I received a text from a girl who recently didn't know what she wanted anymore me and her dated for around 6 months. She moved back home to Finland recently and working up towards that point started to have mixed feelings. She rang me 3 times last night and then sent me this text I'm not too sure how to act from receiving this?

'Hey I'm sorry for being like this. I just came home and even though I've had a good night I've been thinking about you all the time. I don't know what's wrong. And for some reason I ended up going home with a 60 year old woman who gave me a hug outside the door. I miss you. Right now I need to be with me. I'm not going to lie, I've never felt more loved. More appreciated by anyone in my life, if I could describe my dream guy it would be you. It is what it is. For now I need to be with my best friend, my cousin who you met and claire who is giving birth the 16th, it's too much going on. I am sorry and please don't think of me as a heartless person because I am not. You.. Are special to me. And I don't event want to continue this sentence cause it's too hard. Just know that no guy have ever meant this much to me, ever. And I have no intentions of meeting anyone right now. Not at all. You are the only one for me I'm sorry it was like this but do not think I care for someone else for me there is only you.'

Her cousin also has cancer who is pregnant just so you understand a little more. I don't know what to reply back? Or do I?

Thanks guys!

She doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, though doesn't want to hurt you.

She cares about you but you a relationship with you isn't what she's wanting right now, for whatever reason.

"I can see you certainly care a great deal for me, I feel the same towards you. It is clear that now is not a good time for us to pursue a relationship. I wish you well:)"

If a women makes it clear she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, why think twice about it? Don't cheat yourself pursuing her when you can find someone who does. Her loss, not yours!

Hello,

Is your girl Finnish or foreigner living in Finland? Story lacks a bit of background, but for what I understood it sounds like she was exchange student in other coutry and now came back to Finland

I am from Spain but have lived here in Finland for more than 10 years, so I have a bit of insight info about Finnish girls.

First would be to ask the OP, what did you decide after those 6 months relation? Was there any commitment to continue long distance or that you would be in the same country again?

It seems to me that was not the case. Let me tell you that most of Finnish girls are really non the most mentally stable, almost like 8 out of 10 here have some kind of bipolarism problem. The line from loving you to cutting contact with you is really very thin. They can tell you that you are the best man they ever met and then 5 days later be fucking some other dude not answering your messages with no remorse whatsoever.

I am sorry to break the news and hope that I am wrong but for what you describe, it sounds just like the typical female attitude that during the first days after the separation she needs your moral support and feel desired, but at the same time she is preparing the road to let you go definitely off her mind. Almost 100% of the times I heard a chick here telling something like "I am not planning to meet anybody else", it means they are totally planning in the near future meeting somebody else.

Take also into account that alcohol and casual fun are really widespread here and chicks have no moral problems to have random encounters.

As I said, I may be wrong if you planned something to be together in the mid term, but so far sounds to me that if the situation is just that you met abroad and you "dated" for half a year, it was a kind of "Erasmus flinch" and there are many possibilities that the communication from here side will fade away in a few weeks. My 2 cents. Just be ready for that.

She doesn't want to hurt your feelings so she's going easy on you.

She wants to be single.

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Let her strings go bro, leave her little space, give her a gift to miss you. IMO it is not so desperate sutuation.

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