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You mentioned you're barely old enough to drink legally.
Take it easy . . . you're going from confused to sympathetic to angry to some relationship principles law-maker.
You're essentially "falling out of love" with her and you can't believe what you once thought was could be forever could disappear so quickly. You bought into all the hollywood love crap about it being eternal and unconditional, etc . . . but you realize that all it was a period of sex, comfort of not being alone, and security gained from the belief that you wouldn't be sucking out a strange man's sperm while eating her out.
If your true belief in love was beyond ^these things . . . well, this thread wouldn't exist right?
Take it easy . . . we are not bound to act as some leading role in a make-believe b romance movie. We are what we are. We like to spread seed. Some of us get off on the fantasy that a girl's vagina is our personal sperm tank; some of us get angry when they are not. Some of us don't like to hang out alone. Just accept it as it is. Accept yourself for who you are for all your strengths as well as your quirks. Your active avoidance of things you might think to be perceived 'negative' is turning you into a melodramatic school girl. Christ, I thought I was reading the post of a 15 year old chick.
1. She didn't fuck up. She did as a 20 year old should, given the environment and circumstances she was given.
2. Being wimpy has nothing to do with it. A man sees vagina and sticks it in. A man sees a crying girl and comforts her. A man gives second chances.
3. But a man sees that he's doing 2 because he's a man, and doesn't shift the reasons of his behavior to being blind, wimpy, deserves this or doesn't deserve that.
4. If you're going to break up, break up and do it like a man. There's no reason to huff and puff. There's no reason to act like some 15 year old girl. Pat her on her back, give her some encouraing words, and send her off on her way. It doesn't seem as if you're accustomed to communicating this way so you'll have to remind yourself to keep your voice down. You'll have to remind yourself to talk slowly, firmly, and with purpose.
5. Read your last post. Yoda was right. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. This is in fact your flowchart. Find a way to snip it somewhere.
PS From a guy who loves to spend time alone . . . I hear this from other guys all the time . . . "Ohh . . .I'm so scared of being alone." - Can you elaborate? I mean . . . I suppose if you have no hobbies, interests, or means to exercise those things, it could be boring but where does 'fear' come into the equation?
And if it gets too boring to be engrossed in your own shit, then go to a bar and pick one up and have your way with her . . . and I don't mean just sexually but sit her down, force her to listen to your babble, etc . . . life's great man.
We're both 21. Yeah, apparently we fell out of love. We've been trying to work things out, but I don't think I see it going very far. Although, your point number two did make me think..
I have hobbies and shit that I do that I love that fills my day. I love time alone and being by myself, but I meant I'm scared of being alone as in not having a fiance, a significant other, because we've been together for so long it'd be weird to not have someone there for me and for me to love... as lame as that sounds lol
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