We all get into pickup for different reasons. Some of us want to get laid every night, some of us want to improve their social life, some want to find "the one" and settle down and have kids, and some want to be famous pickup gurus. Whatever the reason, most (if not all) of us are going to find a girl that we really want to be with somewhere down the road, and we are going to want to be in a "relationship" with this person.
People try to tell you that you can never have your one-itis, and if you have one then get over it because it's never going to happen. But I'm here to tell you that if you find a girl that you are attracted to for the right reasons-not because you are lonely, not because you just want a girlfriend so you won't have to worry about where your next vagina is coming from, not because you want to impress your friends, but because you both are legitimately attracted to one another and you both have real feelings for each other, and because you have a genuine connection with one another that cannot be found anywhere else-then you can make it happen. When you find this person, and everyone will (some will find more than one), you will want to be with this person more than anything, and it would be foolish for someone to tell you that you can't because you have a "one-itis".
When you come to women from a place of abundance, when you're happy with where you are in your life and then you find a girl who you think will enrich your life even more, she will sense that you aren't needy, and you could take it or leave it, then you have the beginnings of a potentially successful and fulfilling relationship. But when you seek a relationship for the wrong reasons, women will sense that and be repelled by your neediness (no matter how hard you try to not "act" needy,) or the relationship will flounder quickly because the emotional connection wasn't there to begin with.
If you find a one-itis, but at the same time are willing to turn around and leave because you and her both know you have other options, that's when you can have a successful relationship. Not because you are both lonely and want to tell each other how sucky your lives are. These one-itis' are the ones prone to failure.
So, if you want a relationship, go out, meet tons of women, have sex, find a fuck buddy, get to a place where you are no longer lonely or needy, and then if a girl comes along that you think you will be compatible with, then having a relationship will defintiely be worth it.
Best of luck ,
Ethan Hunt
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