She just called again. Its 3am she's drunk . She claims she dialed my number on accident (bullshit) . We'll see if I wake up to her in the morning.

Update: woke up alone, idk why i even answered it. Couldnt understand her , but she started talking like she wanted to come over. I kinda did the " yeah sure, whatever" thing . She ends up saying nvm go back to bed and hangs up. I call back, she says "i didn't mean to call you." . Obviously bullshit. On the plus side she's making an effort, she's chasing me. But under the cover of needing somewhere stay. I need to say something about this 3am shit though.Its getting old.

Do you really really love her? Do you understand completely who she is and what makes her tick except her pussy? If the answer is no, walk away from the misery. Makeup in a failed relationship is tough work plus the uncertainty of her factors make it even more work. Date new girls with new terms are heck of a lot easier than trying to fix old love.

I care about her a lot. We both are in a rough situation. Im 24 and have been taking care of my mom and brothers for almost 4 years (pay rent, power, gas, everything). I got to say, its not easy. Well this girl is 18 , she works around.80 hrs a week, and watches her cousins on the weekends. We see eye to eye . The problem is though she drinks because of it. And if i had to guess the drinking is a big cause of all this. I realize things are falling apart and there's not much to do but let it play out, but yeah i do love her. I think she has to much on her plate and just can't handle it. But it is what it is.

I think you know what she's doing, but I personally don't think you know why she's doing this. 18 yrs girl is in the stage of exploration be it sexual and socially; almost like a social butterfly. They are not happy when they are being restricted by caging them via external factors (in Asian families -- dating too young and too liberal are sometimes forbidden (very sad)). When this happens, they will rebel and it will show in her later lifestyle in the late 30s to mid 40s that they still harbour this pain with failed short term sexual only based relationships or unfulfilling romantic loving relationships because she can't give you her love when she ain't got any. She will inflict a lot of pain to her future boyfriends as they will be her scapegoats. Her behaviour is consistent with someone who's trying to run away from pain and suffering by drowning her mind with alcohol and work and unreasonable commitments. By this escape is temporary, because she has to face this demon eventually. Once conquered, she can then move and be a fun loving person. Don't over analyze it and don't over think it. You can help her by providing some emotional support , but you can't fix her. In somewhat of an irony, you too have similar issues like she does cause, otherwise you guys wouldn't be attracted to each other.

I guarantee you that if you work yourself being happy and proud and loving, you WILL NEVER attract these kind of girls anymore. In fact, you will find them grotesquely weak and insecure because you are attracting the fun loving and secure girls instead. Believe me, there are better fishes in the ocean other than her!

Like I said before, you have to really invest heavily and emotionally your love to her. It's very draining and the payback very minimum. You have a better payback with a new girl instead.

Hope this helps.

You know, this shit is funny. I stopped worrying about it. I started working out and today was day seven of a no fap thing I've been doing. So yesterday i was cleaning my room and found some of her stuff so i texted her and asked if she wanted it and that i was going to toss it but figured I'd ask. She says she would come by and get it when she could. I make some small talk and she ends up not replying after something I said. So i don't say anything. I get a text at 8 asking " seeing someone new yet ?" i tell her "not really, been focusing on me for the most part" . I don't even ask about her. She tells me she's getting off early and going home and doing nothing. So i tell her she can come by if she's looking for something to do. She does,we chill, i end up fucking her and driving her home. She asks if she can come over tomorrow before she got out of the car too. Feels like an example of "IF YOU BUILD IT THEY WILL COME" haha. Whatever, should be headed out of town soon. At least i have ass until then.