what is "js"?

is that an abbreviation for "just"?

i'm so corn-fused...

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

This is a topic that I'm glad to come across. Sounds similar to my situation. Dating this girl for3 months and its so tough to hang out. We both knew and accepted this going into it. I have not made myself available too much, but I haven't at least offered a few ideas to hang out once in a while. We see eachother once a week at best. (we work in the same building but don't see eachother that much. Normally its once in awhile before she leaves (she leaves Earlyer then I do)) that being said, she is a very independent woman, and I respect that. I wish we hung out a tad bit more (hense why we probably haven't had sex yet...that or shes been burned bad by having sex in her mind too soon) . She is.going thru a transision I'm sure( I'm not sure when or how long her last relationship was but I do know from talking to her that im not her typical type, w.e that's worth). The point is, this helps some and maybe even just texting a "good luck at work" or somethin else innocent and supportive probably seems "needy" to her.

I can say from my experience, little it may be, that making her seek you out rather than appearing super available is a good thing.

Yeah I got that vib from a few post I have read. I have done that the past few days and we had a big talk. It turns out that there where two major issues that were bothering her.
Simply put, I know a woman for about 2 years now, she is like 40 so I have no interest what so ever, we just texted and were like simple friends. Anyways, she works with my girl like 8hrs a week, but for whatever reason comes off wrong on my lady. Yesterday, we worked it out and I no longer talk to this other woman. Turns out she was making my girl feel like shit for w.e reason, BUT was also starting problems in another relationship at the same work place. So nonetheless I am sure that she will no longer be an issue b/w me and my lady.
Second, and this you guys might be able to help me on b/c Ive Never had a woman admit to this. During our talk she stated that I am too good for her....wait what?!? What is that suppose to mean? and furthermore why would it make her want to push me away? Im not over the top nice to her but apparently I must do more nice things then past boyfriends. (simple stuff like buy a soda or coffee once in a while, or a like $2 snack.) Now I would never do this if i was Gaming a girl, but she it my GF and I enjoy doing small things.
I dont smother her with saying Im always free either or blah blah, I keep my frame. Sure I let her know that Im disappointed that she makes little free time for us but I know its not coming off as needy either.(ex. her:im going to workout at a boxing class mon; me: we where suppos to go to dinner, but ok ill just catch MNF with my buddies) We spend little time together and I basically called her out on it, saying that she makes it look like she doesnt want to spend time with me, and if thats the case then LJBF. (I mean after all thats what it is right? not a relationship) Putting my foot down, Id like to think, was what she needed to hear and for her to know I can and will walk away.
I also called her out on her "bitch sheild" towards me, saying she does not need to give that to me. I am not her enemy nor should I be viewed as such. I will say this though, before we dated and even into the first few months she was not like that so SOMETHING changed and I blame about 1/2 on me, for I was AFC for little while but corrected it now.

Long rant, I know, but for you guy to fully help out I know you need to know the facts of whats going on. And Thanks ahead of time for any and all help.