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I know that guys don't have a friendzone. But as a BF you really shouldn't care about thsoe guys who want to fuck your GF.
If things are going well, your GF should automatically drop those guys. Not in one week, but in months.
But i will never ask my GF to cut every contact with 1 or 2 male friends she had for over 10 years.
And the fact that those 1 or 2 guys would like to bang her doesn't influence this decision, cause they are friend-zoned, their attraction to her is not mutual, and most importantly I AM fucking her.
I believe I already said, "This is that grey area, where conquering one's insecurities meets upholding one's boundaries."
If you'd rather see this as being insecure, that's fine, maybe that's the way to go based upon your specific situation. But just as likely is the other side, where you could just as easily view this as disrespectful behavior on her part.
It depends entirely upon the woman, the male friends, and the context. Maybe your girlfriend does have a purely platonic relationship with her male friends and there is no mutual attraction. Perhaps she is an exception to this rule.
But now pretend for one second that that was not the case. What if she didn't drop those guys? And what if the attraction was mutual, just not acted upon? You're telling me, you would be fine with your gf being surrounded by guys who want to fuck her, and whom she may want to fuck back, and let them continue seeing each other? And you'd be fine with that?
The problem is that you are using your current woman as a reference point for this scenario, and perhaps she is an exception to this and you've built up enough trust with her, that you don't have to worry.
But the average girl on the street is a different story. Women don't like to leave relationships, until they have something else lined up. So they either make a friend or turn to an existing friend they're interested in, build up a basis for a relationship, leave their boyfriends, and pursue something new with the new friend. Or they go back to someone, they've been with before because it's safe. Either way, they test the waters first to see if what they could have with the new guy, would be better or worse than what they have with their boyfriends. Women are constantly chasing that "butterfly feeling" in their stomach, and the "newness" and excitement of a new relationship. And there are a lot of guys out there who know this and exploit this, in order to steal other guys girls.
Think about this, what happens when you and your girlfriend have a fight? Then she turns to one of her close guy friends to confide in and console her. Do you want her being around another guy when she's mad at you and vulnerable and lost. What happens when she realizes how bad you made her feel, and how much her friend is cheering her up. It's very easy in this emotional state for a woman to lose sight of what she values.
And that's just one scenario. What happens when they all go out and you can't make it. And they are having a blast and she gets drunk, and she's lonely because you're not there. But her guy friends are their cheering her up and taking care of her. How easily would it be for this situation to go wrong?
I have seen these things happen all the time.
Yeah, you are fucking her. But that means nothing. One of the first things you learn when you start pua, is that women are much more scandalous than you would assume. Read "Red Queen". You can never possess or completely control another human being. Even if you are "fucking her", she still may cheat or leave you.
Don't believe that's fine. But how many times do you hear about a girl leaving her man for his best friend? Why because the guy thought she would be safe with his best friend, and allowed them to get close.
CHAT
