How do you make a woman fall so deeply in love with you that shes willing to do anything and everything for you?

Im looking for answers that transcend traditional PUA and relationship methods.

My gf has been with me for 7 months. I understand that maybe it takes more time and with time the deeper love develops.

I dont know if im just being insecure about it but I just want her to be blindly in love with me.

Maybe im feeling this way because when I met her she was still recovering from her ex of 3.5 yrs and kept telling me how in love she was and how he treated her so well blablabla (of course he was the typical badboy type and cheated on her in the end)
so maybe this has mindfucked me a little bit.

The other day she told me how "all girls at some point like to be treated in a rough way" and thats why she enjoyed being with an asshole but now realises that she doesnt want that anymore and likes me beacuse im a "nice guy". I practically barfed in her face after she said that.

all women like the rough stuff now and again in addition to the deep stuff. but the idea is to be a good guy which is a hybrid of the nice guy and the bad guy.

what i mean is that you shouldnt be afraid to mess with her, make fun of her, tease/negg, being dominant and in control. but also you must be considerate of her feelings, sensitive and build a deep emotional connection with her.

but i think that if you act too nice, then eventually she might feel that she misses being treated in a rough animalistic way and might cheat on you. it happens sometimes in relationships, if they're not getting something they want in a relationship, they go out and look for it somewhere else.

bottom line, you want to be a good guy.

- aloofness
- caring less than her about the relationship
- staying in control
- rough side of things in bedroom
- creativity (sex, activities)
- general attraction
- subtly showing you've got other options (the more the better)

The last one is a killer. If you keep them jealous you keep them yours. They cna't help it, they need you. You're the shiny thing they want but can never fully have.

Learn how to eat pussy well. There r books and pornos.

@mickey your response makes sense and i agree with it. Im not a pushover by any means but i think i am lacking the teasing/negging a little bit. It was a lot more prevalent in the beginning but i think im getting comfortable and complacent.

@om3n what you list doesnt really apply to true love. what you list are tactics to keep a girl attracted but im trying to get deeper than PUA stuff.

I read something interesting the other day about how, with PUA tactics, you will attract all sorts of women beacuse you are demonstrating all this highly attractive behaviour, but, most of these women you attract will NOT be compatible with you. so you must be careful not to get into a LTR with one of these girls even though it will feel like you should.

im not saying that that is what happened in my case, although i questioned it at some point. but in my case, I got really good at PU and started dating with much more ease. then found this girl, and made her my GF. but now my problem is LTR game.

its not a problem per se, but I will admit I am insecure about it.

my gf has WAY more LTR exp than me. ive never been in an LTR that lasted more than 8 months. shes had 2 that lasted over 3 yrs.

i just feel that, after 7 months, we've kind of hit a plateau, where im wondering how much more can we grow closer and build a deeper connection. this is probably because this is new territory for me.

whereas shes been deeply in love before and was willing to do anything and everything for her ex until she fell out of love with him. i am getting mindfucked by her past

there is the issue in my case that my gf has never had an orgasm. at least this is what she tells me... and i definately want to make her orgasm because this will definately help my case. however she is not a girl who places a huge importance on sexuality. she basically does it out of necessity for me and to make me happy, not because she gets horny and wants to do it.

even tho she DOES get horny sometimes, but she just tells me she suppresses it and it passes.

im trying to get her to explore her sexuality a little and even play with herself when shes alone but she refuses.

when i finger her is when she gets the most stimulation she says. but when im fucking her or eating her out, it doesnt do much for her she says.

she says she gets stimulation but just doesnt climax.

when i ask her and try to find out more information, she just gives me answers like "i dont know". she truly has never explored her sexuality.

last time i tried to finger her for a long time and make her orgasm , but it just didnt work and then my hand/finger got tired so i just banged her doggy style and splurged on her back.

Go on a female board, or better yet talk to some female friends and ask what they like. Most guys don't know how to touch a woman properly and fingering a girls pussy in and of itself wont give her an orgasm if you aren't touching her properly.

Yes you are absolutely right some girls / boys can get satisfactions especially doing sex they cannot leave the relationship. Sex is not the only thing that can satisfy women.

Girls don't like assholes, they just like guys who refuse to cater to their every whim. Bad boy types generally attract most women, not because they are mean, but rather because they possess qualities of being adventurous, spontaneous, and unpredictable (keeps her on her toes).

It's only when she realizes the guy is a jerk that she kicks him to the curb. If you can reproduce the good qualities of a bad boy, she will look forward to being with you.

Be yourself.

I don't think that you can or should play some pua games in a relationship.

If you are faithfull and she loves you for who you are, than it doesn't matter what you do or say.

Good luck!

Galaxy

She has issues which you probably can't solve. If she's not willing to talk about stuff, she might have a kink she's ashamed of. Just an example, I have a friend who is really into anal, that gets her off immediately. She has a bf for a year, she never came with him. He never even goes near her ass and they don't talk about it. She's afraid she'll turn him off if she says what she's really into. She tried gently steering him into that direction, but he didn't pick up on it and she's uncomfortable with being more direct. And then she said, it doesn't matter if I don't come, it's not that important to me. That's bullshit!
The other thing that is a cause for concern is that she sometimes gets horny but suppresses it. That's a real red flag for some serious issues.
The only thing you can probably do is really open up to her emotionally, like really open up, be vulnerable, she might do the same then and you can finally figure out what's going on. She'll never fall madly in love with you if you don't get that soul mate feeling going and for that to happen you can't follow pua tactics in a relationship and try to act "alpha". You either are alpha or you aren't. Girls fall madly in love with afc guys too.
Also, don't give up on her so easily in bed, just switch hands or something. Try something else and then return to what you think is working best. Are you hitting her g-spot? Some girls like for the fingers to stay inside and just stroke the g-spot repeatedly, others like when you fuck them with the fingers really hard, to get some friction and g-spot stimulation. Experiment and see if it goes somewhere. Tell her to touch her self while you finger her, etc. It will take time, maybe hours. Is she capable of climaxing when masturbating?
Good luck!

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Try using combined massage oil (from durex or something similar), which has be used as lubricant too next time you have a romantic moment.. Say you want to explore her body some more, put on some music she likes, ect..
Exploring with sex is great as it can make her really convince herself you are amazing.

How is she while having sex? Is she totally passive? or active so she has the "upper hand"

thanks for your input. The thing is, she doesnt masturbate. she never has!

Im trying to get her to do it, but she has no clue how to. she basically has never realised that her ciltoris was created for pleasure. I think in time she will explore herself sexually, and with me it will help.

The last time we had sex she said she felt the most close to me she ever has so it was really intimate and passionate. however she still didnt orgasm.

the funniest part is that Ill ask her after sex if she orgasmed (cuz she doesnt make anything obvious one way or another) and she'll say "I dont know".. LOL..

but she is pretty active during sex,, dirty talking, moaning, panting etc. these are all things that I have introduced and made her comfortable doing with me.

because in her past life she was never sexually engaged, only sexually used.
her ex and her did anal exclusively (I almost ended the relationship when i found this out, but i got over it) they did this to "preserve her virginity"... fucking rediculous.. but anyways. ( this also mindfucked me hard because she was basically willling to do anything and evrything for her ex - she wanted to have vaginal sex, he didnt)

so yea shes used to being used sexually like that so the whole idea of me pleasing her sexually is pretty foreign to her

Then learn her how to "finger" while you do it together..?
It will be a learnfull experience for you as a partner as all ladies like other stuff..
See how she reacts with what she does, or say something like, I feel it really hot if you play with yourself.... and so on..

Be spontaneous. Reward her from time to time her good behavior with romantical getaway.

Look deep in her eyes. when you are in conversation

Finish her sentences.

Be caring guy.

Playfull and Push Pull.

Yes show her you have other options.

Be a Challenge.

Listen to her, and support on her objectives.

Be approved by her friends.

Show her she doesnt come first.

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