I'm seeing my ex girlfriend at the moment and she keeps bring up the same argument that she doesn't want a relationship. I don't want a relationship at the moment iv'er and i'm currently seeing other girls (she thinks i'm seeing no one else though and doesn't think i will get with any one else while i am away at uni). She is currently sick at the moment and has been for like 12months and is currently getting better so she can't go out all the time etc and she can't meet me when i'm at uni. I text her when i was drunk saying i missed her one night and that i wanted her to come up Liverpool and she brought up the argument again the next day. Then today she said that yesterday when i was speaking to her for 3.5 hours on the phone and i said that "when we split up...." (i don't remember saying this and don't even know if i did) and she brought up the same argument again saying she can't get into a relationship. I don't under stand why she's doing it and it's starting to annoy me because i don't want a relationship.

Any one know why she's bring up the argument? Also how should i react when she brings it up. Before i have been saying i'm not going to get into a relationship with someone i'm not sure about etc. But now i just feel like telling her to go away next time she does it and stop talking to her for a while.

EDIT: I'm thinking of saying we are just friends, if something happens when i'm back from uni (i'm back in 3 weeks) then something happens if nothing happens then nothing happens. Would this be a good idea?

First off, you DO want a relationship with her. Don't lie, because if you didn't, you wouldn't care to come on here and ask the question.

The key to getting an ex back is not to care. Go and do you. There's got to be something you can improve upon. Work out, get a tan, take up a hobby, find a charitable cause. The point is, you will be different next time she pursues you and that will terrify her. She expects you to be the same guy, but when she realizes you have that much hidden potential...they always come back.

When she does, let her do all the work. Don't ever discuss having a relationship again and don't ever say "I miss you". Until then, game other girls. Don't let on that you are, but do it. The advice is counter-intuitive, but it's added pressure on her to make up her mind or lose you to someone else forever.

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No i actually don't want her back. She's an ex from 3 years ago she and i have both had relationships since then. I was seeing her over xmas and it was great to see her and i love speaking to her on the phone because it's something to do and i enjoy it. I do want to carry on seeing her when i'm back home from uni though but a relationship would stop me from being able to see other girls and thats not what i want. Why does she keep bring this you want a relationship and i don't shit though? Is it some kind of shit test or does she want me spill the beans on other girls or something?

Maybe validation for herself that you still like her. Which you don't, right? So don't worry about it.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Any one else?