Should I be decining sex every once in a while?

We both love it, but she often doesn't want it twice in a night.

I read somewhere that declining her offer for sex once in a while is good as it shows YOU are in control. At the moment, she is probably more in control as she declines it sometimes. I never do.

I can pretty much get her horny when I want but I'm just wondering, should I wait for her to initiate it and then decline her?

Let me know what you recon.

I would really like to be the one on top of this situation.

Sorry for my badly worded post, maybe you can help though.

I think if you actually want to have sex, then there is no point in declining it and don't agree with that advice,

I suggest if you want more sex from her, either communicate that to her that you have a high sex drive and your needs are not being met and see if you can come to a compromise, or work on a skillset that would cause the results you want (getting better at foreplay, becomming more aggressive/dominant in initiating sex etc. etc.)

I see.

Well forget about whether my needs are being met.

I'm wondering if I should decline it to increase my control in the relationship.

control over yourself and what you want = control in relationship,

she is separate from you, handle what you want, and form boundaries for what you will not accept, and actually abide by them, manage expectations

you don't have to manipulate the girl you are with to be in the drivers seat, lead yourself to what you want and the girl will follow

I agree with Pumpington. There are much better ways to gain power in a relationship. Her wanting to have sex with you is a good thing and should be rewarded (with orgasms), not punished (with rejection).

-Wolf

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Thanks guys, aspecially Wolf, that's great advice.

One thing though... it's as if she says 'jump' and I say 'how high?'.

I just feel that she has all the say in it.

She says 'no' to me.
So can't I say 'no' to her?

I wouldn't do that. Mainly because I don't think I can withold sex xD ..
If you want, you can do it one time I guess, but I wouldn't; girls don't take rejection in bed very good. I don't know her but she can either do two things: Start asking why not, what's wrong, work it out, or go look for someone else. I don't think she's a slut, but keep in mind this phrase "While you yell to your girlfriend, someone secretly wants to whisper in her ear"

Holy fuck yes.

Usually you'll want to reward secksually aggressive behavior to reinforce it as the norm, just like everyone else indicated.

But once in a while, DECLINE SECKS. Or better yet,

Have secks but in the middle of it, just say you're done. She'll ask if you came and say "no, I don't think I can today for some reason." Watch her vagina knot up in quakes. It's the ultimate neg, a Jedi mind trick with no equal. For the rest of the week she'll want to make you come, or die trying.

Secks is a girl's ace, her reinforcer in relationships like attention is for men. The moment you express to her your ability to decline it, she becomes powerless. I wouldn't say you should always do it, but it is an invaluable tool for generating secksual tension, building interest, and most importantly, making her WONDER.

Remember a girl's imagination is your biggest weapon in seduction. You want her in limbo, you want her to wonder "what's he thinking? Why doesn't he want it now?" You don't want to be predictable or easily read.

It takes a lot of discipline, but the result is worth it. It drives a hamster crazy, on par with jealousy or a sudden boost in social proof.

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This is brilliant.

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i agree alot with the stopping halfway through thing as i have a huge problem cumming myself (before i knew pua and was chubby i used to masty alot and my sensitivity is shit now). When fucking a women for the first time i usually dont cum and they always want to jump me the next time they meet me and sometimes then i dont cum too.

I think it will mindfuck your women alot

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My advice; Take any sex opportunity you get and if she ever doesnt want sex, just get her in the mood. When she says shes not in the mood, then ask her "why not, whats wrong?" If she says shes tired, give her a massage, lead it to sex, and do all the work. Or whatever reason it is, lead it to sex.

[quote="Hakuna"]Holy fuck yes.

Usually you'll want to reward secksually aggressive behavior to reinforce it as the norm, just like everyone else indicated.

But once in a while, DECLINE SECKS. Or better yet,

Have secks but in the middle of it, just say you're done. She'll ask if you came and say "no, I don't think I can today for some reason." Watch her vagina knot up in quakes. It's the ultimate neg, a Jedi mind trick with no equal. For the rest of the week she'll want to make you come, or die trying.

Secks is a girl's ace, her reinforcer in relationships like attention is for men. The moment you express to her your ability to decline it, she becomes powerless. I wouldn't say you should always do it, but it is an invaluable tool for generating secksual tension, building interest, and most importantly, making her WONDER.

Remember a girl's imagination is your biggest weapon in seduction. You want her in limbo, you want her to wonder "what's he thinking? Why doesn't he want it now?" You don't want to be predictable or easily read.

It takes a lot of discipline, but the result is worth it. It drives a hamster crazy, on par with jealousy or a sudden boost in social proof.[/quote]

Yes!! This is along the lines I was thinking of.

Just once in a while... Otherwise I'm too easy.

I think it might be a good idea to make her orgasm first, and then decline.

I tried this out last night!

Worked pretty well.
I made her orgasm.
She then goes 'now it's your turn' or something like that.

I just said 'nah I'm okay I'm not really in the mood'.

I think that was probably the right thing to say.

But I was wondering, what reason could I give to keep her intrigued and wondering?

Hakuna is 100% on point. I unintentionally did this sort of thing to my gf.

The other night my gf slept over. We started to have sex and after awhile I could tell she wasn't into it. So I stopped and told her lets just go to sleep. She started asking me all these questions like why I hadn't finished and what's wrong. I said I wasn't in the mood.

A few min later she went to the bathroom. She came back butt naked and pounced on me. Needless to say it was one of the best nights we've had together.

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