I never insist on getting any passwords. None of my boyfriends every insisted about that.
However, it is annoying when he is on facebook that he is hiding stuff.
I don't find it magic discovering new things about my partner. I find it frustrating if it is past a certain stage.
You are right that giving passwords does not equal faithfulness but it creates more comfort.
Last thing I want to see is a partner that runs to hide his facebook screen because I sat next to him.
My mates don't do that. Why would I want it from a partner?
I want my partners to feel open and relaxed around me.

I'd hate to think that any of my male friends let their girlfriends access their Facebook account freely, if I chat to a mate on there I don't want whatever I've said shared with his girlfriend

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I can reassure you that a good amount of stuff you say to your mate are shared with his gf without the aid of facebook.
If you want to keep a secret keep it to yourself.

yeah maybe im not ready, but fuck it im gonna give it a go


met up with her tonight for a drink and gave her the option to walk away, ive only got myself to blame if she does

however shes chosen to stay so im gonna put some work into this and hope it pays off


although now ive got to deal with her best friend having a go at me... yet shes never been in a relationship so doesnt really have a clue which im finding quite funny

This is why you need to choose your bros wisely. None of my bros share our conversations with my girls. I'm not even saying bad stuff, honestly the girls would find "bro talk" as boring as we find your conversations about shoes. (Ok, maybe not quite THAT boring, but close enough.)

I don't feel debating this would help. You're trying to rationalise an emotional need. Private conversations are precisely that, private. Saying "Oh I'm sure I would have found out anyway" doesn't cut it.

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Yes, your bro is most likely telling your business to his gf. Who a bro is with his boys, is much different than who is he with his gf behind closed doors. Let's face it, the guy who is throwing back beers with you and talking about fucking hoes with his boys is crying to his girl about his ED, his uncle who molested him and his insecurities. People pillow talk. Doesn't mean they're not a good friend; it's just the nature of alot of male female relationships.

This thread is full of too many extremes. Knowing someone's phone/fb password does not equate to snooping on someone's fb everyday. I know my gfs phone password. Have I ever checked it? No. She uses her phone openly infront of me and doesn't seize up if I use her phone to play music. Am I a control freak for knowing her password? No. You guys are acting like phones are just for texting and calling. People use other people's phone all the time for bs - checking a web site, looking for directions, playing a video or music. I know alot of couples who are open with their phone and it's not due to snooping. Let's be real here, if someone is hung up on hiding stuff it's not due to privacy. And this is coming from a man who has used that bs excuse to many girls about why my phone is locked or fb not logged in lol.

OP, she doesn't trust you. Maybe she is that over snoopy gf type who would always be checking your fb or maybe she was gonna do it once, see nothing and move on and forget it. But you were caught and she should have left there. If she was a guy posting here about you (a girl) the posts would read "Dump that lying cheating whore." If you want to be honest, be open with her. If you want to cheat, tell her she has to trust you and lock your shit up tighter before messaging other girls. That's your choice. If I had done nothing wrong and my girl snooped through my phone and found nothing, I'd be pissed. However, if I was doing something wrong and she snooped and saw, I'd man up and take responsibility because her instincts were right.

I agree that this is full of extremes.

Regarding snooping gfs/bfs, here is a funny way to punish them:
if they check your internet history, for example, search on google "how to propose to my gf", click some links, close the browser. or google search for "how to stop my gf snooping on me" registered in history, she will see it. games can be funny

That's a great way of reminding her to delete the extra history she makes when she is snooping...
God .. some girls are amateurs

Spoken like a true stalker Maria

You must be a nightmare as a girlfriend, always checking up on your man, secretly following him and checking his phone etc.

Red flag!

Don't call her that, she will analyze your shit with blistering accuracy, and will blurt out several pages of psychobabble. You've been warned.

I'm sorry. You want a nice girl for yourself but the reality is, you won't do very well in any decent relationship. You can't even sit still now, for just a few months. What will happen if you guys get married?

haha nah... I usually don't check.. but one has to know how it works to protect themselves

You two really need to fuck.