OK! My story - I am 4 months into a relationship with a great girl. She is 25 and I am 23, we have had ZERO arguments of any kind in that time.

I've never had things run so smoothly and I put that down to finding pua and growing as a man and also the fact I think this girl is a great person.

But anyway...splitting hairs maybe, here are a few queries:


1) We're sitting in the park last week talking...I tell her about a friend who is having some problems with his GF...he say's he isnt bothered if they break up.

- She asks me how I would feel if we broke up...I just said 'I haven't thought about that...' and changed the subject.

- I was sure to explain who the people involved were to her, we both know them. I didn't want her inferring it was some metaphor for 'us'

-Was this a shit test ?


2) The other day I sort of made moves to talk sexual via SMS... with my ex gf things like this happened regularly (she turned out to be a daddy issue psycho cheater however!)...but with the current GF things like this dont seem as welcome. Its not an issue to me, but how can I make her dirtier if I want to?


3) The 'L' word was said to each other very early, and we both mean it...but how much is too much saying this? Sometimes I want to say it every day but I don't want it to lose its significance.


4) I never ever check her phone/facebook etc or even ask to...nor does she me...is this completely normal? Its blind trust but I don't know if that is unwise ever?


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Some of these queries might seem like nothing but things are running that well I don't know if its common? I put it down to her age and upbringing.


I'm never dating under 21s again

Kind of, in a way... she wanted to see your reaction.

But you handled it like a pro! Change the subject and move on. Don't give her any clues, don't say 'I would be so upset' or anything like that. Just dodge it I guess... which you did do perfectly. Good job here.


Ignore it for now man, try again in a few weeks. Just let her have time to get comfortable. It's on 4 months in. After 10 months I found out just how dirty my girl can be. I never had any clue at 4 months. So be a little patient.


Okay this is your first sign of weekness in my eyes. The 'L' word loosing it's significance is a really girly thing to worry about. Feel free to say it every day. It's not gunna damage your relationship and there's nothing Beta male about saying it. It will always lose it's significance eventually because what has the MOST significance it's ACTS OF LOVE. She will remember the feelings, emotions and experiences she has with you, not the times you said 'I love you'! So don't worry about it, just say it when you're saying goodbye or last thing at night maybe.


Good! You don't need to check her facebook and she doesn't need to check yours. Forget about that. Me and my gf swapped facebook passwords but she can't even remember mine and I doubt I can remember hers. You don't need to go looking through her messages. It doesn't matter. It would be one of the most needy, clingy, beta-male things you could possibly do, so don't ask her for her password.

Just chill! Most people don't swap their passwords with thier partner anyway.

Anyway mate, to summarise, looks like you're doing really well.
So just enjoy it.

By the way, when you say 'we never argue'; don't be worried to have an argument or two with her! You guys are bound to disagree on somethings. Arguments rarely go on for more than a few days and at the end of it you always make up and things feel so fresh. I would be so amazed if you manage to get through a year without an argument man.

But basically you're on the right track so good luck.

You worry way to much man.

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These are the standard worries of a guy in a 4 month relationship.

Lots of people are in the same position.

I think he dealt with a lot of stuff very well.

Thanks man. Its good to know I'm on the right track!


One thing I forgot:


5) Guys attempting to game her when I'm with her...what would you do? Thus far I havent had to worry too much as we hang out in a pretty high value group so people probably find it hard to breach...but sooner or later this summer be it clubs/holidays/music concerts/festivals some guy with game is bound to try something.


-I'm quite happy to let her sort that shit out but if I'm there I get uncomfortable just sitting on my hands. What is the alpha way about this?

I don't agree you should include some dude in your conversation/group...if he's of a better level than you social skills wise he could destroy you no?

As for the Facebook/phone thing, its perfectly normal not to check them. You'll be a lot happier leaving it be, I know I was.

My ex and I never argued either, and we were together for 3.5 years. Sadly, after our first big argument, she wanted to end things. Shows the true maturity of her, and I wish I would have seen it earlier. Another issue with us was communication. The way I see it now, if you don't argue, you aren't communicating. Don't hold things inside to prevent an argument, I did this and it ultimately ruined us. Resentment builds up and leaks out over time, don't let that happen.

As far as other guys go, I never worried about them. If she feels the need to introduce you, give a firm handshake and then go back to talking with your group or whatever you were doing. And you can't worry about another guy stealing your girlfriend. If she wants to leave you for another guy, better to find out sooner rather than later. Let her handle it however she wants.

Lastly, I just want to say this - Don't become boring. In the end of my relationship, I became pretty boring and I even told my ex that I was bored with my everyday routine. It is not good. Also, don't neglect your friends. Ever since I became single, I realized how little I actually hung out with my friends towards the end of my relationship. I'm glad they understood, but I wouldn't want to do that again.

All in all, enjoy the time you spend together. If you feel you aren't happy with something, fix it.

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