I'm not sure what your point is here. Your asking me to give up the strong feelings I have for her. I know married couples who work together and are perfectly happy. The workplace is where most people spend most of their time. I'm sure there are tons of stories of people who fall in love at work.

I want to thank everyone for their incites. I appreciate it. I think there's a lot that could be talked about this subject...

I want to give an update on this situation because of all of the negative predictions that were said.

UPDATE:

We have been seeing each other and we both get along great. Because of the complexity of the situation, we did move things VERY slowly, but we have been going out. We haven't had one issue so far of the negative predictions that were mentioned "could" happen.

Like I said, I think we are sincerely in love. The difficulty of the situation is how slowly things move... As, it is still a "secrete" at work.

PS, my last post was posted about a year after this thread was created.

See the thing is , you create your reality and what you bring into it, random people are not in a position to tell you how things will or will not go, despite what the "pua's" have to say...

Me and my girl have been dating for almost 10 months now, we met at work... it can be exciting and thrilling but risky at the same time... ive seen the ups, and the downs of having a girl that works in the same place.... if you can manage to not make a big deal out if it if shit goes sour, you'll be fine... and dont go running around telling everyone your dating, keep it on the down low.... at least at work.

All in all we're pretty happy and theres alot of love between us, but you really gotta weigh the pro's and con's.... because ive seen how its like when your going through a rough time and have to see each other everyday there and it sucks.

Just follow your heart and remember do not make a big deal or make it obvious at work!

Awesome! Good to hear a success story! Funny, how that was what I was looking for when I created this thread in the first place.

If you want to explain what kind of work you are in that would be interesting, would love to hear some more details about it.

I was thinking about the same thing lately. I've started working for this firm and 90% of employees are hot women in their 20s. It's feels like heaven going to work. I know it's a bad idea to get involved at work, but what if the firm is big and you don't have to deal with these girls professionally? You meet them at the cafeteria and both of you work in your respective departments? I've noticed many people from work hang out privately. There is also another problem, I'm not out in my workplace, people have no idea I'm a lesbian. It's risky to come out to anybody because everybody will know and I'm not ready to come out, or may chose to never come out. If I'm hijacking the thread, I'll post in a different place, but I wanted to know your opinion. It's so easy to develop a crush at a workplace, long hours, the solidarity that inevitably develops etc. etc.

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I sat across from a girl that I had some attraction towards for about 9 months, and I thought lots about making some kind of move but I didn't because I wasn't sure it would work out and I didn't want to deal with the fallout. My colleague said to me "you need to be sure" and he was very right. I wasn't, so I didn't. Now she works in another department and I'm mostly relieved.

I knew a couple that worked together in a previous company I worked for and they seemed to do fine. However, they were quite simple and not very emotional people who knew how to keep things straightforward, which not everybody does.

@Txacoli - maybe another thread is warranted here? I knew a girl at a previous workplace who was an out lesbian and proud and she had no problems. She had a photo of her girlfriend on her desk in fact. She wasn't dating anyone in the workplace though so hard to comment on that. As for coming out, might be an idea. Someone will catch you checking out someone's ass (if they haven't already) and will put two and two together. Might as well be honest about it.

it's like candy that causes cancer,

tastes soooo good while you're eating it, you want to go back for more... but you know it's not good for you, it causes cancer...

ALWAYS HAS TURNED OUT BAD... EVERY TIME

fucking at work causes cancer

I don't intend to come out, though it is hard to keep my wandering look from all the boobs around me I think I'll stick to non-work related girls, this is too risky, you all are right! Thanks

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.