Ok my name is alex and i just borked up with my gf i just found about this website....im new...i dont know so much....we borked up 1 month ago...shes cold with me barely talks with barely texts me and other things...i want her back and dont know how to do it.
We broke up because of her problems i always accepted them and i had a drug problem but now its ok i quited...im so disperated to get her back and dont know how. shes the love of my life:( please give me some advices how to text her how to make her want to talk with me and other things please:)
Thanks

Sorry bro, but from my experience once you break up with someone it means that something in the relationship did not work. Trying to change it is too much effort and life is too short to deal with this shit, so my advice is go out, meet a lot of chicks and forget about your ex. Otherwise you'll just screwing yourself up.

I have a question. Met this girl a while ago, while she was dating another guy (who turned out to be gay btw lol). They broke up and I started seeing her for about a month and a half. I like her a lot, but I find it's really hard to read this girl. When we are hanging out she seems like she is having a good time. But I feel I am putting in way more effort than she does. I find that I am asking her out all the time and I am the first to text her. Sometimes I dont text her for a while and she would not text first for a 2-3 days. We were hanging out a few days ago and were talking about what kind of relationship we are having. Basically, we came to a conclusion that we are going to see only each other. So, in a way she is my girl right now, but I feel like nothing has changed. She said that her last guy, who was in the closet for 8 months and never showed any affection to her (they hadnt had sex at all) made her insecure about herself and now she is hesitant to start any relationship. I like this girl a lot and wish things will workout with her, but it drives me nuts that she doesnt ask me to hang out. Any advice on that? Should I back up? if yes, how should I do it? or should I just end it with her cuz it bothers me that I dont get the vibe from her?

sorry for my absence but i can't really answer questions right now... i seriously don't have the emotional/ physical energy to seriously help you guys because a lot of stuff has happened and i don't feel like i should be answering questions right now. i will come back but just not right now - probably over a few weeks

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Brutal, chin up bro.. when your going through hell...... keep going!

Alright this maybe long but I'm going to try and shorten it so ask me questions if need be.
I'm sorta new to this stuff but I've read alot of this stuff and I've starting to internalize the pick up stuff but I'm a disaster at relationships I've got alot of problems I can see my self making hence this post is kinda playing damage control. So I've been freezing out my girlfriend four going on now three days because she has been "losing interest" in me. If our past is important ask I will iterate,anyway I am freezing her out because I've noticed she has started waiting for me to text her first and she almost never sends me messages with cute things any more its almost always short answers ( losing interest). Now I've been really busy this week but now I have nothing for the rest of the week so I will probably be tempted to text her tomorrow.. We have known each other for four years and we have been dating a month.. Advice haha? Im down for anything. I typed this on my phone so typos happen

Lode is on break, so I'm going to step in real quick on this one. First, of all.. stop caring about stupid crap. Who cares if she's not sending you "messages with cute things". Why is that relevant? Furthermore, it is absolutely 100% your job to plan dates and arrange meet-ups. You should not be waiting for her to text you first.

-Wolf

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Alright well she is in Denver for spring break..so I can't really make plans.. So what should I do

Well, since she's in Denver so there's really nothing you CAN do. Put the whole thing out of your mind until she gets back. Keep texting to a minimum (texting is for setting up logistics).. maybe give her a phone call at some point during the week to see how she's doing.

-Wolf

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Being described as 'cute' by your GF.


Is this bad?


I don't remember the specifics but it was a statement I made (not overly 'cute' by any stretch of the imagination!) and she said 'you're cute'.


I hear this now and again and I don't feel at ease with it. Cute sounds beta ha.

I usually don't respond to it either way.

Lode is out so I got a Q for Wolf. I have ADHD so I hope ya'll like bullet points.

-Gamed this girl for 3 months with amazing adventure dates. She would pick up the tab for stuff like Ski lift ticks. She would give me mad amounts of IOI.

-She is 21 y/o and uber christian. I took her V-card within a month of dating. Perhaps because I was a rebound guy. Sex was amazing.

-After a particularly amazing night at a yoga/rock climbing date we had secks in the back of her car. The following day she became very distant and tried to break it off with me by stating she was not in the right place to date because of our sexual relation. I alpha'd her out of the breakup by laughing and telling her don't be stupid and throw something like this away. We made out and I left.

-We had a super awkward week of little & laconic contact. She still gave me the "I miss you" IOIs. Then she iced me out for three days. I told her that ignoring me is unattractive and immature. She said I was right and promptly broke it off.

I am getting freezed out for taking her V-card. This was a huge deal for her. She said she still likes me but feels guilty about being slutty. She says she is emotionally overwhelmed.

I want to keep her around and potentially make her a GF. How would you go about doing that? Is this a case of wanting what I cant have?

I actually joke about this with my girlfriend. She calls me cute all the time. I have to remind that I am not cute.. I AM DARK AND MYSTERIOUS! Lol. Of course, she thinks this is adorable. I can't win.

Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. There's a lot worse things she could be calling you. "Cute" is fine. Girls love cute things.

-Wolf

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Ugh.. this is why I try and stay away from the uber religious girls. I had a girl do this to me before. She was a 25 year old virgin.. the sex was great for a little while, but then she started doing the same thing your girl is doing. I was not able to turn things around (and honestly, I didn't care at the time because I was dating multiple girls).

I think you're doing good so far. You just need her to be comfortable. At this point, she probably fears social repercussions. Her family and friends are probably super-religious as well and she'd probably get all sorts of shit from them if they knew she was having sex. Be persistent and nonreactive to all her lame excuses as to why she shouldn't be having sex with you (like you've been doing so far). You just need to show her that you are safe.

You may want to consider taking her on some proper dates. I usually wouldn't recommend that, but it sounds like you need to show her that this is not going to effect her social status in her peer group. Do something fun for her that she can tell her friends/family about.

-Wolf

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sorry for my absence !

but i will be back real soon.. probably a within one wekk

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wow thanks for replying to all those messages wolfwoodd ( and others )

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Hi! I need help with the beginning fase of the relationship

Here’s the story: A girl broke up with her boyfriend mostly because of me. We have liked eachother for a long time now (have only kissed eachother thoug). Yesterday was the first time we went out for a walk. This is the first time we hung out at nonparty environment btw. I established myself from the start by kissing her and everything was nice, but there was still this kind of wierd awkward tension at times. I think its because we both assume that were in a start of a relationship, but dont know how to be around eachother yet.

So thoughts? Suggestions? How to i loose that tension and make communication more smooth, fun and relaxed?

Goodfella

do something fun, exciting and exotic.. go to a amusment park or karaoke bar, go jump out of planes, you both want to get out of you heads and have fun... you want some experience through which you can share emotions.

she broke up recently .. she is probably projecting that awkward feeling on you - it could be she is in conflict with subconcious assocations from her previous relationship. point, don't make a identity meaning out of those awkward vibes , it could be totally just her doing it.

you deserve her.. seriously just think you deserve her
and accept her for who she is.. maybe she's just shy or a bit introvert Just conciously repeat those two things whenever you feel a block coming up.... sometimes i just walk to the toilet and say to myself '' stop being a fag, just accept the fact she likes you. because in most cases guys fuck up because they think they need to impress her or make things ridiciously funny.. it's not.. lol just accept the fact she likes you.

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