Hello guys!
As a pick up artist, and as a guy in general, we never want to get cheated on. And at least if we do, not find out about it.
So in general, how do you keep a girl happy, and always wanting only you and not other guys so she won't feel the need to cheat on us.

No matter what you do to a girl it's not gona stop her from cheating if that's who she really is. People cheat early on the relationship, mid relationship or towards the end for various of reasons but the main reason to why they cheat is because it's who they really are. You can be with someone and make them happy all you want, but they can get up to shit loads of things behind your back. All you have to do is find that unique girl and get a relationship with her but still that doesn't mean she'll be faithful. Girls are different just like how us boys are different.

Most other guys out there are either relationship impaired, insecure, poor leaders or terrible in bed. They make all the classic dumb-guy mistakes. The reason we are here is to learn to be better then that. Once you figure this stuff out then you will be a very high value guy and you wont get cheated on (at least not for the first two years or so).

Once you really internalize all this stuff, then you may even get to the point where monogamy isn't even appealing anymore (poly-amory is much more fun). Then you'll be able to talk openly about sex and lust with your partners. It's very liberating and completely cuts out the need for lies and deceit. You'll stop worrying about what your girlfriend is doing when she's not around and focus on more important things, like how she treats you.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf

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So what happens for the next years?? ... I've known couples that have been together way over 5 years or more and they claim to have been loyal, and marriages of 25 years with loyalty all the way.
But, why would a girl that is happy in the relationship. Girls I know that have cheated are either because theyre sexually unsatisfied, or boyfriend basically ignores them.
What are the odds of a girl who is sexually satisfied, always happy, not fighting, etc.. for her to cheat?

I have strategy. I built my personality to be the least jelous motherfucker on earth. Seriously... Gf leaves with her ex for few hours. Gf leaves with former fuck buddy for few hours. No problem. I just don't care. Sometimes shit can happen with me too and I can do things I initially didn't want to, so I'm not gonna be mad at her for this. It works pretty well, because sooner or later, said guys will wonder why the fuck is it not a problem for me that she is hanging around with them. And when they ask it from my girl, it is all over at that point, because they have literally drawn it that I'm better than them. This happened with both of them.

Now you could say: Yeah dude, but you can never know if she cheated before that or with someone else.

That's true. But I just don't care. I have special politics about cheating. I don't really give a fuck if it was a one timer, even if with 40 different men, if it was just once, I don't give a crap. I'll start getting mad, when I find out she has a lover. Because that's consequent cheating and means that something is forming between them. Why am I doing it like this? Easy... she's not my wife(at least...not yet) I just want both of us to be happy in the relationship, and if it involves fucking dozens of other men for her, I won't fucking stop her, as long as she's not putting it in my face(that's a challenge...and means something is bad) or keeps a lover(that's pretty much relationship over) Oh... just for the sake of completion. It's not like my relationships are like this. And kind of the reason behind this, is this not giving a crap mentallity.

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Look, sure.. sometimes it works out. But he relationships that work out well are statistically in the minority. Monogamy is a pretty flawed system.

I wrote a whole post about it here: drama-free-relationships-4-monogamy-vt1 ... t=monogamy

Now, ask yourself "why would somebody who's happy eating sushi every single day, want to have any other kind of food?" It's essentially the same question you are asking me. The answer is that they get bored with having sushi everyday. Even if you have the best sushi in the world, some day you're just going to want a hamburger. It's the same for sex.

Furthermore, after 2 years in a relationship, the relationship endorphins start to mellow out. You don't get quite the same rush when your with your partner. It's a biological phenomenon. We are programed to stay with our lovers long enough to have a kid (and if you have kids, then the endorphins last longer). The mutually codependent people tend to stay together happily after the endorphins are gone, but everyone else either breaks up, cheats, or is miserable.

/I like Fisher's strategy

-Wolf

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cheaters gonna cheat, can't stop it, just have to find a mature person who likes the idea of monogamy

also the more attractive you can make yourself the more anxiety of loss you can put behind your partner to give them the idea that if they cheat they could lose you

but in reality just about every girl I have met that has cheated, always cheats, and just about every girl that doesn't cheat, doesn't cheat

it is the person, not really what you do, some people will only cheat to trade up, some people cheat simply because they are turned on by idea of cheating, some people will cheat because things are getting dull, some people plain and simple will never cheat under any circumstances and are 100% loyal, and would rather just break up then cheat

guys and girls are both pretty much the same when it comes to cheating IMO,

just like old people shitting in diapers, totally depends

i'd pretty much agree with this. just out of 2 year relationship. I cheated a few times but I found out she had another bit on the side. I questioned her on it months ago and she denied but my sixth sense told me she was lying. I finally took the step to check her email and phone. found out everything. kicked her out. thing was I wasnt pissed off about the cheating...I had said in a open relationship don't lie to me. if you lie its goodbye. she just wants the drama, loves to gossip about it to her other friends according to her emails. just a total bitch.

thing is ,she left her watch behind. Now for some mad reason I feel bad and want to talk with her and give her the watch back. I'm thinkin just to freeze her out until she apologises but I sent her a pretty abusive message saying goodbye so she prob wont get in touch.

Do yourself a favor and don't talk to the chick again, only bad things can happen if you make contact with her.

Best way to keep a woman?

Be the best man you can be. This means not relying upon the relationship to full fill all your needs, as well as establishing healthy boundaries from the get-go. Ultimately you can't ever stop someone from cheating, but at least you can weed-out the good women from the bad if you remain true to your standards. Remember, a relationship isn't there to make you happy, but rather to make you more conscious.

Most of your statements are flat-out wrong and predicated on twisted logic. Looks more like cynicism than anything. Likely some heavy projecting going on here.

Look, I don't really post here anymore. So, I'm stopping by to say something I've always wanted to say to you: Fuck off.

-Wolf

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Some good points have been made. It takes a flawed person to cheat. I used to be one of those people.

Even as a flawed person, I didn't cheat all the time. Women are similar, to cheat it takes a flawed person, opportunity, and it also requires a desire or reason.

All you can do to keep someone from cheating is be honest, open, and trustworthy to them. Meet her needs physically, emotionally, and mentally, and there really is nothing for her to gain by cheating. I've also slept with women who were cheating. EVERY ONE OF THEM had a complaint about their husband or bf. So long as she knows she can complain to you openly about any issues she has with you without you acting like a child, she will do so. So long as she can do that and her needs and desires are met, other men are worth absolutely nothing to them.

For the record, in a LTR, I'm not an advocate of not caring at all. Most women want to feel desired, loved, respected, and lusted for. So long as your woman knows you feel that way, and that she is damn lucky that you do, there should be no problem with cheating. When these start to melt away, that's when you have to decide to put effort into the relationship or let it die. Much of the problem with cheating is that when these feelings fade the one cheated on fails to recognize that it is happening and take appropriate action to stop it and reverse the trend until after an offense has occurred.

I agree here.
IMO, comes down to the integrity of the person. Cheating is a victimless crime in a sense. If the person getting cheated on doesn't know, they aren't hurt. The whole "be alpha enough and fill her needs" thing is bs as it mostly depends on the person. Even if she is afraid of losing you, there are ways to cheat on you that would never risk you even finding out. Most people don't commit crimes because out of fear of getting caught or the fear of hurting someone else. But if you found $1,000 on the street, no one was around, would you pick it up? This is a victimless crime and if you would odds are you would cheat if you couldn't get caught. Ask yourself, what stops YOU from cheating. Find a girl with integrity, who CAN'T cheat because her conscience would nag her too much. A girl who wouldn't do something wrong even if they could get away with it easily.

This is a valid point. But the truth of the matter is that good people can make mistakes. When people have problems they don't know how to deal with, that's when they are prone to make mistakes. Some women are just fucked up and will cheat. But not all, and I can assure you that a "good girl" who wouldn't cheat 95% of her life will fall for some guy who listens to her problems and tells her how to deal with them, etc. I've seen it several times. Most of them years later in life regret making the mistake, and readily admit they were not in a good place when they cheated and wish they had known more back then.

I think those who say "cheaters cheat" simply have zero experience with it, or don't have the capacity to actually think about what causes people to cheat. My own cheating ways eventually forced me to confront it and ask myself why I was doing it. Until then, I just avoided thinking about it. What I'm trying to say is that good people can do bad things, and vice versa. If a woman gets what she needs, and knows she can bare her soul to you without judgement about EVERYTHING, she won't cheat. She has no reason to. Instead, she'll share with you what her desires are before they materialize.