So my gf and i recently went a on vacation together with a group of 6 people. It was 3 couples including us but everyone else had known each other a long time so i was kinda like the 6th wheel sometimes if that makes sense.

Anyways one of her friends was being a complete cunt the entire trip even to my girl at time. I was baffled at how she was treating her bf and how he was just taking it. In essence, she ruined the entire vacation with her horrible mood and this drove a wedge between us. I believe she was the one pulling the strings to have my gf break up with me.

After the trip my gf was acting weird and i knew she was having doubts due to the bad vacation, so i told her not to text me for weekend. Well she texts me the next day and i can tell she's still not herself so i get her to just open up about how she feels and get it over with. In texts she told me she still loves me but is unsure about the summer and me not wanting to do things with her friends. We go back and forth and eventually she calls me and says im not gonna like how the convo ends. I tell her before she breaks up with me i want to hear he say she doesn't love me, which she slowly mutters out through an avalanche of tears.

Whatever, i cry like a little bitch and she texts me 15min later saying shes sorry. I respond with an inside joke about us and tell her its been a good ride. She texts me again to which i dont respond, she texts me again asking if im gonna hate her, i tell her its fine and we both should just chill out. She now won't stop texting me. I respond succinctly, just act like shes just a guy friend, and always one to stop the texting. She just won't stop texting me, like every 3 hrs i get another text about plans to pick up my stuff which is like a week in the future. She sends me snapchats of her dog giving her the cold shoulder after we break up and another of mexican food saying its her comfort food. While i type this i just got another snap after i haven;t responded to her in 5 hrs.

Last night she told me she gets that im mad(?) and me acting like i dont care is making her feel like shit. Now i know im in the drivers seat and obviously she still has feelings for me but what's my next move. I want her back but i just want to do it right so im in more control of our relationship from this point forward.

So she just sent me a long text saying she hasnt been able to gauge how im feeling and this is hurting her a lot and she didnt expect me to take it so well and its making her think that ive never cared. She said she doesnt want us both to hate each other and that this will be the last she says of anything

How do you think the cunt friend pulled the strings to break you guys up?

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I had an issue with her and talked a little shit on her. My guess is she also had an issue with me and my ex had to choose who to side with.

Can you help with this current situation, i feel like ive pushed her to her brink here. I just replied and asked if she was okay and that we can talk about it if she wants

I'm a firm believer in not verbally trying to change anyone's mind about how they feel about a relationship. It will make her more determined to stick with the decision that she made. Tell her that you wish the break up didn't happen but you respect her decision and wish her well.

I know it's not what you want to hear but it's a better stance for you to take.

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No i agree that she has to reach that conclusion on her own but i can tell she's really hurting almost as if she never wanted this to happen. I told my friends about it and they said it sounds like i broke up with her. Idk i guess i'll just be a passive therapist and keep playing it cool

No. You need to separate yourself from the situation even if she is hurting. SHE made the decision to break up regardless of what your friends say it sounds like and you need to let her get through it without your help. All "passive therapist" means is that you're going to wait for your moment to get her back.

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thanks

Yeah just back out of it. It sucks but she chose it. You can't allow her to take her friend's side and then use you being there for emotional support.

After i asked her if she was okay she said she just got out of work. I didnt reply. she sent another saying shes collected all my things and asked if shes missing any, i made a joke but told her i think its everything. She then texted me twice again saying that i should reply to her long text and that blowing it off (what i did) will make it easier for her (sarc). I just told her i wish the breakup didnt happen and that i respect her decision and good luck.

I got a short "alright." as a reply. I'm sure there will be a fury of texts soon to come in the next day. Do i just continue to ignore her until/if shes changes her mind about this.

As Jack told you months ago:
Why did you waste the guy's and everyone else's advice?!

Chick dumped you. I dont know which is worse; whether she did it for her or because of her friend. Either way, move on. Block and move on. You really are waiting for things to change with a chick who dumped you over a friend?

Move on.

LOL@"passive therapist" I resent that.

You sure you want her back? Why? She dumped you for a friend.

And even if she didn't. She dumped you. Now she's looking up to you to make it easier on her? Lol.

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