I know that it's NEVER a good idea to chase women, especially when they no longer want to see you, but what if it's because you messed things up?

Long story short, I was dating a girl for a month, we went on a bunch of fun dates, had sex, but over the course of the month I noticed her interest level dropping (I know it was because I was too available, and prob came off as a little needy at times). I basically stopped texting her around this time, and if I would she would ignore it half the time, but she still wanted to get together..About a week ago, I asked her why she's been so distant and she told me her feelings just aren't as strong as mine, and she was trying to figure things out..I basically told her I was done because I felt an impending breakup on the horizon and felt like she was playing games. Apparently this really upset her, and when I reached out to talk to her last night she said (over text) "she would agree to get together to talk" but then a minute later send "there's really nothing to talk about, we should "prob go our separate ways at this point."

This all happened right around Valentine's Day. I shouldn't have walked away from this girl like that, I was being a beta b*** the past few weeks, and realize I also shouldn't have contacted her again after I decided to walk away, but the thing is I really like this girl. Since I messed up, should I just let her reach out to me or should I really try getting together to talk?

Yes I already know I suck with women especially when I really like them.

The best way to change a woman's mind, is to agree with her.

She has your number, your mission to fuck things up is now complete. Try again.

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Just talk to her and be patient. Don't rush things like making conclusions. Everyone needs some time to recover when disappointed.

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Sounds like a generic/cut-and-paste response you use to bring attention to the crappy dime a dozen ebook in your sig.

Dude, you were seeing her for a MONTH. That is nothing. You smothered her with the Debbie Downer talk. When it's only been a month, embrace the silence and let her get back to you. In most situations, the first month both people are trying to figure it out.

You got super needy.

Her attraction for you is gone. Why are you forcing Debbie Downer talks so early on?



There are two simple rules for how a man responds to a woman who dumps him:

1. If she dumped you for being cold, but the sex was hot and often, by all mean chase her and show vulnerability and tell her how you feel. You'll get her back.

2. If you were dumped by a girl for being needy, and the sex was infrequent, just okay, and passion was just okay, it's over.

Let this be a lesson to learn how to remain emotionally-centered. 9's and 10's will me merciless towards you otherwise in the beginning. and one month is definitely the beginning.

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Funny how both scenarios you'd painted involve the guy doing something wrong, yet fail to include situations where the fault in that the partnership was just a poor fit, or the girl is fucked in the head and the rel isn't worth salvaging.

On another note, the 2 situations you'd posted above indicate a scarcity mindset.

That is a valid observation. However, in the context of this forum, we never get the woman's side of the story. Also, we can never truly control women.

All we can control is how we show up, so I will always offer feedback based on this.

Also of note, is that when you become fit enough, emotionally-centered, good in bed, and dominant with abundance mentality, women will not bail on you. They'll cling to you.

This entire process is one of constant upward movement to achieve that goal. And while it may sometimes be the woman's fault or a poor fit, using those as excuses not to personally evolve is damaging.

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I get it. It's exceedingly difficult to tell what's going on beyond the person's experience on this board. I'd be curious to know the women's side of things, but that's not possible (certainly not beyond behavioral descriptions and things stated).

Its never as simple as one person being at fault, of course. Both people can use it as a growth opportunity (or not) they can carry forward on their journey. Whether they stay with the person or not, in the grande scheme of things is often trivial.


BTW you may want to consider tweaking your "Life Coach" to something more niche specific, and offer a few 'carrots' to entice someone to click your sig/any links u have.

Thanks for the responses, every single one was really good. I've def had some issues in the past year especially early on when I meet someone-they usually start really hot with me then grow cold within a few weeks-even if I totally back off...

Most of the girls I go for are 9s or 10s, friends and family always get on me and say I go for the super model looking girls but I can't help what I'm attracted to..maybe they are just out of my league haha. Regardless, I know I need to work on not being so clingy in the beginning. I'm just going to forget this girl at this point. Thanks again.

Thanks.

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