Let me try to be brief.

CLIFFS
I am 33, she is 25
She is a 7 (my scale is srict)
Hanging out for a month and a half or so (only out in three dates)

So I exchanged numbers with this chick. We started texting to begin and finally set up a date. It went well. No kiss close (did not try) until second date. Ever since we went on another date. We kissed and cuddled. But my point is I was only able to get her out on those two dates in about a month. She is flaky.
I had a two week trip to south america I had told her about and she did not make time for a date before I left. The night b4 my trip she agreed to see me outside of my house for a bit. We sat in her car for about thirty minutes. I kissed her and told her I thought she was a cool chick and I liked her. She said she thinks about me all the time (bull shit). She barely makes time to see me. She said bcuz I was leaving she did not want to get attached. She talks alot of shit. Like" I think about you all the time", but wont let me get in her pants. Her kisses are lame (no tongue). Won´t come out much. It takes alot before she comes out on a date. I know I am going to have to freeze her until she reaches out for me. And if she doesn´t reach out I am going to have to shoot her a text to see if she starts chasing. This girl has my number. I´ve owned girls b4 (most of the time). But this chick I like and I am having a hard time moving on. I am on my two week vacation now. I have one more week left. I called her yesterday and she´s like
"I am having a great time with my friends for spring break"
"enjoy your vacation and thanks for calling"
Thanks for calling? wtf??? that is fucking pathetic of me. I need to move on but can´t seem to build the muscle to do so. She demonstrated an interest for a serious relationship at the begining but quickly backed off. I need suggestions on moving on.
Should I call her when back in Miami?
she knows I am back on sunday.
Should I move on first and then call her?

ditch her mate. I don't think she wants you to be honest. It's hard to accept because shes hot and you want her but shes being a bitch to you so don't act like her bitch.

Maybe don't contact her until your back in the same location and just text her saying, im back, fancy some coffee or movies or something?

You will be fresh from your travels on that next date though. Tease her, act interesting, share your experiences with her. Open up that imagination, make her feel like you are someone with a purpose, kino her, then fuck her.

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Yeap, I am going to pretend that I fucked up with this girl and just move on to the next. I will however shoot her a text. It will be super casual. At this point she would know that I have retreived. I don´t know if that is a good thing or not. I don´t want her to think I am hurt or some shit. However, that is the only card I have left. If she does come out with me for coffee of lunch or something, I will attempt to fearlessly escalate (not afraid of loosing her since I have already). Its like she will be forced to reject me or I willfuck her. Either way she´ll know I mean business. I am not sure this is a good plan but at least she won´t continue fucking with my head. I will force an honest reaction and not her premeditated bull shit.

Text her...

you:free any time this week?
her: (what ever she says)
you: ok, me, you, cinema friday? :p
her: yes....or no

if yes DO IT
if no

you: ok have a nice life.
the end.

you've given her enough chances now.

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That is basically what´s going to have to happen. I´ll let you know how that goes

She's fucking with you, this type of shit always pisses my dick off. Never judge a girl by her words, only by her actions. So if she says she likes you a lot but doesn't fuck you; she's not interested. Penis in vagina is a far better barometer for attraction than a description of her feelings. Trust me, move on.

As for asking her out to one last date, don't do it. You've already gotten your answer, no need to lose further dignity. For the added reason that if you DO WANT to fuck her in the future, the possibility of doing so will drastically decrease every time you contact her from here on in. She's already established herself as the prize, any attempt by you to call her or text her only further supplants your frame and makes you look more desperate. She will let you fuck her if she wants to fuck you, don't waste your time with uninterested chicks.

As far as getting over Oneitis, I find a combination of 3 things to be the most helpful:

Re-focusing on your goals

Fucking a girl hotter than the one you have Oneitis for (although sometimes you'll end up getting Oneitis on the new girl, which makes this whole spiel self-defeating)

Having fun. Gamble, drink, fuck a couple of sluts with poppin pussies. The possibilities are endless.

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@hakuna

Bro, If I could just get in touch with what I know to be the right thing to do (punk this chick and move on) I would have already. And I do trust your judgment when you say I should.

I posted here bcuz I have been having the hardest fucking time getting myself to do the right thing. Often talking myself out of it, etc etc. That´s how I turned into an afc with this one.

Advice here has been helpful, and although I can´t promise I won t contact this chick when I get back, I can say that I am certainly looking for that feeling that is going to naturally make me not want to contact her. As far as my chances to fucking her, you are on the money.

I know the right thing to do, I am just trying to let it come to me naturally and not swim against the current here.
Back home in about 6 days. I´ll keep you guys posted.

p.s
please bitch slap me if I hand her my dignity alongside my nut sack once and if I contact her.

She's not even a 9 or a 10 you even admit it yourself. Your scale doesn't sound very strict too me. Why are you letting her stress you out plenty of other better looking girls out there.

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@Reo

Well, like I think that 10´s just don´t exist. You´d only rarely see a nine here and there, an 8 is as good as it gets while still real. Then a 7 is perfect girl next door (magazine cover) shit.
I don´t have an answer as to why I am letting this girl stress me out, she certainly is.
But looking at it from a stand point where there are plenty of other good looking girls out there, is money.
Thanks for that!

IMO 9 is the hottest you can get. a 10 is "the one"

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Her flaking is what gives you the oneitis. Read your own story, and position yourself in the mind of someone else who reads this. You have had better quality girls in the past. She is playing with you and wasting your time. Explain to her that she could have spent more time with you if she really liked you, and that you dont wanna continue with her like this anymore. Do this in a mature non angry way, it will make you feel slightly better! Afterwards go clubbing with friends and find out that there are better girls out there . You got over your last oneitis, you will get over this one!

@Discipline

You are 100% right about the cause of the oneitis. It's sick how that works.

I have been back from my vacation for 6 day now and have not called her.

I am forced to doing one of three things:

Option #1
Call her and act like nothing has happened. (she's probably wondering how come I have not called)
me- well well, if it isn't my favorite gam gam ( I call her gam gam bcuz when we have ridden my motorcycle she worries about speed). And continue to sound upbeat and extremely relaxed, tease her some and tell her I thought of her during my trip and give her some attention. But the catch would be that I won't convey any real interest on hanging out or escalating. I won't shoot her an invite or even suggest in any way shape of form that we are going to continue with contact. This way she'll now I lost interest but that I am being completely cool and casual about it.

Option #2
Call her and tell her that I feel she would have spent more time with me (specially b4 my trip) if she really liked me, and that I am unwilling to continue to hang out with her under this terms. But that I consider her my friend and don't want things to be weird between us.

Option #3
Not call her. This would not be congruent with everything else I have done towards her and might lead her to think that I am too hurt or even mad.

thoughts anyone?

sounds like this girl is just about the only option you have going on, or you would move on from this,

delete her number, actually make an attempt to go out and make new female contacts, without options of coarse it will be hard to drop time wasters,

but compliance says it all, if a girl is flirting her ass off but won't meet you or make out with you, then you have your answer, she is a big giant waste of time, she wants to feel good knowing she has your attention, while not caring if your penis feels good,

It would be optimal to move on and keep her in your number rotation, but I would doubt you have one, and would be most likely prone to contacting her out of neediness, so in that case, delete her number so you have no other option but to become motivated to get new ones, if she starts contacting you up, make something happen, don't be her text me when im bored guy, be her meet up and fuck guy, and if you can't place yourself in that role, then she is a waste of time and not interested in you for that role

the sooner you get comfortable meeting new girls contantly, on the regular and recognizing what real interest looks like, vs a string a long, the better off you will be

After like 5 days of being back in town I called her and she didn't pick up. So I called her again the next day and left this message.
me- Hey, you are probably out there being a spring break club rat and that's probably why you aren't picking up the phone. Don't come to me talking about "oh I think about you all the time" blah blah blah cuz I don't beleive I word you say. I know your type little girl. Anyway, I'll talk to you some other time. Bye.

Immediately after, I deleted all her texts info, all her contact info, everything that would allow me to contact this girl ever again. Now I have had thoughts of reaching out to her but I am unable to do so, which is great!! When I met her, I was running sooo much game. I had like at least 3 solid chicks that I was running good game on, but got distracted bcuz of her. Now I have nothing, but I can just go back to what I was doing b4. I'll take a lesson.

Damn your message went all beta on her. I guess you wanted to end it by expressing your feelings. If it makes you feel better then fine I guess, but if it doesn't then it's a lesson for next time.

You already know what went wrong initially since you stated if you freeze her out it would not be congruent with your previous actions. That means next time you need to lead more and gain better control. Reward good behaviour and punish bad. If you have at least learned from her and become a better pua because of it then she wasnt a total waste of time.

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