Backstory:
1. met girl that was super into me
2. I was pretty attracted to her, so I was willing to go faster to get to know her.

Red Flags early on:
1. she did want to be exclusive after 3rd date, which was fast
2. she bought a ton of coke on our 3rd date, and I know she did it 3 straight weekends we were dating. after she said she hadn't done it in a year.
3. she was going to court with her ex bf and didn't want to go into details as she didn't want me to lose interest. said it was her getting a restraining order against him.

So, there was red flags, but we had a lot of fun together, she treated me extremely well. better than any girl ever has

Fall out:
1. first time we tried to have sex, it was after a beer fest and I had whisey dick
2. the second time she gave me a bj and I don't get off on bj's. not all the way and she was really pressuring me about it. I didn't really think twice about this shit tho
3. the third time, she wanted me to stick it in with like no foreplay so I wasn't all the way hard and I was trying to make her feel easy, saying I'm just a bit nervous as I like you, etc. and she responded with well lets not have sex for months. I tried to talk to her about this twice after and she said its fine, lets not talk about it
4. she was being even nicer, and going out of her way in every other aspect , so I wasn't sweating it
5. the last time I was in bed with her, she reached over and said youre not even hard. lets not have sex for months. and when on this big tangent about how I need to feel comfy and its not a big deal.
6. I kind of shut down at this point and didn't talk about it in person, I guess I was frustrated/hurt
7. we talked later about it , but she was like ok, w/e not a big deal, lets not talk about it anymore.
8. that's when I ended things as I was frustrated she refused to talk about this and kept freaking out in bed saying that my dick isn't hard and how we shouldn't have sex for a few months until I'm more comfortable with her.

was this something if I was less emotionally invested/more stable about, that it would of worked out?