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you and this chick are both young, she is 18, don't expect any 18 year old to take a relationship serious, I personally love 18 year old girls, but I know damn well to expect ho'ish behavior from them, it is surprising that you are surprised, most either cheat or end the relationship in a matter of months so they can go ho around with their friends

this girl cheated on you, why you even need all this closure, and revenge, and information on how and why is sort of silly, fact is, she did shit with another guy when she was committed to you, this is not the other guys fault, it is her fault, don't try to rationalize this any other way, she doesn't need to see the error of her ways, you do, and you need to move on and stop seing this girl, she will do it again, that you can be sure of

you got some wicked one-itis for this girl, get the hell away while you can or you are going to get cuckolded and enjoy it, you don't want to be that guy commited to some chick, saying it is ok that she cheats we are in an open relationship, meanwhile nothing is open on your end, and you are not even talking to other girls and are totally in love with this girl that just uses you as the backup bootycall plan for when she doesn't find dick on friday nights party

you even have said it yourself, you know what you have to do, listen to your damn instincts, not your emotions, you need to get inside another vagina quickly so you can view this whole situation objectively from a more dis-connected point of view, and if you are going to continue to fuck in the 18-24 yr old range, don't commit overly to them always be finding new ones, if you want some solid commitment, 26+ is a good place to start, young girls are human, think of them like guys, they are horny and want to fuck every half decent dick that walks past them, they just need and excuse to pull it off and not look slutty, as long as it is not their fault they can rationalize it that way, don't fall into their trap of rationalizing it the same way, having two drinks and one thing lead to another does not excuse tripping and falling down on a dick... twice, with a guy she just met, expect nothing but fun and no strings when dealing with the young ones, they are just booty calls, not your next wife

don't worry about it either, the next hot young girl that lets you smash it from the back will make you feel the same way, she will be the next AMAZING GIRL, WHO IS NICE, WHO I JUST LIKE HER PERSONALITY, EXCEPT IF SHE WAS UGLY I WOULD WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH HER, those feeling will come up every time you invest emotionally in a girl who you are having sex with, learn to deal with them and see them for what they are, don't let your emotions lead you down a self-destructive path

GOOD LUCK

Since no one on this forum takes real advice I will try use reverse physiology. I can totally tell you will take her back.

I think you should totally forgive this girl. She is just young and at the age of experimenting, it's natural. Who cares about being hurt? The pain will go away and all there will be left is trust issues, not a big deal man!. Think about it, she will likely only cheat on you 10-15 more times and then break up with you 1 year later. So you have a whole year with her Enjoy it man!!

I also love how you dealt with that guy that openly stated he fucked your girlfriend. It was very mature of you to be so polite and understanding with him. He seems like a nice boy and was pretty humble about the whole thing. I think he deserves for you to take him out for a beer to make him feel better about what he did! People have feelings you know

Maybe I don't understand you people on this forum because I have to much respect for myself, but seriously grow a fucking pair of balls. All the "Alpha" bullshit talk will never cover up all the shit I can tell about your personalities just by reading a scenerio. Tough love is a bitch when you hit rock bottom, but trust me its the best thing for you. I suggest you don't keep her on the side, don't fuck her anymore and zero contact. Unless you want to be a you want to be writing thses types of question on this forum for the next 10 years.

I hope that everything works out for you! Have fun for now and try to heal up.

I like it how you put it the first time. You are right. Of course you are. But like I said, could I just now have it as friends with benefits? I don't have strong feelings for her, she just lives above me and SPAM im not in the mood to fuck other girls. I just have fun with her. That's it. Not emotionally attached.

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Don't lie to yourself man. I know seeing how sorry she feels feeds your ego now. It's a mind trick you thinking that you don't have any feelings for her. You just want her to apologize one million times, tell you you're the best, it was a huge mistake, she's so devastated to lose you and you think you'll feel like the man if you keep her around as fb, but punish her emotionally for what she did. It won't help. The damage is done. She might be a good person, it's not about that. You might not get over this even if you fuck 10 other women or if you mindfuck her for months to come. It just takes time to get over a thing like this. You may delude yourself, but just accept the pain and let it pass through you. It's ok to feel sad, then angry, then indifferent, then hopeful, then optimistic and then happy with yourself. Go through that cycle on your own. This shit hurts, no way around that. You will never be able to punish her enough, it won't help.
Get her out of your life ASAP. If you don't feel like being with other girls, then don't, be alone. It's not even about teaching her a lesson, it's about getting your self-respect back. Punishing her won't do that, it will just stroke your ego.
Let her go man, go through this thing alone, heal and get back out there healthy and strong. It's ok to forgive her when the time comes. Then you'll know you are whole again, when you truly forgive her. Just go through the cycle alone.

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

I'm only going to address the STI clinic issue since it's obvious you will keep fucking this girl.

Make sure she tests for everything, including HPV & Herpes type I & II (not included in standard STD tests).

If she caught anything from this guy, it won't show in blood tests for a while, but she would still be contagious. Very contagious, actually, since people are most contagious right after they catch an STD.

And dude, having a woman who doesn't use condoms with anybody as a FB is just not smart.

Just booked an STD test. A full one. heps, hivs, crabs, claps, everything She said that there is no test for HPV as everyone has it.

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Wow, guess you really aren't taking peoples advice to leave her. Wll good luck with this one lol

lol this is going to turn out bad man, you are not de-tached from this girl and your feeling will only get stronger, and when she keeps cheating, the situation will only get worse and make you feel even worse, I hope she doesn't do something gross to fuck with you, like swallow some over dudes load and make out with you, or keep letting guys cum inside her then if she gets preggos try to tell you that it belongs to you

That`s exactly what happened to my friend, his gf cheated on him but latershe was given another ``chance`` by him,and the strory repeated countless times ,maybe that girl fucked half of my buddies lol! If i was a girl i would do the same ,it would be pure gold to find a boyfriend that allows me to fuck with anyone i want and still respect and act as if nothing happened,i just have to shed a little bit of tears and promise him that it'll never happen again hahahahhahaha

Move on.

I was in the same situation as you were. We were together for 2 years, I used to think she was the most gorgeous girl in the world but now when I think of her I puke.

It's a cycle bro its better to forget her early than late. Trust me it's going to be a torture if you don't.

To the op...

Listen, what you are going through is tough, the guys giving you such strong advice have all been in your shoes at some point.

If I was you I would never talk to her again unless it's a polite hello in a social setting. I would be too disgusted to even look at her for a while. For girls these things will hurt the most because they like to keep up the appearance of being prim and proper. I have the feeling that she wants you back because she does have some feeling towards you but also because she hates the image of being a bitch infront of her friends....she's immature remember

You may be correct that she never cheats in a relationship again but this will only happen if you leave her therefor making her learn that there are repercussions for mistakes! Unfortunately for you if you take her back her respect for you will be lower dispite her claims.

End it and go out with the lads a few times. Just try and enjoy yourself and act like nothing she does or says will ever matter to you! Your value will rise in her eyes and more importantly her friends eyes...

Like I said, if she caught anything from this guy it won't show on blood work yet.

Ask yourself this, though. Considering how involved you are, would it make a difference if the tests came back positive? If not, then why even bother with the tests.

GL, man. All the best.

not true, and not true

there IS a test for hpv (although you won't always show positive)

and not everybody has hpv (there are dozens of strains anyway, so it's irrelevant, some cause nothing, some cause cold sores, some cause anogenital warts, and others cause cancer)

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lol no they don't. In women it can cause cervical cancer so it's kinda a big deal...

I know your hurting and in a few months you'll see clearly but you got to have some pride about yourself. Your gf just got railed by another guy.. tried to lie about it and your hugging her?? I understand your a nice guy and thats great. Believe me in the long run thats good... But this is too much. You need to pick your balls up and tell this chick to peace out. She's going to have you tied around her little finger before you know it. Her mindset will be.. We'll I can screw other guys and he'll still be around. Your just setting yourself up for more hurt and pain. And yes your still emotionally attached to her. You can tell yourself that all you want but it doesn't change the fact of the matter. It's kind of like hearing a girl say, "I'm so ready to move on" every 10 mins when a guy dumps her... She's lying to herself just like you are.