No I mean what do you want? Do you want to see other women?

sent you a PM neo

Can't reply properly now but post it here.... There are many other opinions and that's how you get the best advice

This is something I am currently struggling with Lol.

This new girl (the one I have been talking about in this post) has some pros and cons.

Pros - She is super smart, Beautiful (great smile), gets my humor (teases me ect), we have natural chemistry, she is fun, funny, athletic (we both played college basketball) invests in me, and is a girl who has great morals and values - someone I can really trust long term.

Cons- Her body type (for being an athlete) is surprisingly around a 6 to 7 out of 10. She is not "fit" or "skinny" but rather average to slightly below average in body type. I know, am I seriously complaining about this? sounds super shallow...But honestly the sexy just isnt that good... yet? maybe itll get better? This is really the only thing "lacking" in the entire relationship but it is a BIG part in my opinion.

Anyone here ever have an amazing girl but the physical attraction just wasnt 100% there?

thoughts?

Bang her, sure, but who wants to settle for less? I want a Corvette, but the Impala is fine. Naw!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

There are no pros and cons to attraction. Its either there or it's not, it is not a rational process.

The poor sex could be a result of you being too much in your head (I'm talking about the one not in your pants).

If you're not attracted to her, then why care if she wants to be serious? Do you? Its up to you what you want.

The poor sex could be a result of you being too much in your head (I'm talking about the one not in your pants).[/quote]


Being in my head is probably true to an extent.

However, This girl is just not as "freaky" as other girls I have dated... and so again its "different" - The sex just isnt as HOT as I have had in the past... but to solve this issue ill just keep introducing her to things I like in the bedroom and see what happens.

I totally agree...but if this girl would hit the gym for the next 3 months she would be the Corvette... shes seriously not far off.

You're not all that attracted to her physically, if that hasn't changed yet it likely won't save for her becoming a gym rat for the next while which is unlikely seeing as she's in the last stretch of a doctoral program.

If she's not what you want consider tossing her back and finding someone who meets your criterion. Go to the gym meet some gym bunnies, or a cross fit class. It's crazy the number of chicks out there who are fitness oriented, at least where I am - a dime a dozen. I've seen hotties come into the gym in groups with gym meme t-shirts going at it (not that way) on the squat rack for a good hour or so (bit too hardcore for me). No shame in admitting that you don't find her physically attractive but you can't force her to live to your standard.

That said, there's no harm in expressing to her that you aren't feeling as attracted to her as you once did (did you?), and that if she lost weight or whatever that would help. Yea it might illicit a slap to the face, but who knows she may say to you "Yea, I know I've let myself slip and have been feeling kinda crappy about it the past while maybe I can hit the gym with you a few times a week and help motivate me?".

It's worth a shot.

Thanks for post void. I just think im really in my head about this whole situation.

I just think i need to keep going out and exploring what it is im really looking for and if this girl turns into something special, awesome, and if not, then there will always be another one.

P.S. - im not looking for some crazy crossfit girl either whos health obsessed... im just asking for a flat stomach and tight ass... not much to ask for right? haha

Grass is greener mentality...

The reality, however, is that you've known her 2 months if you aren't feeling she's awesome sauce already, chances are that won't change with time. Wouldn't you rather meet someone and be super excited off the bat? Sounds like you're lukewarm on this one, at best - the whole point you're here conveying this to a bunch of random people is rather telling, wouldn't you say?

Myself, i am really attracted to fit chicks. The gym is simply part of my lifestyle, and I want somebody who appreciates that, and also keeps fit themselves. I've no shame in admitting that, and I am pretty clear that's one of many criterion I seek in a partner. It is what it is.