| A little background. I've been seeing a really cute girl for about a month and a half and things are going great. Due to my busy schedule we only get to see each other about once a week. We had sex about a month ago and we've been having sex ever since, every time we meet. We're not just dating, sometimes I would just casually invite her over to my house and she would spend the night.
It's important to stress that she's been chasing me from the very start. Initiating almost every phone call and wanting to meet all the time. Lately this is going on on a daily basis, we talk on the phone almost every day. Sometimes I don't pick up or end the conversation early because I don't think this is a good habit for any type of relationship.
So where's the problem? Well, to put it simply, I have no idea what we are. Since we've had sex she's acting like she's my girlfriend, calling and texting almost everyday and whatever. I'M FINE WITH THIS. I do want a LTR and I think she is great. However, she didn't give me "the talk" yet. Meaning we never discussed being a couple, not seeing others, making it known, whatever. It's pretty obvious that we aren't seeing others, but technically it's not exclusive.
For example, yesterday she told me that she talked to someone (not a threat) we both know, and he asked about "the guy she's been seeing". She didn't tell him who I was or anything. Another (petty) example, while we're acting like we're in a relationship our FB relationship status remains the same (there is none).
To make this worse her birthday is coming up soon and I have no idea what she's expecting of me. If we're just dating I probably shouldn't make a big deal of it because I don't want to seem needy and scare her off, but if she sees me as a her boyfriend than she is most likely expecting something romantic. I was thinking about taking her to a (little expensive) restaurant and giving her a nice (not so expensive) necklace with a funny card I wrote, I think this would be suitable for both cases.
Anyway, I have no idea how to find out what we are without looking needy. If I talk about it it seems like I'm worried because of other guys, and I'm seriously not. I thought about making her a little jealous so she'll make up her mind but I don't really have that many female friends I can hang with. I would really like to know where we stand before her birthday but I don't know how.
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