No I read enough and your later statements confirm what I was thinking.

This may sound rude but it's just honest. If the guy is so out of your league he knows it. Guarantee you he knows you want him, but you're not up to par from him to make an effort to bang. It's a terrible situation for a girl to see a guy as that hot because he knows it too. His gf is hotter. He knows he can go to a club and get hotter. So he plays around with you but it's not really worth the effort to text you. I don't even think it's deeper than that.

You'd probably get to bang him if you just told him straight out and made it easy for him. I do the same thing with chicks I think are cute but not respond to a text message cute. Or take out for drinks cute. If he's that much of a prize for you, do you think he doesn't know that? Do you think there aren't other girls like you out there trying to book him to fuck him? And do you think he has any incentive to meet up or take you seriously when even by your words hed be fucking down?

That sounds harsh but it's just the truth. If you want to bang him make it easy. Offer to suck his dick as crude as that seems. As n2 said you should have more self respect for yourself but I can't tell you that this guy takes you seriously.

Like I said, it's how I read it. I'm not only taking the text messages...it's the actions mixed in. Personal trainers don't need to be fired. They know that when they see you in the gym with another trainer it's obvious that you are no longer needing their services. When you get your hair done, you don't send a text to the hairdresser saying how good of a job they've done. TO ME, those are attention seeking. All that coupled with the stop staring at me stuff and the you staring at him stuff are all just batshit crazy signals.

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You DO send a thank you txt to the hairdresser to show him you want dating and not client hairdresser relationship! Lol
It was a followup from the flirty 3 hour session. And it didn't push him away. After the txt he asked me what was i doing later and he was holding my hand. I was absolutely exhausted or else i would have been more keen on going out.

The stop stare at me stuff was after the argument.. So it's a natural normal reaction.

I stared at him Before we argue and he stared at me after. So hemust be batshit crazy too because he mirrored my behaviour

I know that he knows i fired him.. but in the future if we talk again i will make it clear so he doesn't say he overdid it with the touching. He won't have the excuse of the pt touching the client. Do you get what i m saying?

He is hot but not out of my league. There are lots of reasons why he wouldn't want to proceed. Not all gyms encourage their pts to sleep with their clients. Some gyms are against it.
I booked him because he gave me a very very cheap price. He gave me a free session so i felt uncomfortable not to book him. I wanted anotger pt who was specialising in something i wanted more. I had spoken with the other pt and let him down.
He knows about that and he also knows why i did it. I told him.
It would have been awkward for me to take the free session and hire someone else.
Also what's this about the gf being beautiful etc lol
If things were that simple.. pretty girls would have never been cheated or dumped. We would all have plastic surgery to lead comfortable and satisfying lives. That's not the casethough is it?

To my knowledge, i went no contact with the guy as soon as i told him goodbye. He came and tried to start speaking again. I just pushed him away and maintained the no contact.i was upset. Now i started missing him. He has gone no contact too ie he is upset too

I would have taken offence on your words if there was truth in it.

But i have ALL in your list. I enjoy the intensity of the game with this guy.
He is not marriage material because he is younger than me. I don't have any other choice for a relationship that could lead into wedding. So while waiting for something better i m brushing up my skills.

You have to be honest with yourself
The above, is the definition of out of your league. If you've never slept with a guy that hot, he is out of your league.
Straight up contradiction/falsehood #2
I never said he wont cheat on his gf. I even said he would if you make it easy for him. I know his gf his hotter, or lets say I can safely assume so. Because a 10/10 personal trainer guy isn't going to be dating a chick who has never fucked a guy as hot as he is. In most cases, couples are looks matched. If his gf thought as you do, that he is such a prize, a relationship wouldnt really work out. Guys seldom date down. Now, I dont know what is gf looks like, but lets be real, she wasnt so gaga over him as you are (you chose a gym for him, put up with numerous cancellations etc). That chase dynamic doesnt work. So yes, his gf is more in his league I assume. Again, not saying he wont sleep with you.

You're a smart girl maria, but you're being very non objective. Please reread your story. Literally every paragraph is you chasing this guy. In fact, I'll pick a paragraph at random and if its not needy sounded, I'll give that point.
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I was reading this, and it kept reminding me of a way a guy would move with a certain type of woman. And I couldnt figure out what it was. And then it hit me. Strippers. This sounds like the guy who goes to the strip club, the hot stripper (who he's never been with a girl that hot) gives him attention, to work his pockets. When he texts that stripper no response. When he stops by the club, she runs up and says "I missed you!"

Where you look deeper into his hot and cold, I just see a guy working a client, or just getting an ego trip knowing this chick wants to bang him.
Gyms dont have policies of locking rooms with clients while the client feels awkward? Gyms dont have policies where pts respond to business messages to avoid a bad review for the gym?

Serious question...do you really think, that of all the women who come into that gym, of all the women this guy meets, YOU'RE the one he acts like this with? You're the one that got him to tow the line of doing something? You're the first woman to spark whatever you think this is?

I'll give you some real advice Maria. And this may be the best advice a man will give you. When a man wants to be with you, he'll be with you. If he wants to see you, he will. If he wants to text you, he'll find a way. Gf, job or not. You have this habit of chasing these guys who string you along. Instead of taking yourself out of the cycle, you hold on. You keep hope. You make a million reasons for why he wants you but doesnt act. But a man who wants you will act. And my advice would be, dont waste your time on men who dont value you. I remember this, because myself and n2 I think spent a long time a while back with this very story of you chasing a dude who you had a million reasons for his actions. And as is the same for guys, if being with or fucking someone is this complicated, theyre not worth it. And the more you keep at it, the more you degrade your own self worth.

I agree with Jack, because this all read super clingy. The trainer knows it. He knew it from day 1 you wanted him. You arent the first woman to choose their gym because of him. You'd fuck him if he has a gf. You'd fuck him if his personality sucks. You said these things. You really think he doesnt know that? Im not in rush to fuck a girl who after sex, she's the one fucking someone she never fucked before. I want to fuck a chick that I feel Ive never fucked someone that hot, not the other way around.

I say he's playing you because Im guilty of doing the same. And I see the signs. Stringing the girl along. Some days interested, some days not. No real effort. Sure, I'd bang them, but if they'd teleport to my place and leave right after. Again, no one guy or girl, wants to fuck someone they feel is below them. And lets be real, you feel that way. He wont be such a prize to you otherwise. And you act like he doesnt know it and is possibly being a virtuous bf. He couldve taken you out after the gym. He couldve given you a bs excuse to meet outside of the gym. He's crossing the line if he has a gf, so either this is his first time crossing (which is unrealistic to imagine) or he just doesnt care enough to cross with you. Again, if you want to fuck him, make it easy for him and do anything. But dont pretend this is just some 10/10 boy scout who is only flirting with or this way with only 1 woman in a gym.

Someone here...tell me....maybe I'm wrong. Is it common for you to really put effort into a chick thats not on your level of looks? Are many of you here fucking down? If so, maybe I think differently and I'm wrong. Cause when there is that much of a differential in looks for me, sure I may flirt, but I'm not even taking time to text or meet with that chick. (And yes, he is hotter than you are because a 10 girl isnt doing all this for a 10 guy).

Marie are you really a man, perhaps a gay one in cognate, or you're gender switching? reason I ask is your post sounds eerily familiar to that of other's I've read from guys on here over the years.

I am not a man.

i think if he's that hot, sex is no big deal to him. as such you got nothing to weaken him with, try money

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I was intentionally dating guys who I was considering unattractive because I was feeling safer. My first relationship was a complete failure that left me with lots of insecurities
I grew up though, I worked on them and I stopped feeling like that. So I thought I'd give it a go for someone who was looking better. Facing my fears. You know?
When I joined the gym I wanted to have a session with him to have something in common to speak. Some months down the line I started feeling serious about my training so I honestly needed a pt to help me break my plateau. I want to join the bikini pro competition. Time is sort of ticking.
It's not necessary for a fit guy/personal trainer to date a beautiful girl. Take example Elliot Hulse. If you go on youtube you'll see who I am talking about. Have you seen his wife?
The assumption about the gf is just a step too far. You don't know what attracted him to her.
Also how was me chasing when he kept the whole classroom waiting for 5-10 min until I make up my mind.
I repeat I got aware of the door lock AFTER the pt knocked the door. The pts are separate business than the gym.
I might not be the only woman he flirted but he is not the only man I flirt either.
The guy from last year that you remember? He is still in contact with me. I friendzoned him and now he is chasing. I rarely answer to his texts. I cancelled dates, I forgot about his birthday. He was begging me to call him. I don't want him anymore.
For someone to feel he hasn't slept with a hotter girl than me he has to be sleeping with 2/10 and 3/10 lol
This guy though wasn't on/off. He was always saying hello, always happy to see me... until the last days.
He is quite young so I don't think that he is experienced in cheating.

Anyway, today we unfollowed each other on instagram. So yeah. It's over.

Thanks for the help.
You just pointed out how unfit I am for dating.
If you want to see my photo I could PM you. So you don't have to make assumptions about my looks.

I don't stand a chance anymore. I am giving up.

Just stop overthinking things and trying to make a plan to get this guy. We are, for the most part, simple creatures.

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Ok. I got it. He is not interested. I give up.

Pay attention to how the guys on this site think. A girl flirts with him and he feels that she'll never change his mind about him. It's when she starts throwing mixed signals is when they fall apart. Flirt with him without contacting him. Ask him when he's going to find some free time. Tell him to figure it out so he can come to your place for drinks.

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Come on Maria... You want to fuck this guy solely from his looks, I didn't read that he was charming, or funny or anything besides how hot he is.. So you want to fuck him for his looks but when I say it's a looks problem between you 2, you act like looks aren't that important. Lol. Like you can fuck this guy off his looks but nah it can't be a possibility that looks matter to this dude. Come on. It's shallow on your side and that's fine.. But I bet it's shallow on his too. There's not much deeper than you long to fuck him cause he's hot and he's not in a rush to fuck you because you're not hot enough.. Or just not his type.

And I never said you were unfit for dating. One guy wasn't worth all this back and forth. Just as guys do, you gotta learn either someone likes you or they dont. And if they like you they'll see you. If they don't see you move on and find someone who will. There are many posts here of guys who waste time on girls going nowhere and this is just another example of that.