She used the makes her feel controlled comment. She is in a mode where she is acting like a teenager and you are her father mode now. The only thing you can do is distants yourself, Soft Next her, you cant text her bout what she is doing when she is out with friend, you cant be afraid to loose her or at least show it. You need to stop texting and calling her until she contacts you first. If you dont she will start to use the word "controlled" more and will build resentment towards you and then you can forget the relationship.

Ok so the soft next thing. How would you work that into a rela where we text everyday not all day but spaced out text. I always get lols during these. If i go nc for a day that will be like wayyyyy out of porportion for us. In a way i see where it works but i can see that making her upset with me that i didnt tell her im alright or anything. (Dam just reading this i feel soft) we are just really close so i dunno how a soft next goes here, or if its even the absolute best option. I have been distancing myself from her with texts and sometimes i get a reaction but right now i texted her last and she just got home from her trip i assumed she was sleeping but i saw she was tweeting. Alot but not responding. ..... i put alot of bad it here but i gotta add some good... she did text me a video last night where at the end she pulled up her shirt.

It's really not up to you to want this girl. You sounded like you are very possessive and controlling like "I want this girl". Is this what she is thinking that she is afraid to be with you because you snoop around knowing where she is going and what she is doing with her friends? You've got to really relax. You can't control her life and you can't run her life. Doing that will just push her away from you. Did you have the same insecurities with the first girl you lost?

Tell her and trying to get her to fix the issues is not the answer. Sometimes people think that relationship failure is due to the woman not understanding the man. But rarely does the man know that he causes the relationship to fail and try blaming the woman for not understanding. Man leads the relationship. Teacher leads students. If students fail, blame the students or the teacher? Woman fell out of love; that's the job of the man that is supposed to keep her interest level high. Being possessive and controlling can be a downer for relationships. Could this be some of the issues with your previous relationship.
What I found is that, you can lead people into love, but you can not force or control people into love. Eventually that control will be lost.

This is a problem with most of this article. They assume sex = love. If that's what you think love is all about, then you really don't know anything about love is. Where is it in the bible that specifically said love is all about sex?

Shaving her thing is not really an issue here. The question is, do you trust her? If you do, you have nothing to worry about. Like you said, she done this before, and still, you have no problems with her, right? Your just insecure dude.You are afraid that someday, when she comes back, there is something different from her. Trust your feelings and your instincts, not your insecurities.

Yeah. Any article with solid references to scientific research must be full of crap. I'll probably write to the author and tell him how uneducated he is.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Any opinion based on research is just that, an opinion. If you think you want a short term relationship, you get a short term relationship which is what a PUA wants. If you think long term, you get long term so you don't need a rocket scientist research report to do that. Relationship stops because you put limitation in your mind. Rich successful people do not put limitation in their minds how much they make. That is the difference between you who works low menial wages compared to someone who makes a million bucks. Relationship is no different. Just because someone puts a limit on how much they make does not mean it's true research, the same way as someone thinks 2 years is the limit. Remember that it takes 2 to tango in the relationship. The man and woman must have the same intent. What's her intent?
Her intent is driven BY her interest level in you; not sex. What's the drive for rich people? To make lots of money. You don't need rocket scientish research paper to do that.

Secondly and since I'm probably a heck of a lot older than you are, teenagers especially girls around 20s to mid 20s are in their development stages. They want to explore and try new things and they are not willing to tie down to a man and be their wives or permanent GFs and so, they can act like this girl here. It is completely normal. The key is not to be possessive and controlling to her but to continue to be a challenge to her and continue to be exciting in her life. If you try to be possessive and controlling, all they're going to do is live a miserable life with you and then 5 to 10 years later, you'll be greeted by the divorce court, which btw is very favorable to women. You pay her. Trust me, you'll see the injustice these judges are to men, eventhough the women they loved cheated with another man!

Ok. The articles were asked for my intrest not so much for this situation tjank you though..

*update* im am heading home from my baseball trip. I told her i was coming bacj and she actually made the arrangements to come over tomorrow. Obv i am hoping things go well but i am trying to keep this appraoch up with her so i dont look or feel so needy or "controlling".... any tips there????

O and i have a fewling she is going to try a lil resistance to sex i hope not but if she does how should i act about this because we havent seen each other in alnost a week and we usually fuck almost everytime i see her. It would throw up hugeconcern for me on why she wouldnt want it ya know..

Thanks for your advice ahead of time...