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To everyone else that actually provided insight and advice thank you. I'm going to stop seeing this chick as I agree 100% on the toxicity this relationship is growing into. Hardest part will just be to resist the temptation to reply when she does reach back out. I'll make sure your advice isn't forgotten in future relationship
If you can't block her .. friendzone her and leave her in the forever friendzone state.
She will try push/pull, she will try to play games.. you stick to being JUST friends. Nothing more. It will help if you accept that this thing will never progress into something different and be ok to leave it like that.
Don't even get tempted to play any games. Any game playing will put you back into the cycle you want to escape from.
It will help if you keep her as much as you can at an arms length and speak to her with generic answers. Stay indifferent to any of her actions. Don't attempt to control her for any reason. If you sense controlling do not participate.
Eventually she will lose interest at some point and she'll find the next target to play with..
IDEALLY... going no contact would instantly fix all problems with less effort.
I have personal experience on the subject ..so trust me on that.
He's clearly still 'in it'. Keeping contact won't help him period. You can't just down shift and reframe a relationship instantly, not when you're in the attachment cycle which I clearly see he is in.
CHAT