You are being a bit childish as well .. being obnoxious en rejecting her emotions.. why did you do that ? is there are reason ? where did you learn such behaviour ?

I am slightly confused about this one,

Hah, probably 7 times in 2 months, interesting that you asked, what does that tell ?

I am totally keeping that in mind, this was my first LTR and what a fucking GOLDMINE of knowledge it is, i am thankful for the "experience" part.

But my blood is still boiling of anger at myself man :/...

k-loc

it is very true social pressure will make people do things they normally wouldn't do. But she can cheat whenever she want to, even if you totally disagree... I also guarantee she will flirt with other guys because of the social pressure, when she's asking you '' if she can go out with friends'' she's also asking permission to flirt with other guys.

Why would she ask it in the first place... right ?

flirting doesn't mean she will cheat, you must trust her - i know your fears but those fears are only bad expectations. If she cheats then she isn't worth it... if she cheats then she is a ignorant dumb bitch - you could get better. it's all a test, a relationship test.
il bet your GF flirts when getting groceries... il bet she flirts on work as well, it's just social communication woman are used to - it makes them feel comfortable in an enviroment where they don't feel comfortable at all.

you need to get these thoughts about her cheating out of your mind, because she could already have cheated 2 days ago... who knows ?
maybe she is thinking the same thing about you when you're going out and therefore this kind of fear is commonly a shared one.
When you keep fears like this in the back of your mind you will sub-communicate this unconciously into your relationship - it's a serious drawback. it's a primitve caveman thought : in stone age times when people left a social circle they could compromise the social circel, that is why we still have some overprotective thoughts. In the stone age rape murder were common .. but we don't live in the stone age anymore but our brains still have some instinctive patterns.

Solutions: realizing you got nothing to worry about.

1. go out with her
2. meet her friends and go out with them - get value in the social circle.

take the lead ... escalate ... you didn't blow anything...
asked if you go out .. to either:

meet you
or just to know if you are hooking up with other girls

people ask things for a reason... i see enough IOI .. keep on gaming, assume attraction. You clearly like her otherwise you won't mension the ''relationship'' word, go for it.

This has been a big issue for me and my GF. I am wondering where to draw the line. In my opinion I think it is disrespectful for her to talk to guys she has had flings with in the past. I feel like she should be completely ignoring these people because she is with me.

How do Alphas handle this?

Following up on your reply, how should I initiate contact with her? she's really awkward, and surrounded by her friends at the bar. Do you know of anything I could text her/date ideas other than meeting up with her at the bar?

I feel like my relationship is dying for the wrong reason - college. My girl thinks her feelings might be changing because were physically apart..is this normal?

Lodewijkp

Thanks for the tip. I shall try that for sure. She has a lot of so called guy friends and almost a townboy kinda attitude. Not that it really makes a difference...I think.
But yes I do have very strong feelings for her, I know this bc Ive dated a few Crazies in my time and walked away from situtaions like this before. She was not always like the bitchy girl at all up til recently. I have another post I started with that part, but short version, she feels that "She doesnt deserve me." I agree with you that something in her past has made it a issue with sex, and your right, maybe I just need to force in the romance and FreeOut when I dont get it. I told her yesterday that we will need to see eachother more. Im not having a relationship over my cell phone (or a girlphone not girlfriend as I like to call it (i thought of that on the spot with my argument I thought it was rather creative)) A week freezout you say? I will just have to trust you on that. We see little of eachother as is. Last time we hung out was two mondays ago for like 7hrs at the State Fair. I will keep you posted and thank you for the help Lodewijkp, its a bigger help then anyone has offered.

She dumped these guys .. she's not with them for a reason and they always will try to get her back... These guys are doing hell alot of self-sabotage. I wouldn't like my GF talking to these chodes but i wouldn't worry about it. she is probably just getting some self esteem or approval out of it.. she is just using those guys.

How important is it to worry about such thing ? it doesn't make any sense because it's out of your control. If you really know what you want you don't spend time in controlling things which are uncontrollable. Mature guys do not worry about something out of their control .. they accept it

so I guess no one is able to answer my question?