Hi guys. Sorry for the long post but I don't know what to do anymore.

As the topic says; my girlfriend is sucking the life out of me. I honestly feel depressed around her. My frame is bad, its terrible. We've been going out for 6 months, and have gotten nowhere. Seriously. Nowhere. And it's not because I haven't been escalating blah blah all that crap. Don't give me that shit. I'm not in the mood for it. I honestly do not know what's going on inside her head, or what she feels for me. I barely talk to her. We're in senior year by the way. Everyday feels like a goddamn struggle with her. But I'll get to the point.

It's not a matter of if I will break up with her; its when. I don't want to break up now because I'll still be in contact, or at least till school's over. I'd rather wait till the end of the year, so I never have to see her again. But I don't think I can last that long. I need to do it now...

But here's a few of my thoughts floating around in my head right now:
- maybe she's uncomfortable being in a high school environment (which she is) and things might get better afterwards?
- maybe she's doing the exact same thing as me, and waiting till the end of the year to break up?
- maybe she's just the shyest person I've ever met and it will take me a long time to get her to open up?
- maybe she's so infatuated with me right now that me breaking up with her will tear her apart?

I honestly don't know. There is no communication between us. It sucks. Also I should add, I know I'm not ready for a long term relationship. I shouldn't even be in one right now. It just kind of happened.

But anyway, my main question is; do I continue to pretend like nothing's wrong, and keep at it, wait till the year's over and see what happens? Or do I break up with her now, possibly tear her heart in 2, and deal with it?

i think you need to look out for number one (YOU) in a situation like this. why make your self unhappy because you are scared you may hurt her, you not even sure that it would hurt her.

i would think if your guys communication is so bad that she probably feels the same as you.

rather break up is my suggestion, then you can meet another lady that blows your mind rather than one who is sucking your soul dry.

Man I know what you mean!

I'm going through the same thing at the moment, me and my girlfriend decided to move into an Open Relationship, and for a week or two I felt much happier, but now it seems to have just gone back to how it was before, she annoys me, she talks CONSTANTLY about absolute crap.

Maybe it's a woman thing, I don't know. I don't think we're ready for long term relationships!

You're in high school and you have a girlfriend??

There's your problem!

dangerous,

don't get pissed when i say this...because i feel for you...i really do!

but goddamn was that post hilarious!

i laughed out-fucking-loud when you said "don't give me that shit".



btw, dump the bitch now. she is ruining your life. she is an emotional vampire.

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Thanks for the advice guys; you're all right.

@Simba: Yeah I suppose I do put her as number one instead of my own self, so I guess I should change that.

@Danzella: Yeah I agree with you too. We're definitely not ready to be tied down just yet. But still I think I would prefer a girlfriend to talk about absolute crap then to just talk about nothing at all. Maybe we could switch? lol

@ProfessorX: You said it. That is my problem. But like I said in the OP, it just kinda happened.

@Mack: LOL yeah I read through the post today again, and I couldn't believe I said half the shit I did. I had just come back from seeing her, and well, that was the state I was in after.

I know I need to break up with her, and I need to do it now, its just more difficult than it sounds

Everyone's given you good advice. Drop her immediately. I just wanted to additionally point out the above, and let you know that these are all justifications and excuses for not just doing it. Read through them again, and you'll see what I mean.

-Do you really think she's going to change who she is and her whole personality, just because she's leaving HS, when she'll be entering a college environment with tons of guys wanting to get with an 18 year old girl?
-If she is, then why are you waiting? You're making it both painful for both of you.
-Unlikely. Maybe, but do you really want to put yourself through years of what is obviously torturous to you, just to get one girl who you aren't getting along with now? I think this one is more of a fear of not having another girl when you leave this one. Realize that there are other girls who will love to be with you.
-I only know a little about your situation from this post. But it seems to me that you guys have no communication, and thus no connection. No emotional connection meas that the break up will be relatively painless (though there will still be drama and some pain).

Whenever the thought that I should drop a girl comes to mind, I immediately sit down and come with the reasons why I shouldn't drop her. I don't even bother thinking why I should, because the thought has come to me, so there's obviously something not working. Sometimes, there are good reasons not to drop her. But usually, the reasons I "shouldn't drop her" are excuses that I'm coming up with. Just something to think about. Good luck!

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I read an article, that I think it's helpful. It's called "REMEMBER: EVERY PART OF THE RELATIONSHIP HAS TO PLAY ITS ROLE!" and you can find it on http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/. Read it and see how you can make a relationship work. There are also other very good articles.

Don't let her suck your life out of you. You deserve to be treated equally. She will test you a lot, and if you don't fail them, she won't make your life miserable anymore. I read a good article about passing tests and very good examples on http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/. Read it, because I had a lot to lose until now, because I didn't know all those important stuff.