Background: 6 months dating. We went exclusive about 1 month ago (both commitmentpobes). Me getting off with another girl in bar and me telling her brought this about. She said she wanted just me, I agreed.

My birthday weekend: she is with me from Friday till Sunday. She goes on her period on Friday night (mutual frustration). I get endless blowjobs all weekend (10+ times); she loves it.

Girl goes on holiday for 2 weeks a day after. Both of us are horny as hell. Emails etc. Longest 2 weeks of my life.

Tonight NY I go out with friends (mixed group). I miss chatting up girls. How do you talk to girls if not with a sexual context? Meet a bulgarian girl. Get on well. Flirt. Kiss. Feel guilty as hell for breaking exclusive "contract". I have to tell my gf. Our relationship is based on absolute honesty. Feel like shit, but this was an impulse within me.

I feel I have fallen in love with my girlfriend. She's wicked. Am I a dick for doing this? Maybe I'm not ready for relationship? Thoughts? I want to tell my gf everything I feel my impulses, attitude etc. Maybe in this instance honesty is not the best bet?

Anyone else in relationship miss pua? I was envious of my single friends tonight...

you know,

there is a middle ground.

and you've completely missed it.

what i mean is, there is a middle ground between:

- having a girlfriend and completely not interacting with other girls

and

- gaming, kissing, touching, fucking every girl you can like a pua

the middle ground is to play, verbally, build attraction, and just have fun...

but yah, kissing another girl if your girlfriend think you are exclusive was shit.

you can game without physical contact.

that is where "gaming" ends and "closing" begins.

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Agree w Mack

Just to add my $0.02, under no circumstances should u tell her u kissed another girl.

This ^

Cause Rich completely missed the part about honesty being part of your relationship....

I don't think you are ready for anything exclusive right now. Ignoring your impulses will only frustrate you in the long run. You've already said you are a commitmentphobe.. You should work on that before trying to commit. I flirt with guys all the time; coworkers, friends, randoms, etc.. Both in my boyfriend's presence and when I'm out with my girlfriends. But that is where it stops. No kissing no contact and hell no I don't want your number!


..But yeah.. you can buy me a drink

Love is a disease, im suffering from it at the moment, makes you weak and stupid, or at least weak...it will pass thou, the important thing is do not show your true self, do NOT tell her everything you feel, your impuses, attitude, etc...act always as in your first days when you met her...once this"love phase" subsides you will be better off and still have her respect...if you want to vent your feelings afc style, do it to your friends, not to her. Do not cheat ever...my 2 cents...

Oh yeah man tell her so you can be either girlfriendless or lose complete control of the relationship.

I had a friend same situation as you where he kissed another girl and was concerned with all the honesty BS. Well he told his girlfriend about it. They stayed together for a while but she hung that situation over his head anytime an there was an argument she became clearly in control of the relationship he became her little bitch she would start petty arguments and he'd end up apologizing. The whole dynamic of the relationship changed for the worse. They're not together as of a few months ago.

The girl he kissed wasn't worth it. It cost him a relationship with a good girl. He should of just kept his mouth shut.

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Agreed