can you help me please? ok guys, well I have been dating this girl that I described in a previous forum.

I feel like im starting to pysch myself out. up to this point I have been self amused and not thinking about what I say and what I do. I make sure that when I am with her that I can just really let go when im around her, but today Im starting to feel like stomach aches when I think about this girl.

I keep thinking about her a lot. more than usual. I didn't want to get into pick up to just find one girl and then stop. I couldn't concentrate on what i was doing. I keep thinking about when I was with her last Saturday, it has started to change the way I feel about her. the nice things that she said about me, the way that her protective nature kicked in when she noticed that I seemed uncomfortable around her roommates and got me out of there quick. the way that she kept making sure to ask if I was hungry or thirsty, the way that she caressed my hands long after I fell asleep next to her. im not used to someone saying such nice things about me and being so nice to me.

I don't know if I should feel this way after just a few long dates with someone, and whether or not it is going to get me in trouble.

Have you had sex with her yet? I don't agree with the typical pick up "if you don't fuck her you can't know her" thing, but have you? To me this is just scarcity induced oneitis.

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no I haven't slept with her yet. I mentioned in the other thread. Just impulsive, intense make out sessions so far until it isn't her time of the month. And scarcity, yes you are right. but what should I do about it? the way my schedule is I only have one night of the week to go out, maybe two. so I can either game other girls and possibly get nowhere, or go out with this girl.

Ya.... most people are bad at sex and sensuality I've found. The last girl I had sex with almost froze when I hit her with my D. When you find one that's sexual/sensual/sexy, she will stick out to you (like she has).

The woman I like the most, is very sensual like you describe. I don't let that blind me though, as she is by her own admission "a terrible girlfriend" for every other reason (no job, no aspirations, pot head, fucking around with other ppl).

Doesn't sound like you've had sex to me. If you had, you wouldn't have made this anxiety post.

Anyway, to help out, you have to really think about what you want and see what she will go for. If she is not the open relationship type of girl, then you would have to sneak around behind her back which obv can get messy. If she is, then no problem. You can go on seeing other people.

From what you've said though, sounds like you're very young and immature, which is not the good foundation for something lasting (which can happen). Seems like you recognize that she is special which might I mind my friend, the grass is always greener... and the grass is green where you water it.

Until this girl mentions a relationship, you're not in one. She'll bring it up as soon as she's ready and I hope to God you've had sex with her first. So until then, you should be actively going after other girls. I don't care what excuses you try to give as justifications for why you can't do it. yes you can.

80% approaching
10% Tinder and PoF
10% social circle
0% work unless you work in a bar or something.

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84% approaching
10% online
5% ppl you know
1% work - if it's big enough and you're not directly working with that person

5% people you know? I think a lot more, definitely. 10% is the bare minimum lol. I only said 10% to emphasise the importance of meeting new girls. Also I don't suggest work to guys unless I know they're not going to go out and get oneitis and fuck their life up.

If I was currently fully single and had been actively "gaming" girls for say 6 months, in my case it'd be more:

30% approaching
20% online
50% social circle (this includes texting girls I've already fucked, going on dates with them etc etc)

If I was newly single, like 3 days, it'd be more like this:

75% approaching
25% online (10% of this is texting girls I already know and bla bla)

It's sad to throw the numbers around like this, but it's the quickest way to give a general idea.

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