point is she gives me crazy mixed signals.

I just think its weird that almost every time we don't end up hanging out she ends up spending the night alone or goes to bed early. Apparently she has crazy bad insomnia and shit.

Also she's been looking for the best summer music festivals for us to go too. Now all this doesn't necessarily contradict your point that she could be enjoying spending time with me but maybe holding out for another guy to come along with more muscles or whatever. I mean she could always change her mind and go with someone else if they came along.

I have kind of suspected from the beginning that she doesn't want to get too serious, whether right now or ever, because she's afraid of getting hurt or getting bored or afraid of me getting bored of her. 'You like me for now but we've only recently started hanging out' 'you haven't seen my crazy side'

She even gets upset when I don't orgasm sometimes, she always cum's way before me. She tells me that its more important to her for me to cum. Last time I came before she did and said that she was so happy that I finally came inside her that she didn't even care that I did first.

Regardless I am getting back into my gaming mode and start going out again because of the lack of social stimulation I'm getting from this chick.

You come here and ask the opinion of others, I gave you my opinion based on what you wrote what did you expect?

Maybe its right maybe its wrong but you were the one who put yourself and this situation. You could watch the horoscop to see if the asnwer is there.

And to be fair I still think im right on some points. I just pointed it out things that was a little bit contradictus. Perhaps you dont like the way i talk to you Im so sorry, Sarcasm.

If she in love with you or not , or she has a several mental problem no one here can tell you exactly , there is only way to find out.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

I am glad to see that you are getting back into your gaming mode.
Women are notorious for sending mixed signals. The best way (in my opinion) to combat this is to keep THEM guessing from the first interaction. I mentally disarm them and keep their emotions in a knot. I don't do it to be mean, it's all a playful game.

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Can you elaborate or give some examples. I guess my main question is should I back off and not call her for a few days and wait for her to call me. She has mentioned that this is what she is used to. Or am I not being dominating enough. 'Come over and bring me my pussy etc'

My 2 cents...don't call her and don't WAIT for her to call you. If she is not providing you with the social stimulation that you need, find someone that will. Personally, I would continue to bang her when she comes calling, but fill up my time with someone else. If and when she contacts you, take control...take the lead.

Always be dominant/confidant with women, from the beginning. Women must know from the start that they are dealing with a MAN, not a chump. I am not saying to walk around with an inflated ego, but be confident in who you are and what you want. Women are drawn to guys with a strong mindset.

Her:You like me for now but we've only recently started hanging out' 'you haven't seen my crazy side
Me: Your crazy side? Do you hear voices or sacrifice chickens?

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene