My Recipe for an EXCITING relationship with your girlfriend, which ensures you KEEP your girlfriend and hold all the POWER in the relationship


I've picked these methods up from reading PUA books, watching videos, learning from MPUA's on this forum and from my own life experiences.

BTW, this post is more for my use than anyone else's its so I can refer back to it, and keep reminding myself to do these things until it becomes natural. You most likely won’t agree with what I have wrote but it works for me and I enjoyed writing it.

So here goes:-

1. The Person who cares the least holds the most power in the relationship PERIOD. A woman will never leave a man who she hasn't completely won over. WOMEN WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE! Remind yourself of this daily and you won't go far wrong.

2. What women say and mean are two completely different things. If you haven't learnt that women don't know what they want really, then you need to wake up boyo! They want a challenge that's what creates ATTRACTION I don't care how many times they say they want a nice, sensitive, soppy guy they don't, women like a nice guy with grit.

3. Be a high value male. Be ALPHA, you are the prize, you don't fuck about what anyone thinks of you. She chases you, you don't chase her. When you stop caring what people think of you your life will change completely.

4. REWARD AND PUNISHMENT! If I could name one thing that has made the biggest difference to my game it would be this. Every time she does behavior you enjoy e.g. blowjob, sex, buys you things, passes compliance test, compliments you whatever! Anything you want her repeat doing then reward her generally by giving her lots of positive attention cuddling, tease her, tell her how much it means to you "aw thank you baby for these new joggers, when you buy me things it makes me love you so much more, your amazing!" Basically make her feel special.
On the flip side however any behavior you disapprove of e.g. pointless arguments, not obeying you, being disrespectful, trying to get a reaction out of you (which can happen a lot.) You punish her by withdrawing your attention from her or freezing her out. Don't answer her as hard as it is to want to get your point across just walk away and leave her for a few hours or days depending on how much of a bitch she's being. Sometimes hand throws or cutting physical contact down for a short while will suffice. Just remember women need attention men need SEX. Monitor her attention, control her MIND and you control her PUSSY. Her behavior will change and you will both be happier for it. Women naturally want to still be dominated by men but you need how to keep your bitch locked down to do this. Just remember don't reward her if she is being a bitch and doing punish her if she is being an amazing girlfriend!

5. Don't be a doormat. We have all been an AFC at some point unless your name is Marlon Brando. The point is when your a leading male women are sweet to you, when you are a push over they take you for granted and act bitchy. Don't over compliment her telling her all day "i love you baby" make sure she says it more than you, and if she never gives you praise well don't fucking bother giving her any praise. Every three texts she sends you send her two in return. Buying her things is very complicated in my opinion, in a relationship basically make sure its even on who pays for a date. She pays one date you pay the other. If your cheeky like me you get her to pay a little more than you. My current girlfriend payed for our first date! But if she is being a good girl don't forget to buy her flowers, her favorite muffin you know take her out for a meal surprise her, it means a lot to women. Just DON'T ALWAYS GIVE HER GIFTS! Or she will always expect them off you and they won't mean as much to her when you do!

6. Have a passion. Its sexy to women to see a man so absorbed in a passion don’t have lots of things you enjoy find one thing you love and make it your passion. This works both ways you have something to discuss with your partner like stories to tell from days out fulfilling that passion. Secondly, it keeps you busy women hate men that follow them around like puppies they hate NEEDYNESS and yet so many guys still make their woman there only source of joy in their lives. Its crucial as a man you are busy because particularly if your girlfriend is a 9 or 10 she will be busy as well as she will lead an exciting interesting life, don’t ask me why but hot women get what they want, the big breasted ones especially! So in a nutshell become less available and enjoy your life and share your passion with other people not just your girlfriend. Build yourself a life which you are proud to own!

7. Ambivalence. You need to mix it up to keep the relationship exciting. Ambivalence is one of the single greatest tools you can use to get a woman addicted to you. Unpredictable behavior really does create an adventurous relationship. You have to balance it out with being an asshole some days and then being a caring gentle boyfriend others. Being goofy and stupid and then serious and deep with her. Being strong emotionally like a rock and then another day being sensitive and vulnerable. My personal issue is as I mentioned earlier about punishment reward is I punish to greatly and don’t reward enough I care too little some days and don’t provide my girlfriend with the love and security she needs this is DANGEROUS! Don’t listen to the pricks who say a woman will never leave a bad boy if you do it wrong they will a woman can’t just take the same nonchalant shit everyday. She needs survival and security from he partner. So make sure it’s a delicate balance. Just keep it that she is a little bit more interested in you than you are to her. And be unpredictable so she never knows what’s coming and will be excited to wait and see!

8. Be a sexy mother fucker. Most men fall into relationships then think great now I don’t need to make an effort and become greasy sea monsters dropping nuclear bombs as they walk up the stairs. So just because you have a girlfriend does not give you the right to let yourself go. Stay well groomed, keep fit and wear nice clothes so that other women still check you out, it will make you feel good and make your girlfriend jealous of the other female attention you are receiving. Demonstrating to her that you still have other options, and even the heartless bitches who thoughtlessly dumped you still hate the fact you found another woman.

9.Don’t jump through her hoops. Shit tests is a fundamental way a woman will fall in love with you to test to see how alpha you are. Judge a woman on how she BEHAVES not how shes looks. Don’t be the guy who holds her coat whilst she goes and talks to her male classmates, don’t be the guy who is always running after her trying to please her. If she asks you to do something no matter how small make her do something in return. This way she learns she has to earn your kind acts. If she gives you a hoop to jump through take the hoop off her and make her jump through one of your hoops. For instance, if she shouts at you over something pathetic keep a calm frame don’t give ignore for a couple of hours till she says sorry for her unreasonable behavior. This is a classic shit test and all women do this unconsciously to test how big your balls are, because we all know women like big ass balls to suck on!

10. Drama cycle. This contradicts what I said earlier but it all depends on the situation. When a woman really pisses you off i.e. back to the reward and punishment, then get angry at her. Women are obsessed with drama just look at the T.V. they love to watch and you can make her obsessed with you if she steps out of line let her get your opinion, then after make up with her (providing she’s sorry.) Its back to ambivalence be furious at her then be a really sweet tender guy after. Women become obsessed with the drama cycle TENSION….EXPLOSION….HONEYMOON (as in sex). Its addictive and most of the time it just feels right to it at the time.

(Rapidly doubting the effectiveness of the drama cycle, no contact is definitely far more efficient)



11.Become scarce. If you feel you want more control in the relationship make your self scarce for a few days go no contact for three days known as a freeze out or a soft next, research soft next for more information. Don’t call her or answers any of her calls make her desire you more if she isn’t desiring you enough. Sometimes if you want more control something as simple as resisting sex from her for a night or so shows her your in control.

12. Be playful. Girls just want to have fun the song is ridiculously true. Bust on her, tease her like the geek in school or like she’s your little sister, to give off the effect your way cooler than her. If you can make her laugh easily then you will be indispensable to her. Remember to keep it cocky funny, women loves dicks…. Pun intended? You decide!

13. Do your job properly. Take her out on at least one original date a week. Men seem to take their foot off the gas once they have achieved the girl. But you need to keep things fun for her, be creative take her for nature walks, go to comedy shows, go sculpture something, lie under the stars anything except just inviting her round to your place just to sit and do the same stuff week after week. Make sure its not just her putting in all the effort in relationship or she will resent you one day for her doing all the work and either cheat or break up with you! So be authetic!

14. Own her pussy. If anyone has bothered to read this far I bet they were waiting for this one SEX! You need to bang your bitch like there no tomorrow fuck her gently and passionately like jude law some nights and then crazyily and rough like rocco siffredi. Just dominate her in the bedroom. Learn how to give her full body orgasms. Learn how make her toes curl. Learn how to make her scream so loud you receive complaints from your neighbors. You know you’re a don in the bedroom when you get fined for noise pollution in a residential area. Eat her pussy out and get messy with it. Have sex with her at least once a day. Women want sex just as much as men you just have to know how to fuck her good. Remember if your always a taker and don’t give your bitch lots of orgasms then don’t call her a slut if she goes and cheats on you with a man who has mastered the art of cunninglingus.

15. Always lead. Don’t let her make the decisions in the relationship and ask her where were going today or what film should we watch. You’re the man you make the decisions women by nature should be submissive but you have to be a man so she can cater to this. Just get to know your girlfriend and pick things she would like to do e.g. “tonight babe were going to the cinemas to watch the vow.” NOT “ Babe where would you like to go tonight, would you like to go the cinemas, you can pick the film?” DON’T ASK JUST TAKE! Be confident that’s the sexiest trait a man can have, assume the close and lead and she won’t flake on you.

16. Don’t be insecure. It’s ok to sometimes to seek reassurance with your girlfriend because you are there to make each other stronger to be there for each other and a good girlfriend will enjoy looking after you and making sure your happy on the inside. But please don’t adopt a vagina and always be asking if you look ok, always feeling insecure if she likes you. Don’t open up more than she does and at the beginning of the relationship or dating stage the key is to create a deep connection with her by making her open up and you not opening up to her by keeping your cards close to your chest!

17. Body language. The person who moves the least holds the most power. My key rule with body language is don’t be afraid to take up room. If you desire to dominant a room sit relaxed slightly slouched, with your arms spread out across the couch. Don’t hide your chest, stand up tall, walk with meaning. Fake it till you make it, it will feel unnatural at first but it will come. Everyone knows the golden rule never lean in. If she’s being a brat then give her negative body language e.g. hand throw or roll over. Furthermore, if you want to the leader of men don’t use rapport seeking body language as in standing straight on but stand to the side. Basically just CHILLAX, and change the story in your head by saying “I OWN this room, everyone wants to be me, I’m a don.” Repeat this and it will come!

18. Inner Game. You can only love someone, if you love yourself first. NEVER get into a relationship until your in a stable place in your life, as in happy with who you are, so your ready to share your happiness with someone else. Getting into a relationship when you have deep issues, insecurities, jealous, family problems ect… will only cause more pain in the end. Work on yourself first before you attempt to work on a relationship! My personal motto is “I do what I want when I want.”

19. Never Justify yourself. Do you know what secretly makes women angry when a man is always seeking her approval. If your going to tease her don’t be a wimp and straight away afterwards say sorry, or only joking, instead give her a cheeky smile with eye contact, it exudes confidence. If she calls you (generally a shit test) like for instance “Why are you taking so long to get ready, who are trying to impress.” DO NOT WALK INTO HER TRAP AND JUSTIFY YOURSELF! Instead give her a cocky come back like “Oh I’m making an effort for my real girlfriend, did I forget to tell you you’re my bit on the side.” Kiss on the cheek, she will love your wit and charm and if she asks you serious questions that you feel are unnecessary or threatening, then cocky responses are perfect for this!

20.Talk forever. A tip for never running out of things to say. You can’t run out of things to say because you don’t run out of thoughts, speak whatever thought comes to your mind deliver it nonchalantly, and it can spark conversation. Lead an exciting life so you have plenty of stories to tell, and use your observation skills to see what’s around you talk about what you see around you. But also remember its totally fine just to chill and enjoy each others company. When you can hold a long silence and not feel awkward then well you’ve got something pretty special with someone!

21. Morals. Stick to your beliefs and don’t change them to accommodate for a woman. Don’t comprise them either for her. If you hate gossiping don’t sit around and let her suck you in to her gossiping. If someone tells you something in confidence don’t let her wine and pine to get it out of you. A woman respects a man who won’t change his beliefs for anyone.

22. Avoid negativity. Just briefly, avoid too many serious chats in the relationship about how things are going, aka “we need to talk.” Certainly don’t initiate too many, even though at times you will want too just for reassurance just to know your doing ok, or because you want to change the relationship. Don’t do this because it will just create a strong negative state, which will hang over the relationship. Communication is crucial but talking for the sake of things or trying to change the relationship or the other person only creates resistance. Only talk if you MUST!

23. Respect her. Listen to her opinion, become a great listener make sure she knows that you understand her, that you’re the only person who truly gets her. Make her feel good, don’t think its alpha not to listen her and to be a rude chump to her. Make her feel special. Women really are wonderful especially when your privileged to really get to know one. When you respect her she will respect you. In addition, just general chivalry and being a gentlemen goes along way to a woman’s heart pulling her chair out, letting her go first, filling up her glass. However, don’t forget your respect has to be earned by her, if she doesn’t respect you, well that’s not a woman you want in your life.

24. Oneitis. My final point. This will cause some controversy on here. But in my opinion Oneitis is BULLSHIT! If you like a girl or are even falling love with a girl don’t be fooled by anyone who tells you that it stupidity. That if you invest too much into a girl that you will lose her or be hurt, or that’s its wrong to only see one woman as the only girl for you! If you know how to keep a woman you don’t have to worry about this ridiculous PUA idea of Oneitis, do the right things and you CAN dedicate yourself to one woman. My grandparents only ever slept with each other married for 60 years and my parents the same married for 25 years this year. Use your own mind about these things and don’t take everything people say on here or in the pick up community as the only way. Behind every great man is a great woman. Do the right things and you can keep her forever if you want to and she could be the ONE! Love is the most precious thing you will ever find and its far more fulfilling in the long term than having numerous disposable pleasures for a lifetime.

The greatest thing you can ever do in life, is love another person with all your heart, I believe that because it’s true.

I skimmed through this post but will definetely read it when I get back. Although I have to say it is a very good post.
Thumbs up for you!`

I would like to add something here from my own experience. Personally, I am pretty good at keeping girls interested in me, no girl has ever left me, and although I know that's not a factor, I think this next point is somewhat important, specially for a LTR.

Become a habit for her. What do I mean by becoming a habit? Some guys say you should only see your girl, like twice, or three times a week, even as to say that 5 days a week is a lot! I tend to differ with this, I think that the more you see her the better your relationship becomes, that is of course, as long as everyday is exciting and fun. I was in a relationship with a girl that was in my same classes on college, and we lasted for 2 years, she was never bored of me, she always wanted to see me and we always had fun, I was a habit in her life, she was used to seeing me, and having fun with me and in the long term I became a neccesity for her life. Now, I know what you may be thinking this last part sounds mean, but it isn't; thats because you become a part of her life and she becomes a part of yours.
If you see her everyday, and you have fun everyday and you are talking, and laughing and kissing and hugging, she will start to need to see you everyday to get that dose of happiness, if you can, like joeyjoey said, fuck her everyday, make her a ninfo, hell you don't even need to have sex, give her an oral orgasm and she'll love it, or if you don't feel like having sex (We've all been there).
So again, I'm going against the flow on this post; joeyjoey made some really good points that I am positive work for keeping girls, because I have used some of those unconciously in past relationships.

It would be interesting if people kept adding more points, from personal experience on how to keep a girlfriend interested, loyal and faithful.

this is epic ! thank you so much
bookmarked this mofo

Two questions,

1) - Would you be comfortable letting your girlfriend go out for a one on one drink with a male friend who you know she used to have feelings for? What if she specifically told you that you were not allowed to join her or the siutation would be awkward?

2) - Would you let your girlfriend sleep over at another guy's house?


Generally, I'm not comfortable with either of these scenarios, but girlfriend is saying she feels 'trapped' because of this. She claims if she can't stay over at guy's houses then she can't ever meet her friend because he lives too far away.

Basically, anything that I'm uncomfortable with, she reframes as me controlling her. Honestly, I'd rather just break up with her than have to deal with it, but it'd be nice to know if I'm just being insecure. I can't seem to find the balance between being the sturdy 'rock' and being the guy that just makes her life better and doesn't get jealous etc.

Oh, and she kissed her ex during the first month of our relationship. That was a very long time ago and nothing has happened since, (and she hasn't seen him again, although wants to as they were close friends) but I guess it's relevant information. Though, I'd appreciate an answer to the questions without that in mind.

Not a chance in hell would I be okay with this in a serious monogamous relationship. If my girlfriend ever told me that she was going to go hang out with a guy and that I wasn't allowed to come, then the relationship would be over. I would immediately "NEXT" her. She will ABSOLUTELY 100% cheat on you given the opportunity (i.e. she is making herself sexually available to the other guy, but it will still be up to the other guy to act on it. When/If he does, then she will backwards-rationalize that it was all him and it "just happened").

I have no problem with my girlfriend hanging out with other guys, but I should always have the option to be included if I want to be. I'm not even jealous of other guys (I'm all about open-relationships), but I don't put up with disrespect. It's very disrespectful of her to say that she's going to hang out with other men and to tell you that you aren't invited.

It sounds like your girlfriend has a stronger frame than you do. Hopefully you learn from this and stop letting girls outmaneuver you in the future.

EDIT: +1 to this thread, btw. It's a great list and I fully endorse it.

-Wolf

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My rule if she cheats, shes done as quick as you can click your fingers.
Your not insecure mate this woman has got you wrapped round your little finger. Your two questions were shit tests shes given you. I would say go no contact for three days but she really doesn't seem like a woman you want to invest in any further. Cheating on you in the first month which is the most FUN AND EXCITING part of the relationship is just fucked up. So move the fuck on, work on yourself and find a new woman who will respect you for how you deserve.

Good list, covers it all i think..

24 good rules to live by.

i could have saved my relationship if i had this info earlier..
it sure does give me answers

yeah, i wish i read this months ago!

One point about the drama though... If she makes pisses you off show your anger.

Are you sure about this? What happened to playing it cool?

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As I said before this post is more for me than anyone and the drama cycle if you do it correctly and know what your doing gets a woman addicted to you. But I having my doubts how long its last for, becuase then the woman strives off the drama which is eventually draining for you, and its actually quite a beta thing to get angry it shows a weakness. What really changed my relationships and
1. got me more attention
2. gave me all the power
3. made my girlfriend behave better
4. Made me more chilled out.

is thanks to this post http://forms.puatraining.com/14special. ... evideowide by one the wisest guys i've come across on here called wolfwood. Also another thing that changed my game completly is just to remember the person who cares the least hold the most power!

Man, even if you're Brad Pitt, this would be a really hard scenario. I am going to put you an example of my current relationship. She has told me that she cheated on her ex boyfriends, on two of them, one because she was a little high school brat, etc.. blha blah, reasons don't matter.
Now, I try to frame myself as the best she's ever had, and even though she openly tells me I'm the best, I still keep the frame ... so I've told her, indirectly that if she were to cheat on me, I would forgive her, but we wouldn't be together anymore, never.
I know it sounds mean, but you make her scared of losing you, like, make yourself really really high value.. Even if you don't feel it, I know how that feels.. insecurity, etc.. Try to keep yourself on the top.
Normally, I would have finished her when she kissed the ex .. she did it in the first month, normally first months are were you want to give in your best to the other. Imagine her worst.
Keep yourself secure, even if you feel insecure on the inside, don't show it to her.

Hmm interesting point, I agree with you completely! I feel like I was backed into almost making a horrible decision, listening to some PUA advice that (if my girlfriend isn't as "exciting" as she used to be, shes not into you, and you need to freeze her out, cut all contact and not see her for a few days that you usually are together). I personally think opposite, and the dedicated PUA's may not agree, but its different for every relationship.

I would like your advice on this little issue if you could...
Right now, my girlfriend is really stressed out, she is working full time (half babysitting young loud kids, and half working receptionist at an acupuncture place), she is in college taking 2 classes and is on the newspaper as a writer/editor. Any free time she has she dedicates it to me. I was thinking she wasnt as into me, but she just probably doesnt have much energy left for me after all that stress, and I have been too selfish lately, stressing on things like "why dont you send as many sexy photos" or "are you not sexually attracted anymore? we havent had real good sex for a little over a week". This was me being selfish, instead I should have been more catering to HER needs, making her feel better, show that I care. I obviously gotta still do my own thing, act like a alpha male with goals in life and not be on my knees for her at every given moment, but to freeze her out in this situation? That fucking dumb, she would feel betrayed almost, like I dont give a shit that she is stressed and being very selfish cuz she wont "give me what I want". Then she would probably find comfort in another man.

Hell, this relationship shit is a bitch to master, but its damn worth it, and you learn as you go, and eventually, itll be second nature to do all this, the perfect way. Im glad I found this list! I have to keep it on my desktop

So for rule #1...

Basically I have been telling my girl of 8 months that this relationship means alot, and I am going all in, that I am serious about it. I know this probably made her feel more content and trust me more, and I know she cares just as much, but I would like to care "less", but how can I do that without going back on my word? Like, I know someday I would marry her, if things keep going the way they are, but I dont want her to feel secure that I will, I want her to keep having to fight for me (she has a promise ring from me too!) and I dont want to just tell her "hey I could leave at anytime if Im not content, you know that right?" thats a little too blunt but its the truth.. im sorta stuck, its not a huge deal but I know it would help me gain the higher ground and have more control and have her invest in me a little more.

Any advice would be appreciated

Alright this maybe long but I'm going to try and shorten it so ask me questions if need be. I'm sorta new to this stuff but I've read alot of this stuff and I've starting to internalize the pick up stuff but I'm a disaster at relationships I've got alot of problems I can see my self making hence this post is kinda playing damage control. So I've been freezing out my girlfriend four going on now three days because she has been "losing interest" in me. If our past is important ask I will iterate,anyway I am freezing her out because I've noticed she has started waiting for me to text her first and she almost never sends me messages with cute things any more its almost always short answers ( losing interest). Now I've been really busy this week but now I have nothing for the rest of the week so I will probably be tempted to text her tomorrow.. We have known each other for four years and we have been dating a month.. Advice haha? Im down for anything. I typed this on my phone so typos happen