hey fellas, so i was wondering how to go about forming a relationship with a stranger from pickup. i met this girl about 10 days ago had a SNL and weve been getting together to hang out ever since, we've been eating out together, walks, having more sex but how do i make her my gf? currently ive got the "i dont give a fuck" mentality, should i start giving more of a fuck about her to show that i care? should i start investing in her more but still maintain my value? whats the game plan here? some pointers and information would be greatly appreciated.

on the side note, i feel like im in a "mid-phase" with her and im planning to remain like that until i really decide to make her my gf, i aint rushing.

It should be pretty easy to turn a girl you're already having sex with into a girlfriend. You just have to use the afterglow effect.

After you have sex...cuddle! Girls are emotional creatures and they are never more emotional than right after sex. This is your transitional period, you have to use it to show her what your intentions are and that you want to moves things to the next level.

Cuddle with her, laugh with her, talk with her, caress her, kiss her on the forehead, get food with her, etc.

That is all you have to focus on. The rest is up to her. If she wants to be in a relationship with you, she will find a way to bring it up. It won't be overnight, because she has fears too, but she will let the comfort build and then she will either ask directly, or say something in a conversation about you being her boyfriend (likely pretending to be half joking or just saying it in passing).

Are you sure you want to start a LTR with SNL ?

Think carefully.

wow ive always noticed it but never realized what it means thank you for the insight sir you've improved my game in one single response.

Apocalyptica, no im not sure im still deciding but you're totally right this wont do, o well a FB is okay too thanks man

There is no reason that SNL's can't become LTR's.

If you're familiar with Vin DiCarlo's Pandora's Box, SNL's are Justifiers. I've had several SNL's turn into LTR's and they have been among my best relationships. A justifier just means that she doesn't place much value on sex (sex isn't a big deal to her), and she wants someone to recognize and appreciate her personality.

It's a very good sign that you can hang out with her, spend time, go out to eat and all of that stuff too. Sounds like she wants to be more than just FB's, or she wouldn't be doing that stuff with you.

I wouldn't close the book on a girl just because of a silly stereotype.

ya man im totoally inexperienced with LTRs thats actually one of the reasons i went this far with her cause in the least im pushing my limits, well that plus i think shes really cool.

i thought about it today...and if i had a SNL with her while shes single doesnt necessarily mean shed do it again with someone else when im her bf right? its not fair to assume that she would.

i really need to think carefully here, well so far so good, im in mid-phase with her and im still planning to remain here for a lil.

sidnee6 have you got any advice on what my attitude should be like with her?
should i invest in her more?(start texting her more, we dont text btw, start holding her hand in public, complying with her demands a lil bit) like i said im kinda inexperienced with LTRs so im relying on being a high value man, that i am, to get me into an LTR.
if you could give me advice id really appreciate it and thank you very much for the help i mean common it improved my game, really thank you

Just keep being a high value man. The same things that get you into a relationship, will keep you in a relationship. The woman is attracted to the things you are doing now, and the big reason why relationships end is because guys stop doing the things that attracted the girl in the first place, and she ends up losing attraction.

Mirror her interest. Don't put more into it than she is.

Read up on push/pull theory.

I'm currently in a LTR with a SNL.

I didn't say that it can't work. On the contrary.

But the TS should be sure he can handle it. It can yield a lot of insecurities.