Hi guys,

I met a girl about 5 weeks ago at a USC frat-party. I was just doing my thing as I usually do: Go out have fun, hook up with chicks etc... So, its a Friday and I get to this party and I see a cute girl dancing by the stage with her friends. I go and dance with her and as her friends depart, we escalated things. We exchanged #'s, stayed with each other the whole (which I normally never do, I just # close and move on) and we also made plans to hang out the next day. We just clicked.
Next day Saturday. we txt each other to meet up at a frat party again. We meet up, hang out. I tried to have sex with her but she said no. I said ok yes you are right we should wait. And everything was fine. We have been going out every Fri since (4 more Fridays) hiking, restaurant, mini golf and its been GREAT.

About the girl real quick:

I have had sex with her twice. I am the third person she has ever had sex with. The first one was a 1 year relationship. The second one was a night stand. (I know two extremes). She is a really sweet and genuine good girl.


So basically here is the problem

She is 18 and I am 25. I had told her that I go to USC ( i don't, i graduated) and that I was 23 when I first met. So I went a long with it. I really thought this was just gonna be a hookup thing but I am really liking this girl.
So, Friday after our date I told her the truth. She was upset. The next day her txts were kind of shorter than usual and when I asked her to come to the soccer tournament with me and she was very hesitant.
I knew something was up and that I had to drive up to see her or I would lose this girl.

So I surprise her by driving up and showing up at her dorms. I tell her to come outside and I could tell by the sad face that she wasn't happy. (she had been talking to her girlfriends all about me). I convince her to just come with me, spend the night and come to the soccer tournament with me the next day as it means a lot to me. So she comes, I win the soccer tournament and we go back to my house. As we are cuddling in my bed I told her how glad I am she came along and that it meant a lot to me. I also told her that I would want her to be my gf.

This is when she said I don't know. I am going to be busy. She is planning on working over summer break (which is in 2 weeks). And she is also upset about the fact that I lied to her. She also couldn't see me visiting her as she lives with her grandparents and telling her grandparents she is dating a 25year wouldn't have been Ok.

I got very emotional and pissed. I just dropped her off and didn't say a word. I told her its better not to see each other anymore and I was in tears.

later I txted her that I still want to be friends and hang out with her. She said Ok.

I overreacted i think. I want to fix this whole thing though

WHAT DO I DO? Can I still win this girl? SHOULD I LEAVE IT? I really really like this girl :/




I know this is kind of long, BUT ANY ADVICE IS REALLY APPRECIATED. THANKS

Dude. Ouch.

That was painful. You say you've hooked up before, so what's stopping your from moving on? I know that sometimes these girls seem great, but honestly, with the kind of interaction you left off on, it's better to let it be and move on for now. If she really does find you that attractive, you'll give her the gift of missing you by giving her space and not being there. She'll notice your absence and want you back (or she won't), but either way, your best option as a man is to not make any attempts at winning her back right away. More contact would most likely seem needy right now and the negative image she has of you will just become amplified. So yeah, let that one cool down for a bit if you don't just quit it altogether.

A side note: I don't lie to women about things in general because of situations like this. You feed her a bunch of lines, she turns out to be pretty awesome, and suddenly you have to fess up and it destroys all of your credibility.

dude you nailed it. Thanks for the post man. Yep, good experience For sure and I have already moved on