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I am 20 and my girlfriend turns 17 in a month. We have been together for 2 months now. From date 1 up untill now i was all nice to her and talked online ( SPAM/msn) with her everyday 24/7. The first 3 weeks were going great, i saw her in the weekends and we usually watched a movie at my place, we usually had sex and i thought i was doing great as being her boyfriend.
Then after 3 weeks or so things started changing, the "i love you" and "honey texts" were no longer there anymore and she did not really like talking to me because she always gave me short answers on things and when i asked do i see you this weekend she said, "well see" or "no go hang out with your friends."
We had a pretty big fight over this, i told her she changed and shouldn't treat me with such disrepect, first 3 weeks all nice and then suddenly bitchy, she told me she dont want this bullshit again, had this happen many times in past relationships, she has 23 exes to be exact and this is my first so i kinda took it and said ok honey and i did not see her that weekend.
After 1 month it was going good again but she still never texts me goodmorning or calling me honey 45 times a day on SPAM like she used to in our first weeks of being together.
She does not have any money so i pay for everything! Cinemas, flowers for valentine, neckless.
I made a fake account on msn as i know she is shallow and accepts anyone, she also has 300 guys on facebook who tell her shes hott on pictures etc and she likes it more then anything so i started bonding with her on msn to find out if she is cheating on me or not, or willing to and to get a good view on how she thinks about me because she would never tell.
Turns out she finds me immature. And also she is not happy in the relationship ( her words ) So i asked why not breakup with him? She said i dont know.
I know this girl is not a saint and im probably just a number to her but yet i dont want to fail on this! And i really like being around her as we have lots of fun and she is quite hot.
I think we all know what my problem is here which is that iam being a woosy and should never have give her so much power over me. But since its my first relationship i ask you to have some sympathy for me.
I made a plan to turns things around from now on and stop being that woosy/boring guy. But every book tells you to be cocky/funny from the start, and never drop it! But i have been a woos from the start so don't you think i can't change things around in this stage anymore.
My plan is as follows:
- Spicing up things ( on msn she told the fake account she hates doing the same thing over and over ) So i will stop asking her for watching a movie at my place.
- Not buying her shit anymore.
- Acting more mature, no more dumb jokes or being annoying.
- Paying less attention to her, taking more distance, stop being a woos and becoming more dominant.
- Not asking her out anymore, she has to ask me!
- Not telling her shes cute or using honey and i love you anymore.
The problem i see here is whenever i do such thing as not answering her SPAM text, she becomes mad and start telling me that i dont love her anymore etc so i turn back to the woose and say, no offcourse not honey, i just didn't have time to answer it. So how could i prevent this from happening if everytime i try to become the badboy she gets mad and wants to leave me.
Also what things can i do to make things better again? So iam in charge and she asks me to hang out the weekend? Should i call her maybe sometime as we never called in 2 months, all we do is SPAM or msn. This might break the pattern a little of being predictable.
I really need a lot of help and would really appreciate any feedback i get! Thanks!
Are you really this 16 year old girls 24 boyfriend?
I'm no relationship expert but I know a girl like this so I´ll reply:
Well anyway I'd say this is a classic girl in need of a bad boy. I know a girl who is pretty much exactly like this (same age to). My friend tamed her through being an ass and even though she has the attention of hundreds, she still chases after him. He started ignoring her though because he started to think she was annoying. You should try being less needy and a lot more challenging. She knows she has you. Seeing how unstable she is though, I'd say gaming other women in front of her might make her fuck the first guy she sees.
Otherwise congratulations on your first relationship
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