im losing my composture... i got the habit to delete her because im already checking my fucking MSN if she's online or not .... i don't know fucking why ..

im trying to put in msn quotes that i've moved one etc ( we were taking dancing lessons ) i put under my name(quote) i came back from dancing lessons etc. ( without her)

i got the tendancy to block this bitch .... i could keep her msn but i can block her facebook ....

lol i don't know why im thinking about this crap .. waste of time .. im think im little bit on the edge - feelings of care and love are dissapearing and im getting angry.

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You aren't moving on.
You can't close a door deciding you'll move on.
You can't say "ok, let's have 5 more minutes of grief and then I'm gonna move on".

You'll move on by yourself. Like attraction isn't a choice, "moving on" isn't either.
What you are able to do is just to avoid telling other people you're doing it.
You're trying to convince other people of what you're not convinced.

Take that quote out of your msn. Write the same thing you had before it or something like that.

The more you say "I'm gonna move on, you can bet!", the longer you'll start to do that... because you're thinking too much.

she fucking insulted me ....... and she is text messaging '' happy christmas X '' that fucking cunt.. she fucking dumps me over phone and lied to me and fucknig insulted me ... AND SHE SAYS HAPPY CHRISMAS ... im gonna pay her back.

it''s not fucking deleting and blocking .. it's fucking deleting blocking and she can suck my fucking cock - there is nothing good about her FUCK HER PERIOD.

this time i won't feel fucked up about paying her back.

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As your from the netherlands, and also dealing with damaged goods. My now Ex-gf broke up with me around the same time. And Christmas is fucking shit.

You got to realize you cant change her, she got to deal with her issúes. If your best wasnt good eneough.. maybe she doesnt want the best. Some girls need drama, some girls dont want love but settle for a fucked up sense of safety. Its her issue. She needs to deal with it.

David D. Says: Whenever your feel like your losing controll, STOP!, Pull the needle out of your arm.

I was watching the lame "All you need is love" X-mas special. And i fuking hated it, all those people feeling happy and shit. And at that point i realised that something beautifull like that is still out there somewhere for me. Be the best you can be, let this go.

Also try reflecting on yourself, why do you need someone like that? its not all her.

Take care

Delete and block...and when you can log on and not be overwhelmed with angry thoughts/wondering what she is doing, only then will you have succeeded. Until that point remember this--every minute you spend angry is another minute that relationship has taken from you, so like Hobbit said, when you feel that, breathe deep and take the moment back.

Needy broken people are remarkable in their ability to make us grow quickly and unnaturally attached--it is in our nature (especially for women) to want to fix those people. But remember--that's not love, that's not good m/w interaction, even though it masquerades as such.

It sucks now, it feels awful, but if you really do walk away completely, it will get better.

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today i've met her on chat ..... i was telling her she should cut me some slack and leave me alone , we got into a angry convo as i told her she treated me like shit .... ( dumping over the phone etc). we argued and got into a fight for an hour or so .... ONE FUCKING HOUR... i was like you dumped me why do you even bother ? why defend ? . she called me a fucking kid she called me immature she didn't want to apoligize until i started talking about her ex who abused her for months.

suddenly she became angry and threathened to come to my house lol .. i said well ok we could drink a cup of thea and stayed deadly calm.

i explained myself for the 21412414th time and finally i got trough it
after a while she told me she's really sorry and started talking about her ex who abused her ... she met him on the day she dumped me over phone she was picking up some stuff she left there , he threathened her a few times.

that says enough .... she's screwed up - she told me she didn't have guts to face me because she thought i would punch her...... i didn't said im mad at her i didn't said angry shit and i didn't insult her......

im not a psychologist but throughout the conversation she said stuff man .... i think she really is mentally screwed up it even got me worried. i mean the girl threathened me to do somthing to me if i ever talk about her ex .. and 5 minutes later she asked me TO TALK ABOUT HER EX ?!!??!? ( which i tried before on the relationship ) at the end she said sorry and apoligized to me for everyting she said or done ...

after the convo we had a good conversation, and she gave me IOI's by the 7 i even hooked her and she didn't leave...... i felt like we were dating again so i cut the convo off even if im in love with her i can't allow such screwed up person in my life ( my online and phone game is top notch ).

i can be her friend .. but right now i can't stand the idea she's with another guy or something.... i think i can't be friends right now and that's also shitty.
She is literally trying to stay in my convo and she's forcing me to ask her questions ... she even got disappointed or mad when i left.

i know enough about relations and gaming .... and i know for sure ... we can hook up again and we can have something again - it's only a matter of time before land in bed '' as friends ''..... there's defenitly still some attraction. but i don't want to be the cock in a glass box '' BREAK AT EMERGENCY '' and she's too unstable it got me scared today.

i was thinking like '' gawd .. you need a shrink '' ....

i still care about her but i can't BLOCK OR DELETE HER ... i know it's the best thing to do .... but man .. she really got me concerned.
i can talk to her without getting angry ..... but somehow i don't know man ... im afraid i will get her back or we both will get back together but im also afraid we don't get back together hahahaha mixed feelings how fucked up is that.

Foundation your als kinda right ... it's christmas time and it also feels fucked up .... you feel fucking bad and lonely that makes it extra hard.

man .. im just shaking my head ..... WTF ... LOL i should write a book : ''how to meet crazy bitches '' but i don't want to solve her problem so she and her next BF can have a relationship .. i don't give a fuck about that. so i will block and delete her for a period of time , she told me she understands me so she can't make a big point out of this.

maybe when i get back over a few weeks with better inner game we could be friends or when she has solved her problems we could date ... right now i will only land in bed or in the friendship zone --- not the relationship zone ---- possible replacement is the-- screwed up zone --- ..

i now got the feeling i need to help or something that hero mindset but i have to take care of myself first...

peace thanks for the replies .....

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