| So basically I've been fucking / seeing this girl for few months now. Long story short we fucked, spent a lot of time together (basically lived at my appt), sex AWESOME, I fell for her, she fell for me things were goin great til I showed too much jealousy and kept tripping at her for going out n chilling with other guy friends.
Got into huge fight she said wanted nothing to do with me and I was too needy. I yelled back and told her too pick up her fkn stuff. I call my homie for advice and he said what I did was wrong, don't let her go easy. So i started apologizing calmly and admited i was wrong, wore my heart on a sleeve typa thing, after some time, everything seemed ok again. We talked it out she came over we kissed cuddled and I gave her a teddybear which she loved. Since then I test to see if everything is actually ok and let her text first, she still calls, makes plans, flirts like usual, inside jokes as usual. Everything seems fine the only thing is at the same time she is a lot bitchier when I tease/flirt and prob cuz I showed that I actually want her. So she'll try n say stuff to piss me off more, and starts fights over the smallest things. When I try freezing her out she complains and says "and u havent even msgd me all day?" but when i try n have a good text convo with her she always finds something to be pissed about. She'd bring up how "I almost lost her" and that she thinks differently of me. Saw her 3 days ago at her work when I stopped by she still kissed me the same and the situation seems fine in person. She hasnt slept over since the huge fight. Very hard to get her to come over now. Very mixed signals. After the huge fight I felt like I gave her the upper hand and thats fucking with my game, I dont have the same idontgiveafuck attitude, I am starting to over analyze everything, when to text, how long to freeze out, worry bout saying something that'd piss her off, it doesnt feel natural anymore. I was the opposite before I fucked her and developed feelings. The scary thing is that she is realizing this too and taking advantage. She is starting to text less, and I feel she tries to piss me off more.
Is she freezing me out cuz she realizes I'm trying to game? Is this just a shit test to see if I show I actually like her? The thing is I think she genuinely likes me but just testing me hardcore right now. I wanna be on top of my shit again without losing her. Today I started going to the gym and did a bit of volunteering to keep occupied so I wouldn't think about it so much. But what balance of attention and distance should I try n keep right now? Any advice is appreciated.
|
CHAT