this is some shit, i hate the kind of dudes who act like that. been in the same situation. the advice about negging and dlv the guy worked for me.

i feel u bro but im trying to steal some dudes girlfriend any tips sike naw but i have an opposite problem this chick confessed her love to me when she was drunk then told me her boyfriend was comming to the party now i knew her for a while before she was goin out with him and supposedly unknowinly to me she liked me the whole time missed my chance so im just layin low not tryin to pick her up ill wait untill they break up if they do if not well im an idiot who didnt act

depends on the degree, after a confrontation if it continues, then violence. I always want to jump to violence, but if someone was messing with my girl and I confronted him and he didn't stop, or he slapped her ass, that ground for an ass kicking.

+1

Let's take one step back, and ask why are you still w/ this chick?

She either A) doesn't respect you B) doesn't respect herself.

In the end, you lose either way.


Bottom line: you're young and in the prime poon years of your life. Take full advantage. Otherwise, you'll end up like us old farts and have to memorize 100s of hours worth of routinues and practice in order to get girls half as hot and willing.

sounds like someones trying to make her bf jealous. to see if he would fight for her. and she can see its working as shes gettinig a reaction!

make no threats, as it will backfire and make him more determined. girls like being fought over, I'm guessing shes probably giving off the wrong signals to him also.

leave her, run lke the wind, becmoe a player, never get into a relatiopnship ever again

I disagree with the last two people. She hasnt cheated on you so
there really isnt any reason to dump her. (Unless you just want to)
He has stepped over the boundaries numerous times, but she has
denied doing anything with which shows she is loyal to you.
I can think of two reasons why she still might be talking to him.

1) You said he help her in the class alot, so she probaly still talking
to him because she needs help. Finals are coming up and she wants
to make a good grade. (If this one is the case then she will stop talking
to him after finals are over)

2) Shes a little insecure and she gets an ego boost from this guy hitting
on her. Kinda like a hot girl in the club that gets a ego boost by blowing every AFC off that comes up to her. So she might just like him complimenting her all the time, (Im not saying this is right/wrong Im just
saying this might be the reason she keeps him around)

Red flags all the way around brother-

This post may come across as harsh but I have good intentions in mind.

I think that your efforts are focused in the wrong direction- a guy will continue to hit on a girl as long as he thinks there is a chance.... and your girl is making him feel that he has a chance- So why would you be upset at the guy when it is your girl that is allowing this to happen? You shouldn't even need to step in dude! She should of had your back and put a stop to this when he disrespected you the first time. You follow me?

Bail out while you still can! It will likely only get worse if not with this guy- then with the next guy. She is totally displaying untrustworthy behavior! My friends and I call it "Ho-like tendencies".

By the way, what do you think would happen if you and your girl ever had a big falling out? Who do you think she'd run to? Does "Thanks, that really means a lot to me. I'm glad to have a friend like you." Ring a bell?

But she is only trying to be nice right? One day (with this guy or the next) she may be just too "nice" to say "No" at the right time.

I mean... what's really the deal? Has she not heard of a tutor before?

Need I mention how lame this kid's game is... what will happen when a smooth PUA comes along and wants to "study" together at an unassuming location? From the sound of it- your girl is going into health sciences... Doctor, Nurse, etc.. Trust me when I tell you this- many difficult classes lay ahead and that equals many hours of study groups with her classmates. She may even end up having class with the same kid again- it's actually pretty likely. How much are willing to cope with?

You don't deserve to put up with some chick that IS NOT LOYAL to you bro. If she was loyal she would have stopped associating herself with this douche at the first hint that he was trying to hit on her.

Don't be afraid of taking up a little space in this world man- You have every right to feel the way you do. She plays by your rules or she can find someone that will put up with her shit.

I dunno which way to go with this... I mean, like said before, she hasn't cheated on me. So really I have no solid reason to break up with her. And I don't want to. But as also previously stated, it seems to me she has little respect for me. She does stuff that she knows I will get mad about, like yesterday. She told me she was going over to my house after school to watch the new dog we just got, even had one of my roommates leave a key in the garage so she could get in. I get out of my class early, she calls me and tells me she is going to grab some lunch and then will be right over. I watch some TV for an hour, wondering where she is. I text her asking if she is sitting down to eat lunch or bringing it back to my house. She tells me she just got done eating and will be home soon. I said, "Oh sweet thanks for the invite." So she gets to my house and can tell I'm mad at her. She said that they all went out to lunch after their last class and that one of the kids (this kids friend, the one I thought was cool) paid for everyone. Then she also said the kid who was trying to steal her from me was there too so she didn't think I'd want to go. I simply said, "Its cool that I can't hang out with my own girlfriend when this kid is around." Then I went to take a shower and left it at that. She said she didn't think I'd get mad about it... Bullshit. She knew I would, but just wants to deny it afterward. I'm going to have to talk to her about all this tonight, its been on my mind for too long...

Oh, and this kids friend, who I don't mind, texted her later that night and said something like, "Thanks for all the laughs this semester. You are a great person, '96Firebird' is lucky to have you..." I mean really, I don't need all this...

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It irritates me so much when I see women walk all over what seem to be nice guys- it happens all the time!

There are plenty of women out there that will not do this- but when you show weak behavior by allowing certain things to happen there seems to always be potential for some women to take advantage- just like your girl is doing to you.

My advice is to go with your intuition... there is a reason that you feel the way that you do.

You playing the "I'm not gonna talk to you cuz I'm mad" & Nice guy role with this girl will get you what you've gotten from her thus far- She is trampling all over you dude. She meets you when she wants to meet you and goes out with whoever she wants REGARDLESS of how it makes you feel.

I know this will sound a little harsh but she is either not too bright or completely inconsiderate. Mark my words- this shit will happen with this guy or another guy again- and even if not you'll be cautious in the future- that is not a good feeling.

By the way- if you break up with her she will come running back because from the sound of it- she is not used to you taking charge like that and she won't know what else to do.

This will give you the upper hand big time. The best thing about it is that it is a "Win-Win situation" for you. If you break up with her and she doesn't come running back you will know that she is just not that into you (therefore not worth your time) or she will grovel at your feet to get you back at which point you can decide whether you want to keep her or not & have her on YOUR terms.

If you do decide to break up with her DO NOT half-step it. Break it completely off because if you sound like you are unsure when you do it your value will be in the dirt.

Only other alternative I see which is the easy way out is to not break up with her and get yourself another girl on the side. It can be tough going "Solo Cholo" lol- Either way she'll likely come running back pathetically explaining that she didn't realize what she was doing bothered you so much... even though you probly explained it to her dozens of times.

As guys, we all sympathize with you Firebird. I know if this were happenin with my chick it would drive me crazy too!

Now I only read the first few posts, but thats just enough to just put in my input.

1.) You don't want to do anything stupid. And by that I mean barbaric, violent, stalkerish, or in an angry manner. This just conveys your lack of control over your emotions...and jealousy. Thats just going to demonstrate lower value!

2. ) Communicate with her, but be an ADULT about it. Showing your a little jealous and concerned is great. Nothin wrong with letting her know how you feel about the scenario. Your her boyfriend, thats what you do! A man needs to protect his property.

3.) Play it cool. This is the PUA way. You might be in a LTR, but we always gota stay on top of our game, regardless. Its situations like these that turn a cool guy with game, back into AFC!

Heres what I would do: Turn it into a silly game! Your gf obviously knows this guy is a joke, and a threat to the relationship. So instead of having his "texts/ or comments" always be something negative...have fun with it....for example....tell your gf what to text him (funy things)..

Him (aka the puerto rican prince LOL) : "Hey i think u shuld come over n study.."
Her (but actualy you): "No sorry but u wana come over instead and watch me and my bf fuck?"
,
Him: "Hey lets go on a study date then lunch after"
Her: "How bout you buy both me and my boyfriend lunch, and u can get the test answers for me"

U see were im goin with this...have fun with it, turn this guy into a big joke. Show her how this fool has no game, and how u wuld do it better...haha....not only are you playin it cool, but DHV'ing also! Goodluck man!

I've been in this situation before. Honestly I think you need to smarten your girl up. As the post up there said, you should really consider dumping her, if at least temporarily so that she'll come begging to you. I know this works. Doesn't it bother you that even after all that talk she's still talking to this clown?

Right now he's literally running a pseudo-boyfriend destroyer routine on her by brushing you off and being a challenge to her and you're not stepping in. AMOG his ass, and your girl's too. You need to show you're the alpha male here. Right now you're just being tooled and you don't even know it.

I have barely read what anyone else's advice is in this thread, just what is going down with you bird. So if i reapeat what other people say, my bad.

You didnt have a right to be mad that she was out with her classmates this last time. It doesn't seem like that big of a deal. YOu are kinda blowing it out of proportion. She is being honest with you. She wants you to let this shit roll off of your back, not bother you. That is why she is telling you. These guys will obviously keep trying to hang out or hook up with her. She wants you to be less insecure about it. She wants you to be a bit jealous, but not the way you are.

I bet when you went to take a shower, she wished she hadn't came over. Now why would you want her to think that? She may have texted the other guy back bashing you a bit. Don't give her a chance to be able to talk shit on you to one of these guys that will listen and then try to destroy you. Be a better less jealous bf. If you keep this up, she is going to get fed up with it and bounce on you and end up with the guy who bought food for everyone.

She knows she can rely on you to be the good dependable guy. She hasn't left you so she obviously really likes you. Relax about it. This isn't the end of the world.

I wouldn't dump her. Beautiful women live their life like a float trip. They just bounce from raft to raft and are rarely in the water for long. The moment you dump her, you are admitting defeat. She will instatntly call your arch nemisis up and you won't see her for a long long time.

Or you can just date uglier women. Your choice really..

my $.02
CK

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I think beautiful women come a dime a dozen... If she bounces off to the next guy within a week of you two breaking up- what does that really tell you about her?

ACM's Post up above is something that I'd really consider. It may be a little too late for you to fix your image in her eyes but if you would have done that earlier I would have loved to hear that dude's response.

Dump her ass- She's no good for a LTR.
Here are a few reasons:
1) She doesn't respect you
2) She is inconsiderate
3) She lied to you about another dude no less... Don't tell me that you forgot that minor flaw?
4) You've got a lot of damage control ahead of you (Is she worth it?)
5) There are women out there (I'm assuming that she is an HB7-9) that are just as hot or hotter that have a good head on their shoulders and that will not walk all over you.

I take it that you're a pretty young guy- You should take some time to date around in order to find out which characteristics you like and dislike in a woman.

I'm not going to break up with her. I guess she really has done nothing wrong, I'm going to trust her that she didn't know it would upset me. I could be way wrong here and I could very well look back at this post someday and wonder what the hell I was thinking. But for the time being, I believe she wants nothing to do with these other guys as she has had plenty of oppourtunities to cheat or whatever and has not (to my knowledge, of course). Sure, she has some work to do in the whole respecting me/my feelings area, but I can live with that. And she didn't really hide anyone from me, she showed me every weird text or tell me every stupid thing some other guy would say. Only the first time did she hide it from me, which has to do with the respecting me.

And CK, I'm not going to reward her for doing something that upset me. She has to learn that she can't always get what she wants. She can sit on the couch and play with the dog while I take a shower, I really didn't want to be around her because I was afraid I was going to say something I'd regret later on. And to be honest, she isn't THAT gorgeous. She has a great personality though, and is really fun to be around.

We'll see how everything works out. She told me she will never talk to the kid after this semester, but might have classes with the kid's friend. I always invite the kid's friend to parties that I hold, but he has yet to come. I don't think he likes the fact that she has a boyfriend, but is acting like he doesn't care. I don't care anymore, whatever happens happens.

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