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Shit is pretty simple:
Either a) you believe her reasons, ie she has never been single and all that
or b) you believe she lied, there's another guy or she may not be into you
If it's a) then fine...but do you think 4 weeks is enough time for her? If her reasons is true, then it'll take at least a couple years for her to be at a place where she is ready. If you got back with her tomorrow, or next year, expect her to leave in a month or 2 for the same unresolved reason.
If b) why would you want her then?
See, shit is easy. There is no get back together scenario, at least not one where another breakup isnt inevitable. So just truly move on. Defriend if you have to. But accept that this will not work right now or for a really long time
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Great points and breakdown, I agree for the most part. If B, then that's the end right there. But I'm leaning towards A based on what I've seen and experienced. So let's assume it's A - you're right it will take a very long time for her to get to that place. She is 29, so time may mean something more in this case, but perhaps not. The outside shot of it working sooner rather than later is if she thinks about the big picture and realizes that she walked away from a good thing and makes herself a vow that she will be committed to this going forward. But thinking about it now, I have to agree with you - it'll take one hell of a miracle for it to be permanent and not temporary, since more than a month is needed, which I don't expect for her to reach out in a month's time - I'm secretly hoping that her process takes roughly no more than 3-4 months and it's reignited by the summer time. There's no timeframe for how long it'd take her - could be months, could be 2 years like you said. But agreed, one month isn't enough.
So in terms of FB, better to unfriend or just leave things how they are w/out starting a ripple and a spark? Keep my cool and composure and act like the bigger man and I don't need to even unfriend her b/c Im not even looking at her page?
Thanks brotha, great insight in 2 lines, very clear and to the point and spot-on!
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