Thanks again guys.. really appreciate the replies..

Garkus - I have also had situations with girls who have come out of relationships and I have stolen the limelight and made them forget about ex. it could also however be the case, when a girl does that - that she is on the rebound and so doesn't see it for what it really is. Could take months/years to know she is.
Maybe girls work differently like that. I don't know.

Every time I go on a date with a girl now, I end up kino and kissing very quickly - has never hurt my chances to progress, so this I think is isolated in that respect.

My comment "I did mention it was rare for me to go on a 3rd date as I find it hard to find girls I really like".
I said it in more of a 'I see loads of girls, but don't progress them much and just have sex with them'. She sees me more as the naughty guy who is popular with woman and not the beta retard.

dominique.g - I hope what you say is true. Appreciate knowing your situation.

Heywood - I have really tried to be that better choice. I have a lot to offer and she knows it. I cant say how she feels chemistry wise, but material wise (yes I know its not ust about material things), there is no weak links. Work, living wise, personality wise, physical attraction - I am a very good option for her and I am sure she knows it.

Update:
We last spoke last Wednesday and we have had no contact since then. I had texted her last on the day and phone wise, I phoned her on the Wed (although she didn't pick up and returned my call) so I am not sure what she is expecting in terms of who should make contact first. She did disappear from contact on the first week and then when I initiated, she was overly enthusiastic to hear from me again. Sending the message that she is very glad to hear from me.. But we are back in this situation.

She went to a singles bash on Sat night just gone which was fancy dress. Its kind of singles and at the same time you get to meet people in the community. She has added (since then) a number of guys, of all sorts of looks, and some girls. She told me she wanted to go out and have fun.. and I suppose this is what she is doing.
She uploaded a couple of photos and one of them actually included a girl who has posted on my wall a few times. She must have known who she was. I also thinking she is tring to tool the ex with showing she is in this scene. She said the ex is dead and buried in terms of getting back with him but I am certain (she said it too) that is plays on her mind and she is hurt by it still a lot.

I appreciate some people may say forget it etc.. but as I said, this is the first girl in a long time who I have been really interested in and who has told me she is also interested, she just wants to heal. She could have blown me off on text/not replied. She insisted on speaking on phone to explain.
I have a theory that she is holding back on contact as she thinks that by texting me it may send the message she is ready.. she may just want that time to rediscover herself.

Going forwards, I was thinking to leave it a couple of months to see if I hear, but I also worry if 'out of sight, out of mind'.. and may give other guys a chance to move in. Being back on the market in this area and being that pretty, guys will be after her so I was planning to send her a text tomorrow (10 days later). Maybe say something about missing something funny about her (not too serious) and that I am thinking about her. Not mentioning meeting up.
text would more on the funny side than anything else. Do you think that by her taking this gap.. it is really about me failing to build more excitement/sexual tension in which case I should just alpha my way back in with some sexual texts? What would you do?

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It sounds like you just told her that you fuck girls quickly and dump them. She might be a very good girl and not want to be one of them, unless she gets massively horny to the point she cannot resist it.

No, she knows I like her. I was trying to get into contact with her for a long time and she knows it. I kind of used this language for paranoia of falling into friendzone or coming across too 'into her'. I think I played it quite well in that respect. It didnt stop her texting me after that or asking questions etc..

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